Where all they do is whine and complain about their kids and how hard parenting is. How every little thing their kid is up to is drama and they just can't deal?
And in reverse like the anti-sanctimommy. "Three kids is so so hard. Today was really trying. However, I know it's just part of being an awesome parent. My reward will be coming someday.God is pushing my limits to make me stronger! I would still not trade these hard days for the world even though they are so hard! Kids are cute even when they are naughty!"
This drives me more insane than an actual Sancti-mommy who claims to have it together.
I get it. We all have those days. I've done it too. I just try to keep that stuff of FB because I've read some bad bad ones I'd never want my kids to find down the road. And really, just admit that kids can be hard and they're defeating. You don't have to come out a warrior everyday.
And for the Love, nobody on here go trolling through your FB posts and come back with a "It's me! isn't it?" It's not you. 2 girls I went to HS with and an old college roommate if you're wondering.
this is an example of sanctimommying, no?: "Three kids is so so hard. Today was really trying. However, I know it's just part of being an awesome parent. My reward will be coming someday.God is pushing my limits to make me stronger! I would still not trade these hard days for the world even though they are so hard! Kids are cute even when they are naughty!"
Fortunately I don't. I would have a hard time not engaging, lol.
Did any This American Life listeners hear the Father's Day episode yet? They had a short piece on a sahd of twins. They were 2 and he "literally had not left the house for more than an hour or two. And that was spent at the grocery store." His wife was begging him to leave the house to spend some time with friends and he refused. I thought it was a satirical piece at first, but I think it was legit.
I have a few sanctimommies on my feed, but it just makes me laugh. Sorry ladies, you still aren't going to make me feel bad for taking my kid to daycare, going on trips without him, getting my nails done, etc. I have no problems making time for me!
No. I have nothing but wave after wave of perfect parents with kids whose outfits are always clean and always match. It's exhausting. No one complains. Lots of #blessed people.
Yes. A few and they are all SAHM's. They make it sound SO terrible and SO hard, but of course they are #blessed to be the ones raising their own kids!!!!!
I have a single dad who posts constantly about how ahhhhmazing his kids are and how he just loves spending every minute possible with them and any parent who ever wants to be away from their kid is a terrible parent.
I also have several acquaintances who get very sanctimommy when their husbands are deployed, which is less annoying because it does fucking suck, but at some point you need to stop whining on social media.
this is an example of sanctimommying, no?: "Three kids is so so hard. Today was really trying. However, I know it's just part of being an awesome parent. My reward will be coming someday.God is pushing my limits to make me stronger! I would still not trade these hard days for the world even though they are so hard! Kids are cute even when they are naughty!"
I guess I feel like true sancti-Mommying is "My life with my kids is so easy! Today was awesome! I'm such an awesome parent becuase I do everything right! I'm rewarded everyday! God has made me strong! I wouldn't trade these days and my kids are never naughty!"
It probably is the same though. Semantics I guess.
I think the girl who does these posts the most really sticks out because even other people are talking about how weird it is.
My mom friends mostly post the hilarious things their kids say.
like: ""Mom, I can remember when you were a baby. I use magic. Besides!" -R, 4
or: S: Our bath tub had friends in it tonight! It was fun. (3) (about swimming lessons)
We all shut up about how much it sucks or how awesome we are and save that for over wine.
I have a lot of friends who do this too. Makes my whole day. Some of them are hilarious.
Or the awful but really still hilarious stuff they do (I had one friend whose kid took a crayola all over her light carpet because "blank canvas Mommy!") Still OMG..but after the fact...
No. I have nothing but wave after wave of perfect parents with kids whose outfits are always clean and always match. It's exhausting. No one complains. Lots of #blessed people.
This! Also lots of professional shots, which of course look perfect. This is why I need MMM, for keeping it real! Lol
I have one of those. We are godparents to their #1; they have 3 now. I can honestly say she scared me off of having a baby for some time. It's awful. I eventually had to block her.
We also have some other friends with the stream of pro pics, but fortunately there are also a couple who are hilarious about their parenting adventures. My BIL & SIL are my heroes-with-kids. I was like, yes, maybe I can do this after all.
No. I have nothing but wave after wave of perfect parents with kids whose outfits are always clean and always match. It's exhausting. No one complains. Lots of #blessed people.
This! Also lots of professional shots, which of course look perfect. This is why I need MMM, for keeping it real! Lol
I do not want your FB if MMM is "keeping it real!"
