Yes-we pay for my mom to come every year to watch DS while we go on a cruise and then she stays for a couple days after we get back.
My dad? Hellllllll no. He's got enough miles to travel around the world but yet whines about coming to visit us. He makes more than DH and I do combined. Fuck that.
Never, but we all live in the same city, so it would cost us like $2.50. We do trade off who pays for dinner/brunch/etc, although my parents would love to pay for everything.
Post by humpforfree on Jun 22, 2015 15:20:48 GMT -5
No, in laws are a half hour away and my parents are 7 (or 5 depending on where they are coming from) away. My parents drive and like to visit. We do pay for food and whatever when they are here..
Post by longtimenopost on Jun 22, 2015 15:20:59 GMT -5
We live in TX, DH is from Denmark. We paid for MIL to fly over when DD was born and will again when this LO comes. We also paid for DH's cousin to come visit with her boyfriend last year. She and my DH are close and they couldn't have afforded to come on their own.
Post by doctorsbaby on Jun 22, 2015 15:22:45 GMT -5
We have been paying for my dad to come out 3x a year. He has a more flexible work schedule and can come out here for a week 3x instead of us going to him once for a long weekend at about the same cost.
No, but they'll pay for my plane ticket to visit them. They insist, even though we can afford it.
Growing up my parents were super, super frugal. We didn't eat out, everything we bought was on sale, rarely went on vacations, etc. I guess between that and my dad's investments, they must have a nice amount saved up because they are pretty damn generous these days.
Post by stacyb1983 on Jun 22, 2015 15:24:54 GMT -5
Yes, if we need child care (teacher in service, spring break), we offer to fly in my mom or MIL. Generally, they are excited for an opportunity to see their grandkids. We also fly MIL in for holidays. She is on a fixed income.
Edit: I forgot that we flew my niece and sister in last Christmas.
Post by countthestars on Jun 22, 2015 15:26:30 GMT -5
My parents are local and wouldn't need the help.
MIL is only a 2.5 hour drive so we don't pay for her gas but she stays with us when she comes. We took her on vacation with us earlier this year and paid most of her way because we wanted her to be able to do the same things that we were doing.
Post by biscoffcookies on Jun 22, 2015 15:28:20 GMT -5
No, with one exception. My mom is coming out to visit once our baby is born, and I used airline miles (that I earned entirely through work travel) to pay for her flight home.
So far we've preferred to go visit our families due to the presence of extended family and friends. Even if we wanted people to come to us, I tend to think that we wouldn't pay for my in-laws because they are quite well-off (and they probably would refuse even if we offered). I wouldn't hesitate to offer to pay for my mom given her financial situation, particularly because it is cheaper for me to pay for 1 ticket than to buy 3/4 tickets for my family to see her, but I think she might resist if I was going to pay real money for a ticket rather than miles.
ETA: If either my in-laws or my mom were coming out solely to provide child care for us while we went on vacation or something, then I would insist on paying for their transportation since they were doing me a favor. But that situation hasn't arisen yet.
MIL, Yes. Everyone else, no. I do give my sister cash though for b-day or xmas, when I know she's booked a trip out (or planning to). but I don't explicitly say that it's to help cover the cost of airfare.
Not my parents but for my aunt I have used miles to buy her plane ticket. My mom had cancer and had a very complicated surgery and I had a 1 year old. I could've easily taken off but I could not care for her the way she needed help with a baby.
I'm glad she came because my mom was hospitalized 3 times after surgery due to complications and my aunt stayed with her until I got there.
My parents are local, but we did buy flights for my ILs (across the country) once, but that time they were watching DS for us. They want us to visit at Christmas, but it's really hard for me to take enough time off for the plane tickets to be reasonable, so I'd much rather offer to pay for their flights out here. We also flew SIL and niece out one holiday, since we wouldn't otherwise see them.
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Yes, we pay for half of MIL's airfare 2-3x per year, though I think we're switching to a total of $500 subsidy this year. We do this because MIL is not well off, and because paying for part of her airfare is way cheaper than 3 (or 4!) tickets and a hotel for us to go see her. Also we hate going to NYC, so if we bring her out here she can't bitch at us as much for not visiting.