General dating/SO advice: Edit

[cemacmil]

Ok, so even though life is life and it hands you some pretty tough curveballs sometimes: I am ready to get back out there. Even if it is just dating or re-learning how to date/flirt/etc. This epiphany came from having an experience where - though I may have totally bombed it- was attracted to a guy at my work (I don't work with though) and got completely tongue tied and didn't really know what to say.

Anywho - my co-workers think I should still try and attempt at least talk to this guy to find out further dating potential, I am realizing old BF from the past might just always be that, dude from my department sent another flirty email (complementing but kind of annoying in a way that he is on and off), anyway it is all just fun to explore and learn how to talk to guys. So do I also break back open the match.com/online dating thing again - already paid for, just not used in a long time? Or just stick to IRL?

Clarification - new dude on night shift, I am on days - but main question is at this point in my "readiness"/life, would you recommend sticking with chance encounters or adding in online too again for fun/just to see?

Still working on me obviously, but a night out here and there if I meet someone however would not be bad either IMO.

[aliciar6]

depending on how your work place is, like how big, I'd say it's noramlly a bad idea to date a guy from work, especially if you have to see them every day...
Our base is pretty big so as long as that person isn't in your group or building chances are you aren't going to see them if things don't work out.

granted FI and I work in the same division, we work on some of the same projects and work next door to each other.

you have to have a really good seperation of work and relationship, because some days you may be having a disagreement and really upset about something and want to discuss it but you have to work....not that work should be a priority over a relationship but you can't forget that you have a job to do. There are definately times where that is hard to do, to focus on your job and put the arguement or what ever it is on the back burner until after work.

[Bernadine]

I also would stay away from dating co-workers.

Online dating will get you out of your comfort zone, meeting new people, and having new experiences.

[bullygirl979]

I agree with PP about joining match rather than dating the guy from work. XBF and I worked together and it SUCKS now that we are broken up. I would never date anyone from work ever again.

[cemacmil]

Aug 16, 2012 8:30:13 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I agree with PP about joining match rather than dating the guy from work. XBF and I worked together and it SUCKS now that we are broken up. I would never date anyone from work ever again.

That would suck - that is why the email from the department dude was weird....kind of a tried that, you ran/too young, why are you still flirting thing.

[wingingitinmotown]

Aug 16, 2012 8:30:13 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I agree with PP about joining match rather than dating the guy from work. XBF and I worked together and it SUCKS now that we are broken up. I would never date anyone from work ever again.

I've been down that road as well. In my case, my XBF kinda went crazy (I use "kinda" loosely...he was BSC) and quit while we were still together. It ended up looking bad on ME because people knew we were dating. I would never, ever, EVER date a co-worker again. Never.

Ever.

That said, if you feel ready to get back out there, I say go for it! Keep things light and fun and meet some new people!

[bullygirl979]

Aug 15, 2012 21:23:13 GMT -5 cemacmil said:

but main question is at this point in my "readiness"/life, would you recommend sticking with chance encounters or adding in online too again for fun/just to see?

Eh, only you can answer that. If you feel like you're at a good place in your life and you are ready for it, and you have a paid membership, why not? You can always quit. But bottom line...it is whatever you feel comfortable with.