Man who proposed to girlfriend at friend's wedding vilified

[ddi741]

Man who proposed to girlfriend at friend's wedding vilified on the Internet

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This was a real indecent proposal.



A man has drawn a lifetime's worth of critics who saw an online picture of his marriage proposal -- during another couple's wedding, right in front of their table -- and could not wrap their minds around his apparent betrothal faux pas.



The newly engaged lass is seen covering her mouth in shock and awe, though she may be the only one pleased with what is going down.



The bride and groom are in the backdrop, their faces plastered with smiles at the sight of another couple stealing their thunder.


Since the man in a blue shirt is already on one knee, perhaps he should have dropped to both, turned to the newlyweds and begged for their pardon.



The couple has not been identified but the image appeared on Reddit three days ago under the headline "Any Girl's Wedding Nightmare."



Some commenters on the post said they did not think the nuptial bombing was big deal, but hundreds more lambasted the couple for making someone else's moment about them.

"Nice way to upstage the happy couple's big day. Douche -.-" wrote poster emmalvv.



That was one of the nicer names he was called.



Others suggested the man should have offered to pay for the reception, since he made it about himself.



And apparently these two are not alone since others shared stories of similar instances.



"Was just at a wedding this past friday my buddy was about to propose to his girlfriend," another commenter said. "Myself and two other ppl got into an argument with him about how this is the wrong place at the wrong time. We managed to stop him but hes pissed at us for it."

[Deleted]

Who does this?

Last year at my cousins graduation party one of his soon to be in laws proposed to his gf in front of everyone. It was awkward. There are 365 days in a year. Let the kid have a party and do this tomorrow. Although her family is so selfish if it's not about them they don't want to be there.

Also of note my cousins gf announced she was pregnant about 2 hours later. It was just a really odd party.

[raangoli]

What was this guy thinking? Or clearly, he wasn't. I am surprised that the bride and groom are smiling. I would not have been. I'd be more like:  (huh)

[ddi741]

My friends SIL announced her pregnancy at my friend's rehearsal dinner, then spent the wedding day constantly saying "Oh I can't do that (dance, get her own food during the cocktail hour) I'm pregnant.

[mbcdefg]

Look at the bride's face in the background. She's totally like:

[orangello]

Our best man asked if he could propose at our wedding. I felt bad for saying no, especially since I wasn't much of a bridezilla, but I was like "WHY DO YOU WANT TO PROPOSE IN FRONT OF MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY???" So odd!

[lemons]

My SIL announced that she was going to get married and have a better wedding than we did during her "toast". She also mentioned that she'd have the next baby first. It was very awkward.

[cheezer]

May 28, 2015 9:53:36 GMT -5 @ffbride0813 said:

Who does this?

Last year at my cousins graduation party one of his soon to be in laws proposed to his gf in front of everyone. It was awkward. There are 365 days in a year. Let the kid have a party and do this tomorrow. Although her family is so selfish if it's not about them they don't want to be there.

Also of note my cousins gf announced she was pregnant about 2 hours later. It was just a really odd party.

Who wants to get engaged at a kids graduation party anyway?  Really romantic story.

[lemons]

May 28, 2015 10:32:32 GMT -5 @foodielicious said:

May 28, 2015 10:30:51 GMT -5 lemons said:

My SIL announced that she was going to get married and have a better wedding than we did during her "toast". She also mentioned that she'd have the next baby first. It was very awkward.

:?

That's what I picture your face was

And I can laugh about it now. She beat us with the next baby but already separated. I don't know whose wedding was better...but I can say ours was definitely very MM and we didn't go into debt for it. :-)

[monsterz]

My BIL proposed to my sister the day my other sister gave birth. It was strange timing. Sister 2 was upset that attention shifted from her and her daughter to the newly engaged couple.

[shamrockshake]

if you blow up the picture in the link you can see the brides face pretty well and it made me laugh, it's clearly the MOST "WTF" of all the wtf faces I have ever seen. she's not smiling, she's grimacing hardcore

[mbcdefg]

May 28, 2015 10:54:23 GMT -5 milsaroo said:

May 28, 2015 9:53:36 GMT -5 @ffbride0813 said:

There are 365 days in a year. Let the kid have a party and do this tomorrow.

See, I don't even care that it was the same day but AT the wedding, right in front of everybody is what I don't understand.

Agreed. On the wedding day wouldn't bother me. Making a big show out of it in front of the newlyweds' head table bothers me. 

