Whenever I'm drinking a glass of wine or housing some guacamole or a cookie, I'm all like, I could be at this weight forever. I'm so happy!
But in reality, I'm not happy at this weight (which could totally be my settling weight) so I think I have to start fighting to lose the rest of the weight.
Post by catsarecute on Jul 29, 2015 16:31:17 GMT -5
I'm currently 9 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight which is still about 30 pounds too heavy. I just don't know if I have the will power to go through life counting calories and limiting myself on foods I love to lose 30 pounds. I'm not super happy with my current body and would feel better about myself if I lost another 15 on top of that 9 I NEED to lose but yeah......I'm considering settling and just trying to be healthier overall and exercise more often. If I lose more weight, great. If I just maintain, awesome. Ain't nobody got time for a life without a donut!
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 29, 2015 16:33:03 GMT -5
I'm also only 5'0".
112 is my "holy shit I look fucking amazing" weight. I was there when I was 31, but now that I'm 40 I will never be back there again without a considerable amount of effort. I got down to 117 a year and a half or so ago and it was work. I was eating low carb and nursing my son and I cut out alcohol entirely for a month to hit it.
My body really likes around 124 - 127 and tends to naturally head there. But it's slowly creeping up. I was 128 when I got pregnant and I've gained 21 pounds this pregnancy, putting me at 149. I fully anticipate my body's happy weight to be around 128 - 130 after I finally stop nursing.
I will work hard enough to keep it around 125, but I like my wine and I like dessert and if I have to permanently give those up and be happy with just a taste, it's not going to happen. I could greatly increase my exercise, but that's not happening either.
Maintenance isn't even the issue with me. I lost 50lbs in 6 months once. But I was a) under 30, b) not caring for 2 kids and c) under 30. I don't think I can lose 50 lbs right now, unless I spend like 3 years doing it. I just want to lose 40 and then maintain. And I know, it's only 10lbs, but those last 10 suck like a mo-fo.
Post by wanderlustmom on Jul 29, 2015 16:36:27 GMT -5
Yes, when I got married I weighed ten pounds less. And that's a lot for my frame because I am short and small boned. I have also weighed twenty pounds higher. Give myself a five pound range now and my clothes fit--but I would need to eat a lot less to weigh my wedding weight again
yes. a couple years ago, i lost 40lbs and was still overweight but thought i looked pretty dang good i'm working on getting back down to that unhealthy weight so i can stay there. LOL!
Post by Ohhmm(bligo) on Jul 29, 2015 16:44:32 GMT -5
Yep. I gained about 30 pounds all of a sudden (went off ADHD meds, which I don't think helped), and I was pissed for a while, but now I don't give a shit. Bring on the fucking s'mores.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Yes. If I'm below 200, I'm psyched. For a long lime I wanted be under 170. Ain't happening in my thirties with any carbs, wine, or fun in my life.
I feel much happier at a strong 195 with confidence than I did at 165 ten years ago.
The specific numbers are different, but this is my general theory. I want carbs, wine and cheese. And I fucking bike my ass off so that I can justify them. My legs and ass are incredibly toned right now. And I don't care what the scale says. :::eats another Red Vine because VACATION:::
I'm 5'11" so the 145ers are making me laugh a little ;-)
At my lowest weight as an adult i was about 185. Right at the top of my "healthy" bmi, but I was starting to look sick. Even being a size 14. My personal happy weight is around 210...wore m/l tops and size 14/16 pants and I looked curvy and healthy. Ran 5k's. And was able to still go out with friends and not freak out about lack of food choices.
over the last year or so i've realized that i need to settle with a higher weight then ideal, but i'm "ok" with yet - i'm working on it. i'm about 20/25lbs above what is the middle weight for my height and i'm at least 30/35lbs above my pre-preg weight and i need to realize that that weight is not going to happen again without being unhealthy. but like jenny1980 said, if i'm consistently working out it's easier to feel ok settling and feel good about myself.
Yes, for sure. What it would take at this point to weigh what I weighed in my prime is just way too much. Life is hard enough as it is. I am at a healthy weight and am learning to be OK with that and just trying to maybe take off a few pounds and definitely avoid gaining more, but I will be honest that I am still not thrilled with what I see in photos of myself, and I worry about post-menopause and what that will do to me. But for now, I'm not willing to go crazy militant with my diet. No thanks.
