Mildly irritated at my sister

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My stepdad's had pneumonia for three days now--he's in the hospital on oxygen. I haven't talked to my mom since my sister is sending me text updates. If I called my mom, she'd tell me not to worry, "everything's fine!", etc., so my sis's updates are welcomed.

I texted my sister this morning that I'm thinking that maybe I should skip my trip to DC and head directly to Oregon. It was more of me thinking outloud text-style. I didn't ask my sister to pass this on to my mom. But guess what she did? She took it upon herself to tell my mom that I was going to change my travel plans.

My sister texted me back at lunch saying "Mom's going to call you because she doesn't want you to skip your trip to DC"!! WTF? I never said for sure I was going to do this. My sister took it upon herself to call my mom about it. Ugh. So now my mom's not only stressed about SD's condition, she thinks I'm stressed and feeling obligated to change my travel plans.

I texted my sis back and told her that if I was truly contemplating a trip deviation, I would have talked to Mom directly and talked to her about it. I asked my sis to call our mom (my mom does not text lol) back and tell her that I wasn't changing my plans. My sis texts back an apology, and then says "I can't call Mom--she's taking a nap!" I texted her back: "That's what voice mail is for!" le sigh

Anybody else here have a busy-body sister/brother?

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Yup. One that thinks she knows all and can direct and one that thinks she's owed and if she doesn't get her way goes into tantrum mode. The second one hasn't talked to me since before my dad died because I told her that it wasn't her choice but SM's who took care of her dog. She pulled the same stunt on other sister when she found out that she took the dog home rather than give it to her (she'd told her that she didn't want to cause problems/friction and she hadn't talked with her husband, so naturally other sister simply took the dog home with her, and tantrums and not-talking ensued.) Thank goodness they're both two states away and younger so I can ignore when warranted.

Both of them think my kids are screwed up and didn't turn out as amazing as theirs because they "don't have Jesus in their lives." (as if they'd know who had what. They barely talked to me in a decade prior to that comment.) They've been trying to convert me for fifteen or so years. Little do they realize that I'm just as religious and Christian as they are, I'm just not as preachy and PRAISE JESUS as they are.

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My sister is like this. She feels the need to share every.little.bit of information with my dad, who in turn gets stressed out and angry because he has a severe anxiety disorder. It's horrible, and has drastically changed my opinion of her (and our relationship) over the last 5 or so years.

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Well, my mom called to tell me that I didn't need to change my flights. lol Apparently my sister didn't call her. (shocker, I know!) I assured her I wasn't coming down any sooner than I had planned. Then I mentioned that I was frustrated with sis, Mom says, "Well, that's her bi-polar acting up." So it sounds like my sis isn't taking her meds like she should. **sigh**

I told Mom not to believe anything Sis says, and we laughed. I was just being silly, but I'm going to be more careful what I text my little sister from now on.

[papie]

I think I am like your sister. For some reason my brain stops when I talk to my mom and I tell her everything about everyone. Sorry!

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Oh, and my mom told me she told my sister she was taking a nap so sister would stop calling her about my SD. I guess she was wanting updates all the time. lol

BTW, my SD is feeling better, but they're still keeping him at the hospital for observation.

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I'm glad your SD is doing better. I hope he recovers fully and quickly. And give your mom a long-distance hug as kiddo would say. =)