If your first two children are the same sex

[Marmee]

Constantly, for 8yrs straight. Although it's getting less now that I've got a lot of gray hair...lol. I still get comments on my 3 or 4 girls a ton (every time I go out in public with at least 3 of them). Lately, I've had a great run of actually really positive, encouraging comments. Like "you are so lucky", "what an awesome family", "I grew up one of 4 girls and it was great", etc. It's been really refreshing honestly.

[barefootcontessa]

Yes, all the time.

[sewpinkgal]

Jun 24, 2015 20:55:30 GMT -5 @starry said:

Do / did you get asked a lot if you were going for more to "get a boy" or "get a girl"?

DH got two comments and I got one comment right after we found out it was another girl but nothing since.

Also I am curious if moms of boys get this more than moms of girls (my hypothesis). I think dads of girls would get it more often than dads of boys but men don't tend to discuss these matters as much

If I had a dollar for each time I have been asked this, the boys would have very full college funds.

I've polled my friends with 2 girls and they get asked about "having a boy" with the same frequency.

[sewpinkgal]

Jun 24, 2015 21:33:58 GMT -5 mainelyfoolish said:

And people with a boy and a girl who decide to have a third child will get asked why they're having a third because they already had one of each. (Not me, but a friend of mine said she got that comment several times when she was expecting her third.)

Yup. Or, my friends with one of each often get "Oh, now you can stop since you have one of each!" ^o)

[sewpinkgal]

Jun 24, 2015 21:36:20 GMT -5 Brie said:

Not really.

The strangest comment I've gotten was while I was with P waiting for a CT scan. A mom had two boys sitting with her, probably 8 and 12 years old. We were chatting a bit, she said how cute he was, and asked if we had other kids so I said yes, a big brother. Then she looked witheringly at her 8 year old and was like "just so you know if you go for a third it might be a boy again. YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE MY GIRL."

Um, awkward.

Plus if we have a third I want another boy anyway.

OMG to the bolded. I just cannot imagine saying that to your own child.

We are done at 2, but I just know if we were to have a 3rd, we'd have another boy. And really, I'd be perfectly thrilled with that. People find that so strange for some reason.

[penguingrrl]

We got it all the time and it drove me batshit crazy. From the time my second was a newborn people would ask me when we would "try for our boy." Then once we had DS people would assume we were done since we "got our boy." We were done, but would have had he been another girl because we always envisioned having three kids. And we never would have considered getting pregnant if we were only interested in having a child of a specific sex. The assumptions both before and after DS really pissed me off.

[starlily]

Yep.

We have 2 girls. We both get asked equally if we're going to "try for a boy."

[Deleted]

I got it a lot in Atlanta. Not so much in LA. Actually I can't remember the last time I was asked.

[mandymay]

I would have loved to have two girls, but I have one of each. It really annoys me when people say 'oh, you have a boy and a girl so you're good.' I don't understand it. We have known we only wanted two, no matter the sex of our children. It's so strange.

[usuallylurking]

Jun 24, 2015 21:06:22 GMT -5 mockingbird said:

I have the boys. I got asked "soo are you going for your girl?" a lot the third time round.

I got this a lot too when pregnant with DS3. I'm thrilled with my boys! We intend to have a 4th and I honestly would be completely happy with another boy. My IL's can't fathom why we even had a third child, as they had 2 boys, so why shouldn't everyone just do exactly as they do?

I can only imagine the comments when I'm (eventually) pregnant with our 4th. No, it's not to try for a girl, it's because we'd like 4 kids. I actually think we'll find out the sex but keep it to ourselves. Whatever.

[mie]

I have 3 girls and people always ask if we're going to try for a boy or they make a comment to H about only having girls.

[mie]

I have 3 girls and people always ask if we're going to try for a boy or they make a comment to H about only having girls.

[t]

I was in the hospital with 1-day-old DD2 and my aunt offered me some book on how I can get a boy next time. Awesome.

Poor DH, everyone must think. He preferred two girls so everyone is very surprised when he vocalizes that.

[moopoint17]

All. The. Time.

I have 2 boys. My sister has 2 girls. From talking with her, I'd say we both get asked about the same amount.

[gibbinator]

No, at least not persistently enough for me to recall. We have boys so no one asks dh. Mil knows we're very much done at 2 and she's the only one that wants a girl baby.

[suzubell]

Yes but more at the beginning. I have two boys.

[meltoine]

Every last person who asks if this baby is a boy asks if we're going to try again for a girl after this. 50% of them look horrified when I tell them I like having boys and am happy with my family just the way it is.

[whereintheworld]

People always have very positive comments to my H about having 3 sons. "Wow, awesome! So cool! Now you have a whole hockey/baseball/soccer team!" (because obviously boys can only be in to sports).

Comments to me are always more negative. "You'll be broke feeding 3 teenage boys, oh wow you've got your hands full now" and my personal favorite which I've heard a few times now, "but... didn't you want a girl?"

[Deleted]

Oh yes tons, mostly from strangers actually (especially older women who feel entitled to know everyone's business, lol). And you should have heard the responses I got after we did know that pregnancy #3 was a girl. It was like people thought we had won the lottery. And also that we "must be so glad that now we can be done." :^) I guess everyone thinks you should have at least one boy and at least one girl? 

[bbonanza]

Yes, we got a few questions, but both DH and I said we would rather have a third girl (which we did).  I grew up being the middle of three girls and my Mom had two sisters as well.  It just seemed right that one of us would have three girls too. 

[bbonanza]

Jun 24, 2015 22:12:41 GMT -5 londoncalling said:

Yes. DH gets "pitied" for being so outnumbered in his house full of women.

His friends all have mixed sibling sets, and comment about how lucky they are to have the textbook perfect family. Well, you know, except for the being total jerks part.

This - When DH says he has three girls, everyone seems to react by saying how sorry they feel for him that he's outnumbered and "Wait till they're teenagers!"

[countthestars]

We don't even know the sex of this one and people are already all "I'm sure your H is hoping for a boy!!". Annoying.

[Deleted]

We had 2 girls and then a boy.

We got lots of comments about "going for a boy." More after we announced the third pregnancy. And a lot of comments about "finally getting our boy so we could stop" after we found out it was a boy.

[juliette21]

We have 2 boys, and used to get asked a lot if we were going to try for a girl when I was pregnant with DS2 and when he was a baby. 

Now that my boys are a bit older (5 and 2) and more rambunctious, I NEVER get asked if we're having more LOL. I must look completely overwhelmed and exhausted all the time, or the boys are just so out of control that people feel sorry for me. I usually just get told I need a break, haha.