NPCE: I want to strangle MIL

[bqbride]

We drove 1000 miles to be at dh's little brother's wedding. MIL showed up shitfaced, staggered down the aisle, then proceeded to make a very public, horrifically embarrassing spectacle of herself within the first 5 minutes of the reception. DH and i then left his little brothers wedding that we had driven 1000 miles to attend to take her home, 40 god damn minutes away, so that she could not further embarrass the bride and groom. We then raced back to the reception just in time for the last dance of the evening.

When we got in town earlier this week, we arrived at her house at 9:00 in the morning, only to find her drunk and she fucking knew we were coming. DH was crushed and my heart broke for him. We leave today to drive back home as soon as he gets up. I have been holding back tears and biting my tongue because it will only make him feel worse, but i hsd to get this out. I am literally shaking with rage and i want to spit in her fucking face. I cant even imagine how upset my lil BIL and his new wife are. It was awful, and DH seriously may never speak to her again.

[dylanite]

I came in this thread just to ditto the title, but after reading all of it, I now wanna strangle your MIL with you.

Glad you realize it'd only make things worse if you expressed that rage, at least right now.

[meg]

Also came in here thinking Id be ditto-ing the title but... no. Im sorry that sounds like it is an awful situation for all involved

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. That sounds horrible.

Have you and your H considered attending Al-Anon? I think it might be good for you.

Hugs.

[foundmylazybum]

Aug 19, 2012 10:32:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

You and your dh were SO right, and such a big help to the bride and groom, to get that woman out of there. What a great thing for you to do for them; and if you had to drive 1000 miles to give them that gift, well then great for you. I am so sorry your MIL has to be this way.

Has anyone in the family tried Al Anon? it's really helpful for families of alcoholics, and I'd really recommend it to you and your dh, and all his family.

:Y: and ({) (}) BQ..it sounds like a pretty exhausting weekend.

[ChillyMcFreeze]

Oh bq, I'm so sorry, especially for your H. No child should have to see that behavior in a parent, no matter how old. You guys did a selfless thing for your BIL and SIL.

[emilyj]

OMG, that sounds absolutely horrible for everyone. I am so sorry. Huge (((hugs))).

[taratru]

What a fucking nightmare. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

[StrawberryBlondie]

*HUGS*

I'm so sorry. That sucks.

[lys]

She obviously has a problem with alcohol. What is being done about that?
AA, counseling for her and AlAnon for other family members.
I am sure this was not the first time she was drunk in public.

[ttt]

Aug 19, 2012 17:25:13 GMT -5 lys said:

She obviously has a problem with alcohol. What is being done about that?
AA, counseling for her and AlAnon for other family members.
I am sure this was not the first time she was drunk in public.

You can't make someone go to AA or counseling if they don't want to.

I'm so sorry bq ((hugs)) You and your husband are good people to do that for his brother.

[charminglife]

Aug 19, 2012 10:32:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

You and your dh were SO right, and such a big help to the bride and groom, to get that woman out of there. What a great thing for you to do for them; and if you had to drive 1000 miles to give them that gift, well then great for you. I am so sorry your MIL has to be this way.

This. I'm really sorry you missed the reception, but you and your DH saved your BIL and new SIL more embarrassment and heartache by removing your MIL from the situation, and I'm sure they're grateful.
Its such an awful situation and I'm sorry for you and your DH.

[bqbride]

Sorry guys, didnt mean to post and run but we were on the road all day. Thank you for your support. It really helps to have someone to vent to. DH is doing better after putting nearly a thousand miles between mil and us today. She refuses help and is just completely dysfunctional. Im pretty sure that her husband is about to leave her and 3out of 4 of her kids want nothing to do with her. DH is in recovery for 11 years now, and my dad drank himself to death at 52 so we are well acquainted w/aa, al anon, etc. It is still fucking heartbreaking to watch.

Sue sue, i keep telling dh the same thing. We marched her ass out of there, threw her in the truck and told her not to say a fucking word. Yes, it was every bit as mortifying and horrible as it sounds. But the look on bil and new sil's face when we made it back for the last dance and to see them off made it all worth it. We are still glad we went but i am still so fucking angry i want to drive all the way back up there and kick her ass.

[copzgirl1171]

I am so sorry but you did a phenomenal job handling it.

*hugs*

[Deleted]

Your BIL and SIL are so lucky you guys took care of the situation. I am sorry you have had to deal with that.

[iammalcolmx]

I am very sorry. How embarrassing, disappointing and emotionally draining that must have been. I agree with going to the Al-Anon meeting maybe they will have some insight as to how you can deal with this. BQ if you want additionally advice PM me. I Dad has been sober for 31 years and he is my go to guy for advice whenever I have to deal with someone with an issue.