how much does your H help you with carrying things

[jennlin]

luggage, shopping bags, etc ?

[jennlin]

when we're traveling, h carries most the bags. he will look like a pack mule to make sure i'm comfortable. he doesn't carry 100% of the bags, but he makes sure the items i have are the lightest/easiest.

when we're shopping, if it's something small (and his) he usually shoves it in my purse. if it's mine and small, he prob won't carry it..but anything that's like a paper bag or larger, then he'd carry it...but he forgets sometimes...he *tries* to be chivalrous, but it doesn't come natural to him.

[jennlin]

Aug 16, 2012 12:05:38 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

(when we first started dating his ex. girlfriend once emailed me and told me he was abusive because - among other reasons - he made her pick up her own dirtbike when she crashed over and over and over again. He jokes that he was looking for girlfriend who could pick up her OWN dirtbike this time)

^o)

you drop it, you pick it up. silly ex.

[Deleted]

I have a bad back and shoulders and carrying heavy things aggravates them now. H helps me carry anything that starts getting to heavy. It's very sweet of him because it helps me from getting hurt or being in pain but it makes me sad because I used to be so STRONG and could easily carry 50 lbs.

[larzhope]

My H is like your H Jennlin - carries most things but I still have to do my share. He does a good job of always offering to take the heaviest stuff though, which I appreciate.

[madDawg228]

H does all the heavy lifting, and will let me carry some of the light stuff. But I am the one who is always the main caretaker of our furkid whenever we take him somewhere, so I think it evens out.

[InBetweenDays]

I'd say it's usually 60/40 with him carrying slightly more. But like lauralynne, I take pride in being very self sufficient and would feel funny if he carried everything and I was left with just my purse or bag.

[amandasw]

we carry things equally (and I'll add he's almost twice my size) when we travel. however, due to his impatience, he will sometimes grab both bags to go up/down stairs. I don't pack more than I can handle on my own though!

[Deleted]

Backpacking notwithstanding, I like to carry my own stuff while traveling. Sometimes he jumps in without me asking, but I like being self sufficient.

Also, I always want to carry my own bags when we're out, but sometimes H just takes it and won't give it back.

And then it ends up with me whining 'But I can doooooo iiiiiiiiiit"

[sarack]

he carries everything. he doesn't even like me to carry my own stuff while traveling. and if we're walking, he'll carry my purse. i should post a pic of him carrying my purse, lol.

[emyinpink]

Sometimes we'll switch suitcases so I can use the rolly in all ways one, but I always carry my own stuff (except when I was broken).

[FrozenSunshine]

When traveling, we usually grab our own stuff, same with clothes shopping. Grocery shopping we divy up the bags, because we walk.

DH will not carry my purse, if I even ask him to hold it, he holds it with 2 fingers and his arm extended from his body like it has cooties or something.

[mkate710]

Right now, with my stupid wrist, DH carries a lot more. He's helped with Costco runs, unloading groceries, all that good stuff.

Normally, I do most of the shopping myself so I do most of the carrying. When we travel, all our suitcases are on wheels so I take care of mine and he takes care of his. If we're packing up to go camping or on a road trip, it's a total toss up who loads the car.

The only exception where I'll ask for his help is if I did a big grocery run and there isn't space to park in our building driveway to unload. Since we have a shared garage under the building, if I have to carry stuff up myself I'd had to make multiple trips if there was a lot to carry. If that's the case, I'll text H and have him come down to help.

[Deleted]

It depends.. sometimes I like to carry things just for the sake of carrying them. I have noticed that since having T he has started carrying the heavy stuff for me a lot quicker. When we are together rarely do I carry her in her car seat, or have to carry shopping bags etc.