Why do we always have issues with house buying?

[grover]

When we bought the townhouse we had issues with the seller (it was a pre-foreclosure but labeled as not a short sale.) Two days before closing we were informed that it was now a short sale and if we didn't agree to $x,000 dollars extra the deal was off. This was only a week before the wedding and honeymoon so we felt screwed.

Selling the townhouse we went with a different realtor. Felt they were good people. Sold the townhouse in under a week. But then you know the mess with the closing being put off repeatedly for an additional extended length of time.

Now, with the house we are buying. During the counter-negotiation they upped the price a little and requested to move closing from the 17th to the 14th. We said great. We have been now counting down to the 14th all along. On Monday I realized that the realtors changed the price on the original contract but not the date of closing. We had verbally accepted BOTH items at the same time. Now sellers are refusing to honor that original agreement. I'm Fucking LIVID.

As a result:
-moving truck is more expensive
-no one to help us move (we had three people with pickups off work and ready to help on the earlier date. No go on the later date or that entire weekend.
-no chance of having one or two nights to ourselves before my extended family moves in to stay with us for a period of at least 3 weeks. Now they'll be moving in themselves and their crap the same day.
-we're stuck with ILs for the greater part of an additional week. We can't switch to a hotel because they won't take our dogs. We can't go to my parents for those few days because they're house is also pending closing that week. We can't take their camper because there's no room for two dog crates, only one.

I kinda want to make a big stink over this and walk, except then we're stuck here even fucking longer while we have to wait another fucking thirty days to close. Which I might not feel this way but the house that I first fell in love with is now back on the market (after accepting an offer while we were writing our offer up). H doesn't feel this way though.

[HoneySpider]

Ugh, I am so sorry this had been such a tough experience! I know it's not much of a consolation right now, but try to remember that while it's going to suck temporarily, it will be awesome in the long-term.

[MrsMB]

I'm so sorry.....so frickin sorry. You're getting an extremely raw deal.

[awick14]

((Hugs)) I am so sorry.

[amaranth]

This is terrible, all around I am so sorry. Can you put an offer in on the other house you love, and delay answering your current offer until you hear back? If you love it more, then 30 days may be worth it. You don't want to feel bitter in your own home.

[grover]

amaranth not without losing our escrow money, and then legal fees and such to break the contract on top of the escrow, survey fees, appraisal fees, and inspection fees Plus H didn't love the other house as much, and he'd be too worried because that house broke the contract of the first offer on it.

And really, the new house means we won't be dealing with ILs on even a fairly regular basis. It's "too far" for MIL at a 45 minute ride. Which also means we won't have to use her for daycare. And most of my friends live in new town. It just sucks that the realtor completely dropped the fucking ball and that the sellers (one of whom is a pastor) is not upholding the verbal negotiation that they requested.

[travelbug]

((grover)) Things will look up so soon. I hope you have peace of mind soon!

[mac08]

That is so frustrating! I would be fuming too.  But, just try to focus on the big picture that you are getting a beautiful house in a great location, and eventually, you will barely remember that it's 3 days later than it was supposed to be.  Hang in there!