Working at the same company/office as your SO (long)

[Deleted]

We worked together for probably the first 3 years we dated (different areas, he travelled a lot so wasn't in the office much) but even the days we could of carpooled together we didn't. There were days when we pulled out of the garage and into the garage within 10 minutes of each other - but the thought of carpooling/being on each others exact schedule - didn't work for me.

[pixelpassion]

H and I are in very different fields, but we both had the same side job at home (appraisals) and would work together often on separate reports.
It was good for the most part but sometimes we would argue about work and how we would split it up.

I think in situations like this it totally depends on the relationship

[aprilsails]

I will never cross paths professionally with DH, but I do have an anecdote.

My Mom and Stepdad and Dad all worked together at the same dealership for 13 years. Mom and Stepdad as a sales team, and Dad as shop manager. It definitely presented difficulties, but they get along well and my Mom and Strpdad found it convenient to be able to bounce clients between each other. I think the fact that they had a supply of constant new clients helped keep things interesting for them.

My Mom no longer works there since she returned to her original career in microbiology, so now my Stepdad managed sales and my Dad manages the garage. Everyone I know thinks this is crazy but they all do get along really well.

[cbwm1]

We work for the same (very large) company. Different departments, different buildings that are a 5 minute walk away. We've done this for 11 years, it's worked quite well for us. However, if we were in a smaller company that would require us to interact regularly, idk that either one of us would be cool with that.

[isabel]

I really think this is so specific to each person. I think my H and I could absolutely do it and be just fine, but that's a big reflection of how we interact as a couple and, even more so, my H's leader personality. If it wouldn't work for you, that's just fine. Maybe you can wait it out a while and get to the point where there would be enough separation to make it comfortable?