hitting?

[auroraloo]

DD has started hitting, like, just for funsies hitting, me, her dad, her brother, whatever. How do I stop this? It seems everything we try she thinks is funny.

[momin2013]

I'm no expert, but I personally would ignore it; she may be doing it because she gets some sort of reaction from you.

[NandaB]

Hit her back





















You all know I'm kidding, right?

[lattelady5]

How old is she?

[dizzycooks]

We started time outs right around 2.

[erbear]

How old?

Both my kids went through that phase around 2. We said "No. We don't hit" in a louder than normal voice, put her down and walked away for a minute. It passed with consistent reactions.

[auroraloo]

Jul 10, 2015 9:14:08 GMT -5 dizzycooks said:

We started time outs right around 2.

She is 1, 2 in September. Dizzy, timeouts have zero effect. 

[lexus]

We told dd "we don't hit. Use soft touches" and walked away. We try to give an appropriate alternative and still not reward with attention.

[Deleted]

We say "ow" loudly and say "hands are for hugging not hitting" and do a time out where we discuss that it's not kind to give owies. Ds is 2. We also have him apologize and we hug afterwards. If he does it again, rinse, repeat. We also say "gentle hands" whenever he starts to get rough and work on "being gentle."

[rosesandpetals]

DD is a biter. I had to immediately stop all attention. If I was holding her, I put her down. If she was on my lap, on the floor. I just walked away and if/when she cried, I told her in a stern voice, "You hurt me. We don't hurt."

She figured it out pretty quickly, but she sometimes has phases for attention.

[quesyrah]

I would say "we don't hit, it hurts people. You need to have kind hands." If it continued I would repeat it again and then walk away. Usually walking away did the trick.

Sometimes he would follow me so I would just reiterate that we need to have kind hands and if he hit again then he got a time out.

[auroraloo]

I've done all of this.

[NandaB]

Honestly, she's so little I would talk less and keep up the ignoring (however you decide to do it.)

So "no hitting." Put her down and walk away. Rinse and repeat. And repeat....

[NandaB]

Jul 10, 2015 12:27:58 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Honestly, she's so little I would talk less and keep up the ignoring (however you decide to do it.)

So "no hitting." Put her down and walk away. Rinse and repeat. And repeat....

ETA: Or if you're one of those no saying no people then say "gentle hands" or whatever you hippies say

[lattelady5]

Jul 10, 2015 12:29:32 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Jul 10, 2015 12:27:58 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Honestly, she's so little I would talk less and keep up the ignoring (however you decide to do it.)

So "no hitting." Put her down and walk away. Rinse and repeat. And repeat....

ETA: Or if you're one of those no saying no people then say "gentle hands" or whatever you hippies say

Lol I do gentle hands but I would keep doing this. Demonstrate gentle hands once and thended walk away. If she's doing it for attention or fun or whatever I'd just ignore and remove myself. I've told both kids mommy does not play with hitters/biters/pinches and put them down or walked away.

[Deleted]

What they said ("we don't hit", walk away or put down)...but mostly it just takes REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT.

[andrewsgal]

Jul 10, 2015 12:27:58 GMT -5 NandaB said:

Honestly, she's so little I would talk less and keep up the ignoring (however you decide to do it.)

So "no hitting." Put her down and walk away. Rinse and repeat. And repeat....

Yep and it make take 1002 times for her to get it so if you give up at 1001 you have started at square 1. Do this every time and be very consistent.