Assume your kid hates the pool and refuses to get in. Would it bother you if your nanny took your kid to the pool almost every day and s/he just sat on the edge with his/her feet in the water?
We we have a nanny share and while my girls love to swim, the little boy we share with doesn't. It makes me sad that they keep going to the pool (not always on the request of my girls) and he chooses to sit by the side. But it's also not my kid and if his parents don't care why should I, right?
Yeah that would bother me. If they went 1-2x a week then it wouldn't as much because exposure is good and maybe he just needs time before he feels comfortable around the water. But if they're truly going daily then I would have a problem with that. I pay a nanny to engage my child, not have them sit on the side of the pool everyday. Go to an indoor park, children's museum, zoo, splash pad, library, and other things that all the kids can enjoy. Don't pick an activity that one child doesn't like and then do that daily!
I guess if my kid was really begging to go to the library and the nanny kept taking him to the pool instead it would bug me but it's hot as balls and you can't stay inside all day everyday.
Nope. Wouldn't bother me. It has been hot as hell here and you gotta find something to do out of the house. Maybe he will eventually get in. They have to be doing things he likes too, right?
Nope. In the 2.5 weeks she's been our nanny they've done one other activity. They've been at the pool 10/12 days and they stayed home yesterday. (This is all before nap, they don't usually do anything after nap)
Is she able to go other places with them? Meaning does she have access to a vehicle with room for all the kids and whatever carseats/boosters they need and petty cash to go other places? If not, I wouldn't be upset about them going to the pool every day if that's the only place she can get them to. (Assuming it's a neighborhood pool)
Is she able to go other places with them? Meaning does she have access to a vehicle with room for all the kids and whatever carseats/boosters they need and petty cash to go other places? If not, I wouldn't be upset about them going to the pool every day if that's the only place she can get them to. (Assuming it's a neighborhood pool)
We provide a van for her, car seats, and memberships to every museum/kid place in town. Previous nannies have had no issues finding things to do other than the pool.
Is she able to go other places with them? Meaning does she have access to a vehicle with room for all the kids and whatever carseats/boosters they need and petty cash to go other places? If not, I wouldn't be upset about them going to the pool every day if that's the only place she can get them to. (Assuming it's a neighborhood pool)
We provide a van for her, car seats, and memberships to every museum/kid place in town. Previous nannies have had no issues finding things to do other than the pool.Â
Since she has lots of other options and vehicle provided I'd be upset she was going to the pool everyday if my kid was sitting out.
ETA you know her dedication to go to the pool everyday even if your girls don't suggest it would worry me she's going there to meet friends or something. (Which I would then worry her attention wasn't 100% on my kids in the pool)
Yep, it would bug me even as the parent of the kids who like swimming. I loved the pool as a kid but daily? It would lose its luster quickly.
Ha I guess being on the swim team in the summer plus going most afternoons I have a different perspective
I was actually on the swim team year round! but one thing I love about our daycare is that DS is exposed to so many different things: story time, local zoos/farms, parks, splash pads, etc etc. when DS is an ornery teenager I might have a different opinion.
We provide a van for her, car seats, and memberships to every museum/kid place in town. Previous nannies have had no issues finding things to do other than the pool.
Since she has lots of other options and vehicle provided I'd be upset she was going to the pool everyday if my kid was sitting out.
ETA you know her dedication to go to the pool everyday even if your girls don't suggest it would worry me she's going there to meet friends or something. (Which I would then worry her attention wasn't 100% on my kids in the pool)
Ugh. I hadn't even thought about this, but I'll look into it. Thank you!
Post by speckledfrog on Jun 23, 2015 22:34:56 GMT -5
Is she working on her tan? Yes, it would bother me. Twice a week or something and I wouldn't mind as much because he's good about finding other things to entertain himself. Every day? No, ma'am.
I'm also a bit incredulous at the maybe he'll start to like the water if they keep going responses. Forcing me to go do something I dislike every day would never ever make me like it.
I'm also a bit incredulous at the maybe he'll start to like the water if they keep going responses. Forcing me to go do something I dislike every day would never ever make me like it.
Thank you! I was really surprised at all the responses because I highly doubt that people would really be ok with their kid being forced to do something they hate everyday!
Another one of those examples of the OP's POV totally affecting responses. ijack, I can guarantee you if you'd said your kid was the one who doesn't like the pool, the responses would have been much different.
Nope, I wouldn't be okay with that. I want my child engaging in something. I'd be fine if it was a couple of times a week for exposure, but not daily. Heck, even if my kid loved it, I'd want him exposed to other stuff too. How old is your nanny and how cute are the lifeguards?
Post by cricketwife on Jun 24, 2015 5:23:28 GMT -5
If she were going to the pool for an hour or two every day And doing a variety of other activities during the week - in the morning, after the pool, etc., it wouldn't bother me. But as this is the only thing she is doing, then yes, it would bother me.
You didn't say he hated the pool. Just that he won't get in. He may actually like going and sitting at the edge.
But - that being said, as there are many other options, I'd want the nanny to do other things too. At least one or two days. Mix things up. It seems lazy on her part.