I don't like people who need lots of attention. 

[aurora]

I get that most people consider this in bad taste and I definitely wouldn't do it, but I also wouldn't have been upset if two of my loved ones had gotten engaged at my wedding.

I do admit this is partly because I hate being the center of attention so anything that moved attention away from me that day was welcome.

[darkling_glory]

This happened at a wedding I was at. Though the proposer cleared it with the bride and groom beforehand. I still think it's weird.

I was also at an engagement party this past weekend where the future groom's cousin's girlfriend wore a white cocktail dress that was nearly identical to the one the future bride was wearing. It was not good.

[irene adler]

I'm just imagining what he said.

Imma gonna let you finish, but peachy here and me are gonna have the best wedding of all time.

[ECB]

May 28, 2015 10:04:52 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

I wouldn't have cared if it was my wedding. I mean, it was in poor taste, but I don't get the OUTRAGE either.

If it's cleared w the B&G, I don't see the big deal, TBH.  I think doing it and surprising EVERYONE w/ it is tacky, but if the B&G don't care, why should anyone else?

Even if someone did this at my wedding w/o clearing it w/ me - I probably wouldn't have cared.  I'm not a "thunder" person, though, so I wouldn't have been upset w/ sharing the spotlight.

[mbcdefg]

If I was the bride, the part that would piss me off wouldn't be that attention was being taken away from me ... it would be that these people (or at least the person proposing) would be thoughtless enough to do something that would make a LOT of people uncomfortable just to bring more attention to themselves. Does that make any sense? 

Attention hogs are a huge pet peeve of mine. Especially when people do something dumb or shitty to draw attention to themselves. Your self-esteem is so poor that you need to do something crappy or tacky in order to get everyone to focus on you? 

I don't care about sharing the spotlight. I DO care about people stealing the spotlight who haven't done anything to earn it. 

[msmerymac]

May 28, 2015 10:57:47 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

May 28, 2015 10:54:23 GMT -5 milsaroo said:

See, I don't even care that it was the same day but AT the wedding, right in front of everybody is what I don't understand.

Agreed. On the wedding day wouldn't bother me. Making a big show out of it in front of the newlyweds' head table bothers me. 

I don't like people who need lots of attention. 

Eh, I wouldn't like to do it before the wedding, since it would still be new and exciting and that's all you'd want to talk about at the wedding.*

BUT if you think weddings are really romantic and a good time to propose, maybe afterward at a nice bar/restaurant if the wedding ends early enough, or spend the night at the wedding hotel and have a nice brunch the next morning to do it at, or if it's an OOT wedding, turn it into a mini-vacation and it do it at some time over the trip that's not the 4-6 hours specifically that is celebrating someone else's marriage. 



*PS, my husband and I bought a ring and were "unofficially engaged" (H wanted to do a surprise popping of the question, but we were engaged for all intents and purposes otherwise) a few weeks before his cousin's wedding. I mentioned offhand to my now-MIL that we should have brought the ring to show her, and she made a remark about how me wearing an engagement ring would have overshadowed the cousin's special day. Just wearing it. At a wedding with almost 300 people.  *-)

[meij]

I'm glad my BIL was already engaged at our wedding because he would do this.

After we had our baby he FaceTimed with us we thought to see the new baby. Nope, he wanted to tell us they were having baby #2. He was like oh yeah, congratulations, guess what! I was a little WTF like you couldn't just let us have this day lol.

[mbcdefg]

May 28, 2015 11:49:04 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

May 28, 2015 10:57:47 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

Agreed. On the wedding day wouldn't bother me. Making a big show out of it in front of the newlyweds' head table bothers me. 

I don't like people who need lots of attention. 

Eh, I wouldn't like to do it before the wedding, since it would still be new and exciting and that's all you'd want to talk about at the wedding.*

BUT if you think weddings are really romantic and a good time to propose, maybe afterward at a nice bar/restaurant if the wedding ends early enough, or spend the night at the wedding hotel and have a nice brunch the next morning to do it at, or if it's an OOT wedding, turn it into a mini-vacation and it do it at some time over the trip that's not the 4-6 hours specifically that is celebrating someone else's marriage. 



