Please help DH respond to this email

[gogreengowhite]

My husband just received an email from an old coworker. DH no longer works there but saw him at a party a few weeks back.

Old coworker had left well paying corporate job for a tech job at his church. My H just received an email from old coworker saying he is in need of raising funds since the church cannot afford to pay him.

H is atheist, I'm agnostic at best. He is such a nice guy and we really like him but "the church" is not where we would normally give our money.

How would you respond?

[v]

I'd ignore it, honestly

[sadlebred]

Definitely ignore it.

[Susie]

This email definitely wound up in your H's spam folder, so he didn't see.  I'm sure of it.

I mean, to me the whole "church" issue is completely secondary to the issue of "soliciting donations to cover one's salary."  Dude took a job that isn't financially viable.  Donations aren't going to fix this on any kind of long term basis.  Time to dust off the old resume, friend.

[imojoebunny]

I do not respond to my cousin's pleas for "mission trip" money. I would not respond to this.

I would like to get donations to go hang out with people who don't ruffle my feathers, and agree with me on most things, but alas, that ain't life.

[Deleted]

I wouldn't respond. 

[heygrey]

ignore. ignore. ignore.

h and i have each been employed by churches at various points in our careers and when it was no longer a financially viable option we found new employment. dude can find a job that pays and volunteer his time to do tech stuff at the church as is schedule allows.

[AAM2012]

Definitely ignore

[dexteroni]

Ignore. He probably sent a similar email to everyone in his address book.

If your DH really wants to respond, I wouldn't even address the request for money. I would say something like "sorry to hear that, man. If I hear of any openings for paying gigs, I'll send them your way." Even if he doesn't really intend to do that.

But he really doesn't need to reply.

[gogreengowhite]

Thanks everyone. He will just ignore it.

He feels so guilty because he really likes this guy....but oh well.

[gibbinator]

He probably email blasted his entire contact list. Just ignore.

[dexteroni]

Jul 29, 2015 7:10:59 GMT -5 gogreengowhite said:

Thanks everyone. He will just ignore it.

He feels so guilty because he really likes this guy....but oh well.

It's fine to reply if he wants to be nice. But this email isn't exactly a friend reaching out to say hey. IMO this can be treated the same way as a sales party invitation - if it's from someone I'm not close with or don't like very much, I ignore it. But if it's from someone I know well and like, I'll decline politely.

[RandZB]

I'm a practicing Christian and I'd side-eye that. how bizarre.

[wise_rita]

Since when is volunteering no longer a thing?

Eff this guy, church aside.

[msmerymac]

So in addition to doing tech work for them, he needs to fundraise his own salary? Abort! Abort!

[momof2boys]

Ignore...I don't want to work at my job either but I do it b/c it pays money (not even a lot of money but enough to live on). However, I would not take a job I loved that didn't pay me any money and then beg for handouts...