I am struggling with this right now. I am having a very hard time accepting that my current weight is my body's happy place. I am not happy with my weight, but I also don't want to give up drinking or yummy foods entirely. That being said, I am at the point where I need to either accept my weight as-is OR stop drinking to see if I can shake these last couple of pounds to feel better. I really don't want to spend the rest of my life hating what I look like.
Like PP said above, I try very hard to focus on feeling healthy/doing healthy things and not focusing on the number. It's just really, really hard sometimes.
If anyone has success stories about accepting their body not matter what they weigh, I would be grateful to hear them.
For me, I always feel SO much better about my body when I am active. Even if I am heavier than I want to be (I am currently 30 lbs above my pre-kids weight, which was about 15lbs above my happy weight), if I feel strong I feel really good about myself. I also tend to make better food choices when I am working out.Â
Yes. Even if I'm just walking on a treadmill 3x a week for 30 minutes I feel SO much better about myself.:
Post by trafficgirl on Jul 29, 2015 17:39:15 GMT -5
Sort of.
I'm in the process of losing weight now. My BMI puts me into obese and I would at the very least like to get into the overweight category.
To get to a normal BMI, I would need to weigh around 165. The last time I was that weight was high school. I know I would not be happy at that weight because I wouldn't be able to enjoy things like wine and cheese, so I just don't even try and go there mentally.
Post by RoxMonster on Jul 29, 2015 17:42:55 GMT -5
My settling weight is a lot higher than many of your settling weights lol. I don't want to say specific numbers, but yes, I do settle for a number higher than I am comfortable with. Honestly, I could be healthier too, so I am trying to lose some weight for health purposes only. I am so done with trying get down to an unrealistic size for me or obsessing over every bite I put in my mouth. Fuck that. My goal is just to be able to be active and healthy and live a long life.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 29, 2015 17:47:25 GMT -5
One of my friends was just featured in a CrossFit online news blog of some sort. She looks fantastic, but she is so incredibly disciplined with working out and with every bite that goes in her mouth.
She is an amazing baker, but she only bakes for others and never herself. I don't think I could do it.
I'm short and feel like every lb shows. I prefer my body at 120lbs. However, that means I have account for every tic tac and it's just not worth it to me. 135-139 is what I am when I eat like absolute crap and do zero exercise. I feel like anywhere between 125-130 is best for me overall. I still have to eat right and exercise, but I can have burgers and beer too.
This is pretty much where I'm at, weight-wise and attitude-wise. Counting every tic tac was worth it (to me) when I was younger, but as I get older it's gotten a lot harder to not only physically stay that weight but also have the motivation to stay that weight. I like burgers and beer too (and cheese and wine)! So I guess I've settled apart from my "ideal" weight, but I'm still at a healthy weight for my height.
140 is my settle weight. I have tried to drop the last 10 lbs and it just hadn't happened. And I am not willing to give booze and carbs up for life. If I go up to 141 then my BMI says overweight so I cling to 140 lol.
Being active is very important to me though. I have been so happy the past couple months because I was running so much. So being fit and athleticis much more important to me then the jean size or scale number.
Post by aprilsails on Jul 29, 2015 18:22:07 GMT -5
I am happy at the top top range of normal weight for me based on BMI. 5 lbs above that and I don't like it (nor do my lousy arches). I would love to be able to get down to and maintain my wedding weight (10 lbs lighter), but I went up those 10 lbs on the honeymoon and they aren't ever going away again.
I'm happy at my maintenance weight and love being able to drink all the beer and cider while being super active.
Granted this was all pre-pregnancy so things have somewhat gone out the window. We'll see how things look in a year from now.
Post by jennysmitten on Jul 29, 2015 18:39:40 GMT -5
I'm getting ok with it. I have lost about 10 lbs over the last few months, and would call it good if I could lose 10 more. Even if I do, that would still be more than the weight I look best/ is ideal for me. I am also short, and gaining is a bitch. It is very noticeable. I kinda work out and have really cleaned up my diet. I still have chocolate and wine though and I won't give it up. I don't eat eat a lot of carby things, except fruit , and I do indulge in pasta etc every once in awhile. I look and feel better when my diet consists mostly of fruits, vegetables and protein. But fuck a life where things were ALWAYS off limits. Not worth it.
Post by pittsmcgee on Jul 29, 2015 19:24:29 GMT -5
I feel like the last 6 months or so I've just been kind of like "fuck it" I used to be obsessed with weighing myself, eating sooo clean, and would get crazy stressed if I didn't get at least 7 days of working out in. I can't remember the last time I weighed myself and I'm lucky if I work out 5 days a week. I'd love to lose 10lbs, but I'm not sure it's worth the hassle anymore. My h still loves me. For now.
