Only you can decide if this is a hill upon which to die- your kid/your values.
What are you seeking from sharing? IME, when you're advocating for your child, it helps to have clarity around what you want from the exchange. An apology? More care around language when the children are supposed to be asleep? A replacement?
It doesn't matter whether you are "confrontational" by nature, if this is your hill to die on you take it up with the teacher. Escalating to the director based on the report of a preschooler is a little over the top unless this is one more incident in a series of questionable behavior.
I wouldn't judge a preschool/DC teacher for a chaotic naptime. I have yet to find a strategy to make a child nap if they don't want or need to. DCCs are usually required to have a formal naptime.
I agree with this. Context is important. If she is cussing at the kids then I would discuss it asap. But if she stubbed her toe & let it slip I wouldn't worry about it.
It was directed at the kids (according the DD's version of the story).
I think its fair to say that your DD's version of the story may not be the whole story. What 4yo is going to have all the details or be able to tell you the whole context in which the comment was made?
I'd let it go. H and I try not to swear, but sometimes it sneaks out.
I think "damn it" is pretty innocuous. I might feel differently if she said the f word or even used damn in a different context, like "pick up the damn toys!"
I agree with this. Context is important. If she is cussing at the kids then I would discuss it asap. But if she stubbed her toe & let it slip I wouldn't worry about it.
It was directed at the kids (according the DD's version of the story).
Then I change my answer. You can bet I would be talking to the teacher & possibly the director depending on how my conversation with the teacher went.
I don't think my 4 year old (when she was 4) would have been able to accurately determine the context, such that she understood the swearing was directed at the kids. And I don't think the fact that a "damn it" slipped out at naptime necessarily has anything to do with her having trouble managing naptime. I mean, maybe the teacher stubbed her toe on a table? So many possibilities. I guess I tend toward the skeptical side on these things when they come from 3/4/5 yr olds. But regardless, it wouldn't be my hill to die on, unless you have more evidence that the teacher is really swearing at or around the kids on a repeated basis. In that case, I'd have a problem with it.
Well, my speech delayed 2.5 year old recently overflowed the bathroom sink and when I went in to turn off the water I said "oh no! goddammit" and she stood there saying "goddammit goddamnit goddamnit" lol...I was so proud that she was talking that I couldn't even be embarrassed lol
To answer the question, no I wouldn't say anything.
I wasn't trying to be a shithead. Beyond the 3s room at my son's daycare, it is not required to nap. They can read or do whatever after lunch for quiet time.
I just re-read your question. Would your daycare allow some 4 year olds to nap? Because if so, then the question "4 year olds nap?" still doesn't make sense. If they are FORCING the 4 year olds who want to sleep to stay awake, that sounds messed up.
In junior kindergarten and kindergarten. (Ages 3.5-6) there is no napping here. They may have quiet reading time but there are no cots on the floor. The kids can rest if they are tired but the OP said the teacher was having trouble getting all the kids to quiet down. And that doesn't shock me. Since the kids are 4+
It was directed at the kids (according the DD's version of the story).
Then I change my answer. You can bet I would be talking to the teacher & possibly the director depending on how my conversation with the teacher went.
i still wouldn't put all my eggs in a 4 year olds basket, though. I'm not saying ignore it, but I'd probably still sit on it for a bit longer. Or go in asking questions and having an open mind.
My 6 year old has always been pretty truthful but still - a kids version of events is often far from the full story/ the full truth.