*PS, my husband and I bought a ring and were "unofficially engaged" (H wanted to do a surprise popping of the question, but we were engaged for all intents and purposes otherwise) a few weeks before his cousin's wedding. I mentioned offhand to my now-MIL that we should have brought the ring to show her, and she made a remark about how me wearing an engagement ring would have overshadowed the cousin's special day. Just wearing it. At a wedding with almost 300 people.  *-)

That wouldn't even bother me. Showing up with a ring, or telling relatives you're newly engaged. Brides (and grooms I guess) who would get pissy at someone merely wearing her new e-ring to the wedding are just insane. 

It'd bother me if a newly engaged couple went out of their way to broadcast their engagement, or be all, "At OUR wedding we're going to do XYZ!" the whole time. Again - not because the spotlight is shared, but because they're going out of their way to hog it. I don't care about having the spotlight to myself but I definitely would care if someone made it a point to yank it out from under me just so they could feel better about themselves. 

[msmerymac]

May 28, 2015 11:48:10 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

If I was the bride, the part that would piss me off wouldn't be that attention was being taken away from me ... it would be that these people (or at least the person proposing) would be thoughtless enough to do something that would make a LOT of people uncomfortable just to bring more attention to themselves. Does that make any sense? 

Attention hogs are a huge pet peeve of mine. Especially when people do something dumb or shitty to draw attention to themselves. Your self-esteem is so poor that you need to do something crappy or tacky in order to get everyone to focus on you? 

I don't care about sharing the spotlight. I DO care about people stealing the spotlight who haven't done anything to earn it. 

Yeah, it's more like a combination of, "God, I'm so embarrassed FOR THEM," and also, "Hey, why I don't send you the photos of my photographer that I paid for capturing your proposal? Nice that you didn't have to secretly hire a photographer to capture the moment or anything, huh?"

(Okay, maybe not really to the second part. It would depend how BEC I was feeling about the couple in question.)

[msmerymac]

May 28, 2015 11:52:20 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

May 28, 2015 11:49:04 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Eh, I wouldn't like to do it before the wedding, since it would still be new and exciting and that's all you'd want to talk about at the wedding.*

BUT if you think weddings are really romantic and a good time to propose, maybe afterward at a nice bar/restaurant if the wedding ends early enough, or spend the night at the wedding hotel and have a nice brunch the next morning to do it at, or if it's an OOT wedding, turn it into a mini-vacation and it do it at some time over the trip that's not the 4-6 hours specifically that is celebrating someone else's marriage. 



*PS, my husband and I bought a ring and were "unofficially engaged" (H wanted to do a surprise popping of the question, but we were engaged for all intents and purposes otherwise) a few weeks before his cousin's wedding. I mentioned offhand to my now-MIL that we should have brought the ring to show her, and she made a remark about how me wearing an engagement ring would have overshadowed the cousin's special day. Just wearing it. At a wedding with almost 300 people.  *-)

That wouldn't even bother me. Showing up with a ring, or telling relatives you're newly engaged. Brides (and grooms I guess) who would get pissy at someone merely wearing her new e-ring to the wedding are just insane. 

It'd bother me if a newly engaged couple went out of their way to broadcast their engagement, or be all, "At OUR wedding we're going to do XYZ!" the whole time. Again - not because the spotlight is shared, but because they're going out of their way to hog it. I don't care about having the spotlight to myself but I definitely would care if someone made it a point to yank it out from under me just so they could feel better about themselves. 

In fairness, we were there for 2 days, because it was an OOT wedding, so lots of opportunity to mention/show it to MIL that wouldn't have been at the actual reception or anything. AND MIL had already told the rest of the family we planned to get married, which we did almost exactly a year later. 

[meij]

It is so MM though! Free engagement party! Free photographer to capture the moment! Free alcohol to toast your bride to be! Free lovely venue to propose at!

[msmerymac]

May 28, 2015 12:00:44 GMT -5 meij said:

It is so MM though! Free engagement party! Free photographer to capture the moment! Free alcohol to toast your bride to be! Free lovely venue to propose at!

You don't even have to pay for dinner!

[WOT?*]

The link has a different story now:

It appeared to many to be an indecent proposal when a man at a wedding reception got down on one knee and asked for his lady's hand in marriage, but it turns out the whole production -- which sparked scores of critical comments online -- was actually the bride's idea.

The Iowa woman who has watched her new fiancé become a lightning rod for criticism since the picture of his proposal emerged on Reddit, said the idea was suggested by the bride -- who happens to be her sister -- so they could share their special moment with the family.

