Thanks again for all the support. He's still calling me today and wanting to talk and I know I shouldn't talk to him because each time I do it is making me question my choice. He says he loves me and misses me but I feel like I am being manipulated.
Thanks again for all the support. He's still calling me today and wanting to talk and I know I shouldn't talk to him because each time I do it is making me question my choice. He says he loves me and misses me but I feel like I am being manipulated.
take it from someone who has been there, survived that - you ARE being manipulated and best thing to do if you are DONE with him is to 1- ignore all of his calls and 2- document, document document w dates, times, names, subject matter, etc ... It'll come in handy when you go to either file an RO or full custody.
Post by teatimefor2 on Aug 5, 2015 14:07:08 GMT -5
Firstly congratulations on your expected little boy! You have made a courageous first step that your baby boy one is going to benefit from, ensuring he is in a safe environment surrounded by love, family and security. You are already a fantastic mom and role model to him! As someone who left an abusive boyfriend, I say this hopefully in a non-creepy way, I am proud of you and your son will be to one day when he is old enough to understand. Don't let this cloud your excitement and joyful time in your life; surround yourself with those that love you and your son.
I don't have any advice, but to say seek legal advice, accept help from others and remember how strong you are!
I'm going to stop talking to him because it is not doing any good. He says that I'm his backbone and that he'll fall apart without me. I told him it is not fair for me to shoulder that responsibility. I am done and I'm focusing on moving forward. I went out and bought more stuff for the baby today and I'm going to take tomorrow to start organizing and then on Friday my mom will be coming to my doctor appointment with me.
I need to let go of this guilt though. I can't be responsible for what he chooses to do. The bills are in my name and he is at the apartment. I need to call and cancel them and break the lease and he asked me to wait until Friday to do it so I will. I'm going to see if I can go to an alanon meeting sooner than Saturday too because I'm hoping that it will help be stay strong in my decision.
I'm going to stop talking to him because it is not doing any good. He says that I'm his backbone and that he'll fall apart without me. I told him it is not fair for me to shoulder that responsibility. I am done and I'm focusing on moving forward. I went out and bought more stuff for the baby today and I'm going to take tomorrow to start organizing and then on Friday my mom will be coming to my doctor appointment with me.
I need to let go of this guilt though. I can't be responsible for what he chooses to do. The bills are in my name and he is at the apartment. I need to call and cancel them and break the lease and he asked me to wait until Friday to do it so I will. I'm going to see if I can go to an alanon meeting sooner than Saturday too because I'm hoping that it will help be stay strong in my decision.
He won't fall apart without you and its crap to put that responsibility on you in any situation much less when you are about to be responsible for a new person. Manipulation like this is hard. Stay strong.