Post by bananapancakes on Jul 29, 2015 15:44:38 GMT -5
After my pity party earlier in the week, H and I had a good chat and came up with some ideas to give me a bit of a break and hopefully allow L to become more comfortable being alone with H. We've decide that once per block that H is off (he works 5 or 6 shifts on and then 4 off) I will take the afternoon/evening off and he'll take care of dinner, bath, and bed by himself while I enjoy some me time!
Right now I'm getting a mani-pedi and then I'm taking myself out for dinner and fro-yo!
I'd love to hear what you do for me time and how you balance it with H.
That's awesome! Sometimes my me time is just holing up in our room reading while he handles the kids. I don't always want to leave my house to get free time, sometimes I just want quiet relaxation. BUT first you need to work on letting L and H get used to alone time and the easiest way to do that is definitely leave the house!
My most consistent "me time" is gym childcare. As excited as I am for football season, I also dread the lack of time for myself besides the gym. H is gone a lot, then when he's home, I feel like we need family time. My group of friends is good about scheduling GNO at least once a month. Enjoy your evening!!
Good for you! And way to go Mr. BP for working with you on a solution.
Things we do: -DH gets up with DS and I sleep in a little bit -on weekends we switch off who is the "primary parent". We split each day (so we both feel like we got some down time each day) but I know some people switch off days. -DH does bedtime about once a week and I go get a pedi or do something else by myself
Sometimes my me time is just holing up in our room reading while he handles the kids. I don't always want to leave my house to get free time, sometimes I just want quiet relaxation.
I do this too! I can't hear DS cry if I close the master bedroom & bathroom doors and run the jets on the bathtub (or if I take a shower).
That's awesome! Sometimes my me time is just holing up in our room reading while he handles the kids. I don't always want to leave my house to get free time, sometimes I just want quiet relaxation. BUT first you need to work on letting L and H get used to alone time and the easiest way to do that is definitely leave the house!
Yes, hopefully we'll get there but right now, if I'm in the house he just wants me and a break is pretty much impossible. H does sometimes take him on errands or to the park and I get a break in the house then.
Sounds great! My H takes the kids over to my in laws on Sunday mornings and they go over on Monday afternoons.
This is the next phase of our plan. We are planning a "weaning trip" for later in August. H is going to take L to his parents for 3 days while I stay home. With buying the house we can't really fit the cost of a real trip into the budget so I'm just going to stay home and enjoy the quiet!
After we move he's going to do trips to the inlaws a couple times a month and one overnight per month.
Post by MadamePresident on Jul 29, 2015 16:51:59 GMT -5
So jealous.
I get "me time" after I tuck the kids into bed and before they start waking up. But usually my "me time" is spent doing chores I didn't get done while the kids were awake.
I get "me time" after I tuck the kids into bed and before they start waking up. But usually my "me time" is spent doing chores I didn't get done while the kids were awake.
That's too bad. This is usually me too but we're working to change it. Hope you get more me time soon!
Post by bananapancakes on Jul 29, 2015 20:12:56 GMT -5
I'm home! I got my mani-pedi, had a fabulous dinner, went for fro-yo and did a little shopping. H said L did great. He fussed a little at the beginning and looked in all the rooms for me but then they got playing and all was fine. When he first went in the crib he cried a bit and was pointing at the bed where I usually nurse him but H rubbed his back and he fell asleep in 5 minutes. All in all, it was a great night!