Need wedding help

[formerlyak]

I don't want to post this on the knot because some of those brides are a bit nutty. We have decided to invite the children of family (i.e. our cousin's kids) to our wedding. So not everyone is invited with their kids, just family. Because of this, we don't want to put kid's meal info on the general rsvp card because we don't want anyone to assume their kids are invited.

Also, the kids will not choose their meal ahead of time. They will get to order off the special kid's menu that day.

I am trying to figure out how to handle this. I was thinking an insert that says something like, "We would love for child and child to join the fun. Please indicate on your response card whether or not they will attend. You do not have to commit to a meal choice for them now. They will be asked to chose off a special menu the day of the event."

Would this make sense to you?

Only reason I am thinking about it now is the other option would be printing two different types of RSVP cards. One with the kid option and one without. And that effects our budget.

Thanks ladies!

[wrathofkuus]

You could just have a slot for how many people are attending.

[Deleted]

Hmmm how many invitations are you talking here? Is it something you could communicate via a phone call or email?

[formerlyak]

Aug 15, 2012 16:25:28 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

You could just have a slot for how many people are attending.

We will have this, but they will also have to choose their meal on that card (beef, chicken, fish, veggie option). I don't want them to think they also have to choose the kid's meal on that card, start talking up the meal they chose for the kid and then that not be a kid's meal option day of. That would make for a pissy kid. KWIM?

[formerlyak]

Aug 15, 2012 16:25:51 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Hmmm how many invitations are you talking here? Is it something you could communicate via a phone call or email?

A dozen or so.

[wrathofkuus]

Aug 15, 2012 16:32:26 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

Aug 15, 2012 16:25:28 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

You could just have a slot for how many people are attending.

We will have this, but they will also have to choose their meal on that card (beef, chicken, fish, veggie option). I don't want them to think they also have to choose the kid's meal on that card, start talking up the meal they chose for the kid and then that not be a kid's meal option day of. That would make for a pissy kid. KWIM?

Fuck it. Just feed the kids regular people food.

[Deleted]

Aug 15, 2012 16:36:00 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Aug 15, 2012 16:32:26 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

We will have this, but they will also have to choose their meal on that card (beef, chicken, fish, veggie option). I don't want them to think they also have to choose the kid's meal on that card, start talking up the meal they chose for the kid and then that not be a kid's meal option day of. That would make for a pissy kid. KWIM?

Fuck it. Just feed the kids regular people food.

Yea I tend to agree with this. As a kid I never ate "kid food." Is it because the kids menu is cheaper? (Not being snarky). If you move forward with the kid's menu, I'd just tell each of the 12 couples that there will be a kids menu.

[wrathofkuus]

I never ate "kid food" either. My little Niles Crane self would have been PISSED to go to a wedding where my parents were fed prime rib and I got some chicken nuggets or something.

[formerlyak]

The kid plates are less than half the cost and are basically the same as the adult food but smaller portions with some typical "kid food" mixed in for the fussier eaters, so I am not worried about the kid foodies getting upset. I know all the kids we are inviting very well, and I think my son is the only food snob in the bunch and he would be fine with several of the menu choices.

The reason the restaurant does it this way (kids order day of -- it's their policy, not mine) is because they used to do it where kids ordered in advance like the adults and it was a disaster. A kid may pick halibut when they send the RSVP back in June and then 5 weeks later at the July wedding have decided that they now hate fish. I have never experienced picky food stages with ds, but several of my friends have kids who went through that so I can understand the logic.

[wrathofkuus]

Feed them ALL kid portions, and cut costs! Hah!

[formerlyak]

Aug 15, 2012 17:08:26 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Feed them ALL kid portions, and cut costs! Hah!

LOL! Maybe that could be my blanket piece of advice on the "Budget Brides" board

[wrathofkuus]

Dude, seriously, don't listen to me. I'm cheap as hell. I tried to make my own dress to cut costs, and I don't even sew.

[formerlyak]

I'm right there with you Kuus. But fi has decided that he'd rather spend a little more money than allow me to DIY anything. Not because I can't do it -- I am pretty crafty -- but because I will be doing my MBA capstone project in the months leading up to the wedding and I already have too much on my plate.

And, me thinks kid Kuus and my kid would have been great dinner dates. You could do fancy tasting menus together. I swear the boy is a vacuum and will eat just about anything!

[marigoldgirl]

I think the insert could just say. Please be aware that meal choices for children under 12 (or whatever age) will not be available until the day of the event.

[udscoobychick]

I would send everyone regular RSVP cards and call the families with children to let them know the situation. The insert idea would work fine, too.

[hobs209]

Aug 15, 2012 21:46:23 GMT -5 marigoldgirl said:

I think the insert could just say. Please be aware that meal choices for children under 12 (or whatever age) will not be available until the day of the event.

I think this is the best idea.

[Deleted]

My RSVP looked like this - two options - check for attends and check for declines. Under the check for attends, I put two lines - one that said amount of people +18 years and another line for Children under 18 years. These went out to all our invites though as we only had a small guest list and all our close friends and family will be able to bring their children. We also did not have a meal for anyone to choose from on the RSVP.

I don't know if that helps, but you could do something like that for your family members only and send the other RSVPs without any mention of children to the rest of your guest list.

[formerlyak]

Aug 16, 2012 7:38:21 GMT -5 doglove said:

My RSVP looked like this - two options - check for attends and check for declines. Under the check for attends, I put two lines - one that said amount of people +18 years and another line for Children under 18 years. These went out to all our invites though as we only had a small guest list and all our close friends and family will be able to bring their children. We also did not have a meal for anyone to choose from on the RSVP.

I don't know if that helps, but you could do something like that for your family members only and send the other RSVPs without any mention of children to the rest of your guest list.

I was thinking about something like that (two different response cards - one with kids and one without). It doesn't seem like it will impact my budget too much, so I might go this route.

Thanks.

[riverpestie]

Aug 15, 2012 17:16:28 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

Dude, seriously, don't listen to me. I'm cheap as hell. I tried to make my own dress to cut costs, and I don't even sew.

I don't mean to high jack the post, but how did it turn out?