Just one, but I'd call her sanctimommy lite. She's really young and so a lot of stuff she does/says just elicits some eye rolls from me (my H is much more likely to bitch about it). What's really awkward is she will fight with her H on FB. Keep that shit private! Then a day later she'll be married to the BEST MAN EVER because he "babysat" his kid for an hour while she was awake. "Babysitting" consisted of him playing Grand Theft Auto while his DD sat on the couch with a lollipop and watched. And then a day after that she's back to being the mommy of the smartest/prettiest baby and looooooves being at home with her. It's a weird cycle.
I've got a couple that are like that, and a couple that are probably going to be like that because they got more obnoxious pretty much as soon as the pee test came up positive. Generally I just shake my head and laugh.
I have a friend who keeps on posting memes about what it means to be a mother, the sacrifices, etc. several times a week. Here's the weird thing...she has never posted a pic of her kid. She has even posted family pro pics and cut off the baby. Which is fine if she cared about privacy or something but she posts pics of her nephew who lives with her almost every single day. "Here's cutie at the store, here he is eating dinner". I think it is super weird. Almost like she's passing off her nephew as her kid. I wonder why all the time. Is it because he's a boy and she has a girl?
One is truly overwhelmed with 4 under 5, including a set of infant twins. Things are starting to even out for her now though. And she did ask for help in the early days.
One who has posted at least twice about how she or her H yell at their kids during what I think are the worst moments. I feel bad for the kids.
Drama llamas where everything is a BIG DAMN DEAL and they're in tears over every.little.thing.
I have a friend who has three kids (6,4,2) and was constantly complaining about how hard it was the being a mom to three small kids. Actually, it was when she had two kids she complained the most and then had a third. I had to unfollow her for a while because her posts were so depressing. No doubt it is hard. NO DOUBT. But when every single day is awful and exhausting, no one wants to hear it!
Post by thebreakfastclub on Jul 8, 2015 9:34:27 GMT -5
H has a friend with older boys, but he spends 100% of his weekends at their sporting events - hockey in the winter and baseball in the spring, summer and fall. He's always feeling sorry for others who can't or won't revolve their entire social lives around the joys of travelling sports teams.
And he does a MLM on the side, so double fail for him.
I have a friend who regularly shares posts a blog called elevating childcare or something like that.
The ideas are pretty extreme. Like potty training should be %100 child led with no leading or encouragement from the parents at all. Or that you should ask your child before touching them every single time even from infancy. It's ridiculous.
Yes! I have one friend who must post five complaints a day about her terribly hard life with twins. No one has ever had it harder than she does in the history of parenting. She went to cook dinner last night and was missing an ingredient. It was a "FML this day can't get any worse!"
She posted some pissed off rant about people making stupid comments about having lots of kids. Someone saw her in a store and said the typical oh you have your hands full. She said yes, these two (points to twins) were a surprise. The guy said "A surprise! Someone needs to explain how this works."
She went into this huge rant about his comment but she kind of brought it out with her "they were surprises" comment, no? She seems to seek out things to make bigger deals than they are.
I immediately unfollow anyone who mentions God in a FB status update. I've found it to be a harbinger of future insufferableness.
Ha! I'm okay with God because I'm pretty religious myself. I dislike it however when people throw God into every little thing.
It's awesome you're religious (awesome if you're not too) but really God is not going to bring you a new refrigerator because yours died and he truly does not care that your toddler dumped the toy bin all over the house.
Basically define your challenges and God-worthy rants a little better..lol. God has bigger problems.
I have a friend who keeps on posting memes about what it means to be a mother, the sacrifices, etc. several times a week. Here's the weird thing...she has never posted a pic of her kid. She has even posted family pro pics and cut off the baby. Which is fine if she cared about privacy or something but she posts pics of her nephew who lives with her almost every single day. "Here's cutie at the store, here he is eating dinner". I think it is super weird. Almost like she's passing off her nephew as her kid. I wonder why all the time. Is it because he's a boy and she has a girl?
Ok so I looked around her fb page some more and she posted a pic of "her baby" at 10 months old because people requested a recent pic. Only, it's a pic of a random baby that comes up on pinterest from 3 years ago. super f-ing creepy...
I have a friend who regularly shares posts a blog called elevating childcare or something like that.
The ideas are pretty extreme. Like potty training should be %100 child led with no leading or encouragement from the parents at all. Or that you should ask your child before touching them every single time even from infancy. It's ridiculous.
Yes, Janet Lansbury. I posted about her here once, a few people follow her. I find most very extreme, it is super attachment parenting and gentle parenting. Not my thing