Thursday (Fake Friday?) Randoms

[raangoli]

Warning - this is a debbie downer post because I have to get it out.

Earlier this week I posted that I heard about a former colleague who had passed away. I was, and continue to be, so shocked. Today I learned that a friend I see each morning at the gym has stage 4 inoperable pancreatic cancer that has spread to her liver and lymph nodes. 

I just can't reconcile these things in my head. Life is so unfair. 

[mbcdefg]

Oh honey, I'm sorry. Life is such shit sometimes.

[mskitkat]

Jul 2, 2015 10:34:55 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Warning - this is a debbie downer post. Life is so unfair. 

I am so sorry. Fuck cancer.

[crashgizmo]

raangoli, that sucks. I'm sorry.

I don't know what to do about Crash's anxiety/fear issues. It's such a weird thing- any loud or sudden noise freaks him out. The vet says he's physically fine. It's been worse the last 3 months since we moved here but, instead of getting better, it seems to be getting worse. I am worried that this weekend with the fireworks and DH being out of town, he'll just hide in the bathroom all night.

[irene adler]

Oh, raangoli, that's awful.

I know Fourth of July fireworks scare my dog, but her barely audible little woofs to show she still brave while she is snuggled in so tight next to me for the entire night are so cute. I'm a monster.

Eta--I'm also annoyed that the blood center hours are wrong online. Now I have 40 minutes to kill until I can give blood.

[ddi741]

It's so hard to understand why with things like that.

I have to work tomorrow 5am -1pm and then cover for a co-worker from 3-5:30. I'm pissed about the coverage, when we discused splitting the holiday (back in May) I said I wanted the morning since we will have friends in town and were going to have people over in the afternoon. It was no problem then but then all of a sudden on Monday, she mentions that she'll be gone 3-5:30. Grrr. Luckily I'm wfh and will only log back in if there is an emergency (I'll monitor email on my phone) but it sucks.

[raangoli]

Thanks for letting me vent ladies. (heart)

[katieb4tom]

I had my first-ever therapy session last night. Holy shit! I feel better than I have in ages and all I did was unload to someone neutral. People: go to therapy! I was on the fence for years. It isn't easy, but it's totally worth it.

[Pom]

raangoli   I am so sorry.  I get where you are coming from.  


I've had two different ex's pass away in the last two years.  

One from cancer in 2014 on my birthday.  I kind of struggled with that on and off all last year.  I hadn't seen him in 12 years or so, but he was someone I cared deeply about.  I saw the progression of his cancer in an on-line collection of photos through the funeral home's website.  I kind of wish I'd never looked at those pictures.

The other I just found out about when we went home for FIL's funeral.  He died in April at age 51 of alcohol poisoning.  He was strong, kind and just a good soul.  It breaks my heart.  Again, it had been 10+ years since I'd seen him, but I have really been upset since we've been home and I can't believe both of these sweet men are gone.  
   

[raangoli]

Pom - I am so sorry for your losses. I hadn't kept in touch with my former coworker, except for FB, but he was such a vibrant individual and really lived life (as cheesey as that sounds).

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry that so many are dealing with cancer and loss. DH and I were discussing recently that we don't know if it is because we are getting older (only 34 years old, but still), are more sensitive and aware of it, or if it is just generally a bigger problem, but cancer and other major health problems seem to be effecting a lot of people that we know. It just sucks.

My random- DH was going to take tomorrow off but he discovered that no one else will be in his department tomorrow so he is going to go in for at least half the day so he can work on his six sigma green belt course that he needs to finish in the next 90 days. He figures he can work in peace since no coworkers will be around to bother him and he can't do much at home because of all the kids. I appreciate that he is getting this stuff done because, well, it needs to be done but I wanted to have him home so I could have a break from all the parenting and maybe even go to the grocery store. Oh well.

[Deleted]

n/m  I'm being crazy. 

[orangeblossom]

Jul 2, 2015 10:40:27 GMT -5 crashgizmo said:

raangoli, that sucks. I'm sorry.

I don't know what to do about Crash's anxiety/fear issues. It's such a weird thing- any loud or sudden noise freaks him out. The vet says he's physically fine. It's been worse the last 3 months since we moved here but, instead of getting better, it seems to be getting worse. I am worried that this weekend with the fireworks and DH being out of town, he'll just hide in the bathroom all night.

