I can't say anything, can I?

[Elsa]

My sister who is pregnant with twins found out yesterday that she is having two girls.

She is naming one Ava. Beautiful.

She wants to name the other one Addison and call her Addie.

My daughter is Madeleine and goes by Maddie.

I'm irritated. Maddie and Addie? Are you fucking kidding me?

But this is something I have to keep to myself, right?

[verypunny]

Unfortunately, yes.

[Elsa]

A lot. At least once a month. More if they end up moving back here.

[hopecounts]

Yep, you can't say anything.
And if she's only 20ish weeks she may come to that realization on her own.
It's not final until it's on the birth certificate

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Meh it isn't a huge deal. I have a cousin whose name is one letter off from my sister's name. It was awkward at first, but it wasn't a big deal after a few months.

[cuddlyevil]

Yeah, you need to keep it to yourself.

[cookietime]

Maybe if you brightly say "aw, the cousins will be Maddie and Addie, so cute!" she'll change her mind. When's she due?

[poppyseed]

Ugh, I'm sorry. I always had the name Madeleine/Madelyn at the top of my list. My sister got pregnant and named her daughter Adalyn, so I couldn't use the name I like when I found out I was having a girl. We did go with Madison so it's still Maddie/Addie, but M doesn't go by Maddie for this reason.

[Deleted]

I can't imagine you would say anything, but this is one of those situations where you just have to sit on your annoyance.

Is she firmly in BEC territory for you? B/c this seems a little much. It's not the same name at all.

[pretzel]

You get no vote. LOL.

[shopgirl07]

Honestly, I understand your gut reaction but I really don't think it I will be a big deal.

[Jalapeñomel]

This is a non-issue.

[cabbagecabbage]

My sister and I are close enough that I'd feel comfortable saying something about the rhyming thing once. Then I'd drop it.

[wannabe]

I totally get it and I'd be all eye-rolly to myself, but yeah...other than something super breezy I don't think you can really say anything :/

[cville]

No. You can't.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I have the type of relationship with my sister where I could be like, "Addie and Maddie? Really, dipshit?" And she probably would laugh and tell me to fuck off and then name her child Addie anyway. lol

If you don't have that type of relationship, don't say anything. Maybe she'll change her mind, or maybe, even if she doesn't, you won't care so much as you do now once maybe-Addie is born.

I have two cousins named Meaghan and Meghann.

[stephm0188]

No, you can't really say anything. You both picked popular names with nicknames that are even more popular.

[pagas]

I don't see the big deal.

[sofamonkey]

I'm sorry you are hurting.

[shananagins]

Depends on your relationship with your sister. Before I knew we were having girls I told my brother what my top name choices were. He said that my top boy name sounded like an old gay British man. I laughed and told him to shove it and that was the end of the discussion. I would think you would have a close enough relationship with your sister to mention that having cousins with rhyming names may be a little silly, but really I don't think it's a big deal.
On another note, I am getting rid of a TON of my girls old clothes, I have a lot of cute matching twin sets. Want any?

[tictac]

Not your kid, not your choice. You need to just get over it.

[Elsa]

I know you are all right.
And yes, she is totally in BEC with me. Ugh.

I'll keep my (possibly undeserved) judging to myself

[sapphireblue]

I agree with previous posters--I would say something in a light hearted way about their names rhyming. She may not have thought of it yet. But I think that's all you can say.

[Monica Geller]

I'm sorry Elsa. With my sister, I'd make a joke about it, but beyond that there's nothing else to say.

[franklin]

Jul 14, 2015 20:11:48 GMT -5 socratic said:

I mean if it was my sister I would be like really you want them to having rhyming names...but she would likely tell me to shut it and that she came name her kid whatever she wants.

With your sister...idk :-)


ETA: And then when she named her child Addie I would proceed to call her my own made up nickname like Jenny or something to forever irritate her. But we love each other like that!

i don't know what your relationship is like, but i could joke with my brothers and SIL and say something like the above without issue. beyond that, not a whole lot you can do, well, besides "innocently" suggesting other names lol. i get the annoyance though.

[Elsa]

Jul 14, 2015 20:24:22 GMT -5 shananagins said:

Depends on your relationship with your sister. Before I knew we were having girls I told my brother what my top name choices were. He said that my top boy name sounded like an old gay British man. I laughed and told him to shove it and that was the end of the discussion. I would think you would have a close enough relationship with your sister to mention that having cousins with rhyming names may be a little silly, but really I don't think it's a big deal.
On another note, I am getting rid of a TON of my girls old clothes, I have a lot of cute matching twin sets. Want any?

Lol your post on one of our local B/s/t sites popped up in my feed, I guess cause I'm on it too and we are friends
I didn't look closely at the post, but I will! Thanks for reminding me!

[elleblue]

On the bright side, your daughter was born, named (and nicknamed) long before hers. If anyone thinks anything of it, which I'm betting they won't, they'll think she's the copycat, not you.

I'm sorry this is upsetting you, I know how hard it's been for you. *hugs*

[shamrockshake]

Jul 14, 2015 20:20:51 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I have the type of relationship with my sister where I could be like, "Addie and Maddie? Really, dipshit?" And she probably would laugh and tell me to fuck off and then name her child Addie anyway. lol

Are we sisters? Lol that's pretty much the exact conversation we'd have. We're a very blunt family 

[anastasia517]

My mother's older brother shares a first AND last name with one of their younger cousins. The families spent a ton of time together and it was no big deal. But, at the same time, I understand your frustration. I know you can't claim a name and they're technically different but I would wonder why it couldn't be something a bit farther away from my kid's name.

[bonquiqui]

I know I am alone in this, but I don't understand not wanting people that have the same names or similar names. When I was a kid I always thought it was the coolest thing when I met other Katie's. My dad's fraternity brother had a daughter named Katie and I always thought it was so much fun.

I know this has nothing to do with your post, but that's all I've got. I vote no big deal