DS1 will absolutely not poop in the toilet or his potty. He does well in underwear when he needs to pee, but he'll poop in his underwear or pull-up. He runs and hides or tells us to "SHHH! Be quiet!" when he's about to and I try to rush him to the potty, but he won't and just goes in whatever he's wearing. We have a good reward for him when he does go and he reminds us daily about it. "When I poop on the potty we get to go to xyz!" How do I reassure him that it's okay to poop in the toilet?
Post by electricmayhem on Jul 10, 2015 12:43:30 GMT -5
DS was doing this too, and he didn't GAF about any sort of reward (and we had TONS at all price points, LOL). We'd remind him all of the time, and he'd constantly say stuff like, "When I poop in the potty, I get _____! " all excited, but then when the time came? Accident.
Unfortunately, the only thing it took was time and practice, maybe 2-3 weeks. I'd remind him every day at daycare dropoff and we'd repeat on the way home. Accident-free days got a big reward. At home though, I asked him to help clean himself up, very matter of fact, "Poop goes in the potty, so now we have to clean everything up". And I'd (minimally) help him take his underwear off, empty it in the toilet, clean himself up, flush, wash hands, change clothes, rinse underwear in laundry sink. We had to do that maybe three times (over a few weekends) before I think he realized it was way less work to just go in the toilet.
I feel your pain though. There was no amount of reassurance or incentive in the world that was going to convince mine to poop on the toilet until he made up his mind to do it.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Jul 10, 2015 12:46:31 GMT -5
Oh man, my DD was REALLY stubborn with the pooping.
Part of her problem was that she was holding it and it hurt her. Make sure that's not the problem before you start pushing him to go poop on the potty.
The other part was just that she wasn't ready when I wanted her to be. However, we had 2 big things she NEEDED to be potty trained for: a family vacation to a water park and preschool. She was SUPER excited to go to preschool, so we pushed 'only big kids who use the potty for BOTH poop AND pee get to go to preschool' etc. So, we pushed liquids & miralax - got her pretty consistent with the poop, then spent a month bribing her with preschool, small toys and the promise of a visit to Build a Bear if she would use the potty consistently each week.
How old is he? How long has he been peeing in the potty. It took DD about another six months to consistently poop in the potty.
Yup it took us almost 7 months or so until he was pooping on the potty. He wouldnt poop in his underwear he would just hold it or poop in a pull up.
I think I might have you guys beat - I took Ds2 over a YEAR to poop on the potty! Yes, my kid was pee trained (including nights) for over a year before he would even try to poop on the potty. No amount of rewards was worth it to him until he wanted to do it on his own.
We did what @starry did....he got to pick out his own toy at the store. It took 45 min for him to choose and probably shaved 5 years off my life but he pooped the next day. We also talked a lot about how poop is the stuff your body doesn't need/can't use and that's why we flush it away.
Yup it took us almost 7 months or so until he was pooping on the potty. He wouldnt poop in his underwear he would just hold it or poop in a pull up.
I think I might have you guys beat - I took Ds2 over a YEAR to poop on the potty! Yes, my kid was pee trained (including nights) for over a year before he would even try to poop on the potty. No amount of rewards was worth it to him until he wanted to do it on his own.
LOL! Same here, he DNGAF he was going to do it when HE was ready. It was totally a control thing. I kept just kept saying well he won't go to college in pull ups....
It took DD a while. Hiding is very common, and sometimes they're scared to see something come out of their body and get flushed away. It may just take time.
Post by blueberry10 on Jul 10, 2015 13:24:27 GMT -5
We went through this too. We'd been putting on the pressure but we ended up having to back off for a while, and suddenly she decided it was OK and has had few accidents since then. She started holding it in when she was getting stressed out about it, which is not a cycle you want to get into!
DS pooped in the potty multiple times. He tells us when he needs to go, we bring the potty, he does it. No problem.
Except at daycare. 2 days in a row now he has pooped in his underwear. They have noticed a pattern and are going to try to get him to the potty at that time, but is there anything else we can do? 2 days a week isn't going to cut it for learning.
So I finished reading Oh Crap! - and that woman is somewhat insufferable.
Did you send your son to day care with no underwear, or did you do pull ups or underwear?
I started with step one - I told DS that I would throw away his diapers soon and I would teach him how to use the potty. And he said OK! Only 1000 more steps to go.
Poop training was the worst. It took us almost a year.
I do agree to make sure there are no withholding/constipation issues before pushing it.
We downloaded the Ava See Me Potty app. She watched that about 8 trillion times. Once she realized she wouldn't fall in she was okay. We also bribed the hell out of her.