I would maybe consider a thundershirt for him re the fireworks, and though it seems normal to cuddle him when he's scared, it's actually counterproductive, as it reinforces the fireworks are something to be scared of.  Hiding in the bathroom isn't a bad place, if that's where he finds comfort.  Poor guy.

www.petmd.com/dog/slideshows/care/fourth-of-july-pet-safety-tips

My dog is startled by sudden noises too.  He doesn't freak out per se, but is very cognizant of them.

Things that helped with this move, were a calming collar, dap plug-in spray, setting up our/his stuff a week before we brought him to the house.

[raangoli]

@ruralrabbit1 - I'd say he's definitely interested in you. But are you interested in him?

Crap and now I see you deleted. Let me know if you want me to as well.

[orangeblossom]

raangoli I'm sorry for your loss and for your friend's cancer.

[Deleted]

Jul 2, 2015 12:00:38 GMT -5 raangoli said:

@ruralrabbit1 - I'd say he's definitely interested in you. But are you interested in him?

Crap and now I see you deleted. Let me know if you want me to as well.

It's ok  Thank you, I am, but I'm scared of mixing the two things.

[raangoli]

Jul 2, 2015 12:15:23 GMT -5 @ruralrabbit1 said:

Jul 2, 2015 12:00:38 GMT -5 raangoli said:

@ruralrabbit1 - I'd say he's definitely interested in you. But are you interested in him?

Crap and now I see you deleted. Let me know if you want me to as well.

It's ok  Thank you, I am, but I'm scared of mixing the two things.

It's an anecdote, but I felt the same way about MH. We worked together on a project. I was very apprehensive to mix my personal and work lives, but I went for it. We've been together for 10 years  

[Deleted]

Oh... I'm sorry. Hugs.


I just got to my office and it's so quiet today. Looking forward to knocking out a ton of content for my business. I really love being able to create something, it's my favorite part about what I do.

I plan on doing the same thing tomorrow. I'm a little giddy about all the writing / creativeness I get to do.

Just puts me one step closer to a debt free life. I can't express how much this board as helped over the years. There's a lot that I've learned and implemented and can't wait to start doing more.

[raangoli]

I'm sorry to hear that you're in such pain poundcake. Have you had a doctor check into your sinuses? I've had some lingering pain around a tooth where I had a root canal (also in April 2014!) and I think it's not really tooth related, but perhaps more that my sinuses are inflamed. Or do you clench or grind your teeth? If you do, it could be your TMJ that is causing these issues.

I hope you find some relief soon.

[sfy]

I'm so sorry, raangoli .

[sfy]

I was just called a "cheat" for playing the word "karmic" in Words with Friends--wth! I haven't felt this level of indignation since...I don't even know when! Then he resigned as I was calling him an imbecile and reminded him that I was losing lol. He looked to be 50 years old. This dumbing down has got to end.

We're thinking of putting some food on the grill and inviting people over. The main things stopping me are having to go to the supermarket and having to clean up afterward. I just don't know if it's worth the entertainment value.

[Deleted]

I didn't even know there was such a thing, but we're apparently playing the 4th of July pandora station at work. It's bringing me great joy. I've heard "Born in the USA," "R.O.C.K in the USA," "I"m Proud to Be an American" and "Ain't No Cure for the Summertime Blues" among others so far.

[AAM2012]

We have a cute hummingbird that comes and visits us in the backyard EVERY day at 6:45-7pm.

He/she always goes to the same plant and sits there for about 20 minutes, scratched itself and then flies off into our tree. I've put out food but I haven't seen it try it yet.

[monsterz]

Jul 2, 2015 21:03:02 GMT -5 AAM2012 said:

We have a cute hummingbird that comes and visits us in the backyard EVERY day at 6:45-7pm.

He/she always goes to the same plant and sits there for about 20 minutes, scratched itself and then flies off into our tree. I've put out food but I haven't seen it try it yet.

I have a new appreciation for hummingbirds.   One built a nest on our front porch, it has been fascinating to watch and I can't wait to see little baby hummingbirds.

[marshamarsha]

I hurt my knee. It's feeling better so I was really looking forward to horseback riding this weekend. My DH thinks it's
a really bad idea so now I won't. Because deep down I know it's a bad idea too. Yay boring long weekend.