Spoiling your kids?

[rootbeerfloat]

I would take my 9-year-old to Taylor Swift for her birthday. We'd be sitting in the cheap seats, lol, but I wouldn't feel like I was spoiling her.

[hermione]

I don't think one singular act spoils a kid.

[yellowbrkrd]

I would do it. We are also a big music family and go to concerts quite a bit. I would probably buy cheap seats, she won't care and will love it.

[anna7602]

I would do it.

ETA: Objectively, there's a lot of stuff I spend money on for my kids that wouldn't have even been a consideration during my own childhood, due to the cost. I probably do it as much to treat myself as to treat them and I always make sure it's A BIG DEAL and appreciated. 

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I don't think it's spoiling as long as she knows it's a special treat. I think the problem comes in when they start to expect stuff like that and take it for granted (which you haven't indicated is a problem).

[ilikedonuts]

I would do it.

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I would do it no questions asked. I limit the stuff the rest of the year for my kids/am conscious of the treats but for birthday/Christmas I'm all about making their days totally memorable.

And I'd also say 9 is a great age. Taylor Swift sort of loses the appeal for a lot of kids not too shortly after that. Per my Schoolroom observations...lol.

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Jul 1, 2015 19:57:52 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

People take their kids to Disney for a whole vacation. You're doing Taylor Swift for ONE NIGHT!

Toddlers that don't know or care nonetheless.  

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Jul 1, 2015 19:55:51 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

I would do it.

ETA: Objectively, there's a lot of stuff I spend money on for my kids that wouldn't have even been a consideration during my own childhood, due to the cost. I probably do it as much to treat myself as to treat them and I always make sure it's A BIG DEAL and appreciated. 

I'm here. My kids do a lot of stuff and I buy them their fair share of treats and experiences. Mainly because I work hard so I CAN and more importantly want to. (I find the zoo trips, Dollar Spot stickers and art kits as much fun as them).

My childhood wasn't bad by any stretch but we also didn't do or get a lot. Some of it was money. Some of it was logistics. A lot of it was my parents had other priorities/liked to spend money more on themselves...ha. Sometimes I also have to remember that society and expectations of kids has changed so much since our generation. I see the bad and good in it most definitely, but I also don't find it comparable either. 

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I don't think taking your child to one special event will turn her in to an entitled brat who demands the world at her finger tips. Sounds like a fun night! If you can afford it, I think every child enjoys a splurge every once in awhile. 

I have no clue how much the tickets were, but my first concert was at age 9 and it's one of my favorite memories with my mom. I think I turned out ok. 

[cinco]

If you can afford it, sure! It will be fun for both of you and she will remember it forever. My first concert was Neil Diamond and it was fantastic, lol. I agree that one gift will not spoil your kids.

[Marmee]

Do it! Mine went at 4, 6 & 8yrs old!


Disclaimer, DHs friend is in her band but DD1 was obsessed back then (she took up guitar at 8 because of her). She's 10 now & moved on but she loves guitar & performing thanks in part to going to that concert.

[anonymous]

Well I'm taking my 5 year old in two weeks so I think it's fine

[tcu2003]

I'd take her. Heck, I took my 3 year old to the College World Series two days after his birthday to watch my alma mater play. It was more for me than him, but he loved - worth every penny for him to go with DH and I.

[erbear]

I'd do it. I'd spend a couple hundred bucks on a birthday party and she'll remember that. I still remember my dad taking me to NKOTB when I was 8

[Deleted]

I don't think a singular act spoils a kid. But beyond that, I'm not so concerned with spoiling so much as raising compassionate empathetic children that truly understand the importance of hard work and giving back.

I know that sounds cliche but honestly, my kids absolutely benefit from white privilege and certainly will not live a life devoid of extras and advantages. So im less concerned with spoiling in the sense of giving them something like a concert for their birthday abd more concerned with them understanding the why/how they get those things and that its a big deal. I hope that makes sense.

Eta: not concerned with spoiling in the sense of of them getting things because honestly, my kids already have advantages and get things I didnt as a child and I certainly had a lot growing up. I am concerned in spoiling in the sense of raising entitled children that demand things. So again, it goes back to instilling particular values and zi think this can be done while still taking them to the concert of their dreams for their birthday.

[jenn248]

My parents took us to see New Kids on the Block when I was 9. I was thrilled at the time (and thought I looked very cool in my denim skirt, leggings, and ballet flats with bows...), and it didn't turn me into a spoiled brat, I don't think

[Deleted]

My mom took me to see Michael Jackson when I was only a little older than that (I think I was 11). I'd totally do it.

[Deleted]

Making an amazing memory for her is the best way to spoil her.

One extravagant gift isn't going to turn her into a brat. Promise.

[spk926]

Go! You aren't spoling her!

[Ashley&Scott]

I would do it!

[DarcyLongfellow]

I would absolutely do it! No question!

I mean, we usually go to Disney World for our kids' birthdays (we live close). A concert is downright cheap in comparison. (angel)

Also, spoiling doesn't happen from one event. I would even argue that you cannot spoil a kid by spending money on her and giving her expensive presents. You spoil a kid by giving in whenever she asks and not teaching her what "no" means. It doesn't sound like you're doing that, so I don't think a concert will spoil her :-)

[aspentosh]

I'd do it. But I agree that one event won't spoil a child.

[cajunmom]

DD wanted tickets for her birthday this year and she also was turning 9. We couldn't swing it at the time because the week after the concert we had to travel to Texas for her gymnastics competition and had a lot of expense for that but if we hadn't had that obligation I would have gotten tickets for her.