“My fiancé told her he didn't want to ruin their day and she insisted it would only make it better!” the woman named Megan told the Daily News. “The groom of the wedding actually held my engagement ring the entire trip! Everyone in the Reddit picture knew the proposal was going to happen except for me!”

The picture, posted Monday under the headline "Any girl's wedding nightmare," generated a lengthy thread of speculation – much of it hurtful – by folks who said the couple was stealing the bride and groom’s thunder. Many of those people deemed the proposal to be ultimate betrothal faux pas.

"Nice way to upstage the happy couple's big day" wrote a poster named emmalvv, adding an unprintable name. Others suggested the man proposing should pay for the reception since he made it about him and some even wished bad fortune on their relationship.

The bride and groom don't seem angry with Megan here when they congratulated her after getting engaged at their wedding.

The two couples have known each other since Megan was a teenager and are 'incredibly close,' she said.

An Iowa woman, who along with her new fiancé, have been vilified online all week after a picture emerged on Reddit of him proposing to her at a wedding in front of the newlyweds said it was her sister, the bride’s idea to share their moment with the family..

The bride and groom don't seem angry with Megan here when they congratulated her after getting engaged at their wedding.

But the happy bride-to-be, who declined to give her last name, told the Daily News the whole idea originated with her sister.

Megan said she was the maid of honor at the wedding and her now-fiancé was the best man. The two couples began dating when Megan was a teenager and have grown “incredibly close” over the years, she said.

My fiancé told her he didn't want to ruin their day and she insisted it would only make it better!

The family is from Iowa and the wedding was in California. Megan said her fiancé told her older sister he was planning to propose on the beach, but the bride suggested he pop the question during her wedding reception.

When they get married they plan to have her sister and brother-in-law serve as maid of honor and best man.

Some speculated in comments on Reddit that the newlyweds were “faking a smile” in the picture, but Megan said that was far from the case.

Megan said the newlyweds will be the maid of honor and best man at her wedding.
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Megan said the newlyweds will be the maid of honor and best man at her wedding.

“She's actually trying not to cry because it was such a happy moment for all of us,” she said.

Megan sent additional pictures in which her sister and brother-in-law hugged her after the proposal.

The charges that they upstaged their family on their wedding day have been “heartbreaking,” she said, and have dampened what should have been one of their happiest moments.

“It was sad to see,” she said of the picture being posted on Reddit without any attempt to provide the appropriate context. “I guess if I didn't know the whole story, then I would feel the same way as some of them; however, I wouldn't voice my opinion about it because it's none of my business.”

She said she saw the post on Monday and hoped it would blow over, but felt the need to correct the critics after the negative commentary dragged on for days and started prompting media coverage.

“I just want everyone to know the story behind the picture,” she said.

But yeah, if the bride and groom aren't in on the plan, don't do it.

[ddi741]

So if I'm reading this correctly, it was the Bride's sister who wanted to upstage the bride

[mushmouse]

May 28, 2015 13:23:09 GMT -5 WOT?* said:

The link has a different story now:

Thank you!  I didn't see the original and I was wondering why no one here even read the story. LOL

[mbcdefg]

Well, at least the couple agreed to it. I'd still be really wary of doing that even with their approval, though. And the bride still totally looks like she's muttering through her teeth in that pic. But hopefully this is all true and they're all happy. 

My mom crashed the father-daughter dance at my wedding with my two siblings and did some sort of weird group hug/sway thing. When we got the pics back I saw a shot of my mom bum-rushing the dance floor and I'm looking at her with my mouth hanging wide open. And I didn't notice it at the wedding but my sister says she ran to sit back down while my mom started dancing with my brother for the rest of our song. In retrospect I'm not really mad (especially since my dad died a couple years after that) but my mom's got a history of being an AW so it really pissed me off at the time. A bunch of guests told me afterward that it was cute, and some thought it was planned ... MH said he was just sitting frozen at the head table grimacing, "Ooooh, SHIT." 

[WOT?*]

My favorite is still the gal whose MIL wore a white wedding-looking-dress to her wedding. Talk about trying to upstage the bride!
The photographer, iirc, photoshopped all the pics with MIL so her dress was blue instead of white. Almost as good as tv trays at Thanksgiving.

Not my story to tell (different board) but there are at least a couple ladies here who know the story better than I do. 

[Deleted]

Soooo.... I should us my brother's wedding as the opportunity to announce a pregnancy?!

*Note: I am NOT pregnant. I will have to hurry if my thunder stealing plans are going to pan out.