Do you ever pay for your parents to come visit?

[soso]

Yes, if it is specifically to babysit.

[muppetinma]

Wealthy parents, so no. Actually, it is often the opposite. My whole family is getting together in a week and a half for a reunion. They all live in New England and I live in Atlanta. My dad usually pays for my flight or other expenses to make it a little more fair.

[niq]

I mean... it depends on what the definition of "visit" is.

... mom asked for plane tickets to come visit us as birthday/Christmas presents even before she moved in with us, so I guess I'll say yes.

[anna7602]

Apparently, we pay when my ILs come and get DD to take her to stay with them, when they're the ones begging to have her for a week. I would be fine with them not taking her at all, but I have to smile and agree and pay for all the plane fare involved. (FTR, I have dropped her off before when we needed overnight childcare and had no qualms about the plane tix then. It's feeling pressured into sending go her to them that makes me pissy about then paying for the adult tickets.)

[mcfelix]

Not exactly. We give them gas cards a fair amount. They drive a little over two hours to visit and come over often, almost every other weekend. And they help us around the house SO much. And provide free babysitting whenever we ask. They are awesome and I feel like we should give them more than we do.

[yellowbrkrd]

Kind of? DH's student loans are in FIL's name, so every year at tax time they send us the difference in their taxes that they get for claiming the interest, because we are actually the ones paying on the loan.

The last couple of years we told them to keep it and use the money for plane tickets.

[atarianna]

Often. We pay for my mom to come stay with us 3-4 times each year. For a couple of years it was the only way I was comfortable enough for a night out or *gasp* a night away.

I recently purchased tickets for both of my parents to come later this summer and was met with unappreciation when I booked their flights too early in the morning.

[lolo]

I have used FF miles to help my mom come out before as well as SIL.

[namasteak]

I've tried to pay for my mom/stepmom to come down and she won't let me.

[wavepool]

No, my parents are always trying to buy our gas when we visit, though. If they couldn't afford it, we'd help.

[bcarp30]

My mom lives super close so no need but I would pay for her to go on vacation with us to help watch DD.

[fbf2006]

Yes. My parents live in Nigeria and are pensioners. Me and my siblings chip in. When my mum came over for a few months to help when I had my son, I paid for that.
We are going on a family cruise in July and we all chipped in. For my younger sister's wedding in August, my sisters used points.

My in laws live in Nigeria as well but pay for theirs. We try to give my MIL cash though.

[heygrey]

No, if anything my parents pay for my ticket or at least help defray the cost significantly.

We do occasionally pay for SIL to come. We used to trade off visits, but we haven't gone since R was born. We still want to see her and she's happy to fly so we pay every second of third flight.

H's parents, I can't imagine a scenario where we'd pay. His parents don't seem terribly concerned About visiting us.

[origami]

only if they were visiting as a favor to me. I.e. Coming to babysit. Otherwise heck no.

I would consider it if they had no money. But since they're doing fine, free room/board is my best offer.

[marie3246]

No, my parents would never let us. We have helped my in laws though and if we have the extra money I would do that again. We have paid for H's younger sister to visit and everything while she is here and I would gladly do that all the time. She is such a huge help to me and I love her company. She is 1 person I don't think I would mind moving in with us. We will likely pay for her to come on vacations with us so DH and I can have some baby free nights

[drloretta]

No.

My parents are living a dream retirements, so it wouldn't even occur to us. MIL takes the train so it isn't too bad, $ wise. I think we've paid for a train ticket once.

[chatterbox]

We've paid for my in-laws a few times. I'm not really sure why because they can afford their own airfare. We've also paid for their hotel rooms in the past. Not every time though. We also flew my little brother out last year. It was his birthday gift and we will probably do it again this year. He took care of my mother and brothers for years, so I always try to do something nice for him to show my appreciation.

[lmh1209]

Always. They could never afford to fly here if we didn't

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[pippa]

No. Both sets pay for their own travel, but can afford to do so.

[Yankees21]

No. My mom lives about an 8 hour drive away and comes frequently, but doesn't need and wouldn't accept gas money. She almost always pays for meals, etc too...occasionally we can convince her to let us buy one. My dad and ILs are local.

[boxerdog]

No, but they are 2.5 hours or less and don't need the help. If they needed the help I probably would.

[aspentosh]

My mom is a 15 min drive away, so no.

My dad and stepmom- no, because they would never accept it and they not traveling much yet.

MIL and SFIL- no because they drive in and just stay with us.