I'll let you know in a few days/weeks/months but no one has dared ask us this yet. A bunch of people have joked about us being done now ("snip snip" etc which is really nice to hear considering my H has like 10 sperm). I'm not really a girly person and I've told everyone we are close to about our fertility journey so I hope we don't hear it but bottom line is if there is something rude and inappropriate to say about childbearing SOMEONE will say it.
I have two little boys. I've been asked four or five times whether we are going to try for a girl. Not counting the twenty or so times my mom has begged me to try for another so she can have a granddaughter.
Yes. The first time I heard it was in the hospital. Thanks. (We have 2 girls.)
I just always BRIGHTLY say something like "We'd be thrilled to have another girl. 3 girls would be lots of fun! It'd be great to have a boy, too. We'll see!"
One day in Costco, 2 different older moms saw me with my two and said they had 3 or 4 girls, loved it, wouldn't change it for the world, and it's especially fun as adults. I thought that was much nicer than the "Oh, trying again for a boy!"
I get asked nearly every time someone finds out all 3 are girls. The general consensus seems to be that my husband must be disappointed to have all girls. Spoiler alert: he's not.
I don't remember? People just say shit to say something.
Dh's grandma did call him the other day to give him direction on how to get a boy next time (yes, she said sex). Dh just told her that he really likes girls.
Yes. The first time I heard it was in the hospital. Thanks. (We have 2 girls.)
I just always BRIGHTLY say something like "We'd be thrilled to have another girl. 3 girls would be lots of fun! It'd be great to have a boy, too. We'll see!"
One day in Costco, 2 different older moms saw me with my two and said they had 3 or 4 girls, loved it, wouldn't change it for the world, and it's especially fun as adults. I thought that was much nicer than the "Oh, trying again for a boy!"
you want another one? already? lol
Uh, NO. Not yet. I haven't even had sex yet, lol. I don't feel done, though. We'll have at least one more.
I get it from well meaning strangers (mostly the baby loving olds). It's happened quite a bit this month, but it's always with a compliment for the current baby, so who could be upset? If I thought someone was actually fishing to see if I'm unhappy with my current life and how the dice roll turned out, I would be irritated.
Post by scribellesam on Jun 24, 2015 21:15:02 GMT -5
I have two boys. I haven't gotten any comments that I recall but that's probably because when I was pregnant with DS2 and someone asked the sex I'd reply, "Another boy I'M SO EXCITED IT'S EXACTLY WHAT I WANTED."
Post by turtlegirl on Jun 24, 2015 21:15:43 GMT -5
Yes. And as soon as I was pregnant with #3 people asked all the time, "Are you hoping for a girl?" "Oh man, you are going to be in big trouble if it's another boy!"
And then when we found out it was a girl pretty much all women are like, "oh, aren't you SOOOOO relieved it's a girl?!"
And plenty of, "thank goodness it's a girl so you can stop and not have a 4th." Um, pretty sure we were going be done at 3 no matter what.
It's been pretty annoying, honestly. Especially since I'm not really that excited about having a girl. Having a third boy was actually my "preference". But when I say that people look at me like I have three heads and have no idea how to respond, lol.
Post by undecidedowl on Jun 24, 2015 21:21:58 GMT -5
Yes, I get that a lot. The first comment was by the receptionist at the doctors office 5 minutes after we found out DS2 was a boy. I make it very clear that I am done so at least there are no repeat offenders.
Yes. And as soon as I was pregnant with #3 people asked all the time, "Are you hoping for a girl?" "Oh man, you are going to be in big trouble if it's another boy!"
And then when we found out it was a girl pretty much all women are like, "oh, aren't you SOOOOO relieved it's a girl?!"
And plenty of, "thank goodness it's a girl so you can stop and not have a 4th." Um, pretty sure we were going be done at 3 no matter what.
It's been pretty annoying, honestly. Especially since I'm not really that excited about having a girl. Having a third boy was actually my "preference". But when I say that people look at me like I have three heads and have no idea how to respond, lol.
You mean you are are about to live the dream life of being the parent to a daughter and you are not overwhelmingly grateful for an XX vs another XY? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
Yes, apparently everyone thinks the nearly 5 years I've been a mom to a boy/boys have been completely miserable and left a void in my heart that can only be filled by having a daughter, lol
People will comment no matter what. I have b/g twins and strangers say "oh one of each, you don't need anymore!" Yes. We want 3 kids. I don't care what the genders are. Mind your own business.
Post by mainelyfoolish on Jun 24, 2015 21:33:58 GMT -5
And people with a boy and a girl who decide to have a third child will get asked why they're having a third because they already had one of each. (Not me, but a friend of mine said she got that comment several times when she was expecting her third.)
The strangest comment I've gotten was while I was with P waiting for a CT scan. A mom had two boys sitting with her, probably 8 and 12 years old. We were chatting a bit, she said how cute he was, and asked if we had other kids so I said yes, a big brother. Then she looked witheringly at her 8 year old and was like "just so you know if you go for a third it might be a boy again. YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE MY GIRL."
Um, awkward.
Plus if we have a third I want another boy anyway.
We had to girls first and then a boy. We get a lot of "You must be so happy you finally got your boy" type comments. It makes me very angry especially when they say it in front of the girls like they weren't enough.
I would have loved another girl. I love my son but it irritates me how he is favored by many just because he is a boy. He is only eleven months old and I see this already.
Now some people have asked if we are going for number four so we can have two of each. I guess one boy isn't enough....
I get it fairly often. I think people who know us assume we'll have more kids, regardless of sex. We're happy with our two boys.
I love the look on people's faces when I say that I *might* have a third if I knew it would be another boy! I'm well-versed in cars, dirt, and noise. I'm not sure I could (or would want to!) do girly stuff at this point! Many things are easier when you have two of the same sex.
My MIL told me that everyone needs a daughter because sons just get married and leave their moms. Daughters never leave. Umm...thanks. My response, "I look forward to my sounds getting married someday. I'll gain two daughters without ever having to deal with all of the teenage hormones!" After 15 years together, I'm still very much not accepted as a part of their family. It sucks, and I have promised myself to never do that to my boys.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jun 24, 2015 22:07:40 GMT -5
I'm pregnant with our second - another boy - and we get weird comments all the time. People love to say, "oh, I bet your H is really excited!" Actually, H really wanted a girl and I wanted another boy and I was the one who was stoked when we found out it was a boy. For some reason people find this shocking.
And they're always asking if we are going to try to have a girl. I'm like, "uh, I'm 40. This body is not doing pregnancy again." (although I wouldn't mind adopting a girl.)
Post by londoncalling on Jun 24, 2015 22:12:41 GMT -5
Yes. DH gets "pitied" for being so outnumbered in his house full of women.
His friends all have mixed sibling sets, and comment about how lucky they are to have the textbook perfect family. Well, you know, except for the being total jerks part.
Got a lot of "trying for a girl"s when we told people about #3. Hated it. Really, really rude and annoying IMO. I know it's just something people say but, really?