Also I have watched my mom unsuccessfully diet for my whole freaking life. I refuse to punish myself in that way. Instead I am trying to be healthy, but yet a peace with my body.
I want to get back to 145 since that is the upper threshold of normal BMI for my height. Less would be even better, but who am I kidding? I like food too much and I don't want to stress about calories. I looked really good at that weight, any less and I might lose the boobs. ;-)
Post by Queen Mamadala on Jul 29, 2015 20:00:35 GMT -5
I've thought about this quite a bit. A few years back my goal was, gosh, 160 lbs. I made it to as low as 178 lbs, and I looked fucking great. I felt fantastic, but my sights were set on the single digit, ya know? I wanted to be an 6/8, because an 6/8 meant I made it to the "normal" size, despite looking good at a 10. I wore a 10 in dresses, some even 8. But I wanted to be an 8 in pants/jeans. I was also relatively new to the dating scene and wanted to look my best, or as I came to know, HWP.
Now, I don't know. I felt great at 180 lbs and had a normal BMI, great hip to waist ratio, so I think I'd be fine with staying there, at my 8/10 size. I may shoot for 170 to give me some wiggle room during holidays and birthdays.
For me, I always feel SO much better about my body when I am active. Even if I am heavier than I want to be (I am currently 30 lbs above my pre-kids weight, which was about 15lbs above my happy weight), if I feel strong I feel really good about myself. I also tend to make better food choices when I am working out.
You are so right. When I'm working out or just being active I feel so much better about myself and feel more confident in my body. I also make better food choices too. I just don't like how working out can make me hungrier than before!
Even when I was at lower weights, I still felt the exact same as I do now. I look back at pictures and think, "why didn't I appreciate how good I looked?" I don't want to look back at this time of my life and think the same thing.
Regardless, it's really comforting to know that I'm not the only one who worries about this!
I am 5'4" and currently 160, which is only about 5 pounds more than I was pre-babies. However, I really want to get to 145. I had all summer at home to get in shape, and I didn't, and now I'm kicking myself. I have made some really poor food decisions lately. I'm hoping when I go back to work in a few weeks I'll be able to make better food choices.
I have had success losing on WW but the problem is I lose 8 pounds in about a month or so, get lax, and then gain it back. I need to stick with it consistently for a while.
Post by lissaholly on Jul 29, 2015 21:19:01 GMT -5
I am in a better place mentally and physically if I chose a healthy balance. Sugar and alcohol have always been part of my diet and I will not change that, otherwise I feel like I am being punished. I keep it minimal though. A glass of wine with dinner, or a martini after- not both. That garlic bread with steak, or that cupcake after a carb-less dinner.
I would say I am on overhaul number 3 as an adult. My current weight loss ( 40 lbs) is my record breaker. I think I lost 30 and 20 right after college and the baby weight after my first DD. I hate that we can " settle" or " work too hard" on our bodies as women. I really wish that just being "healthy " was an option. I am raising two girls and I feel like I am damned if I do and damned if I don't address my weight with them and body issues.
I don't want to let society teach them that women can eat whatever and still look amazing ( Gilmore girls? Yeah, Lorelei's arms were ripped. She didn't " hate excecise" and eat only microwaveable appetizers and take out Chinese food). I also don't want them to think that women MUST look amazing.
OMG, this. For instance, the commercial for Odd Mom Out made me not want to watch the show. She's judging other mothers for never eating/eating crazy shit to stay skinny, and talking about eating pizza and cake, when she's easily just as thin. No. You don't get to brag about eating a ton of pizza when you're a size zero and scorn women who have to work at it. Fuck you. Women are held to this impossible standard of looking tiny and delicate while knocking back beers and nachos. That shit does not work.
I am fighting to lose 10lbs. I feel like for sure if I lose these last 10lbs that I gained shortly before I got pregnant with O I'll be "back to normal." Except he'll be 2 in October so...is this the new normal? I hope not because I'm not happy with how I look or how my clothes fit. And I feel this odd pressure to make it happen before my birthday in January. Like if I can't by then, I NEVAH WILL.
I am 5'5" and was 127 on my wedding day. I'm glad it's memorialized on film because ain't no way. I was in my last year of law school so had plenty of time to work out and a free school gym, 28 years old, and no dollahs to spend on treats. I was cute, though. Lol.