Vents, Randoms, etc.

[belle55]

I'm sorry. I've been struggling with announcements lately too, even those I know have been trying a while and have been through a loss. It's just so hard. When is it going to be my turn?

[annabear07]

Ugh that sucks! It hurts regardless but especially when you weren't expecting it. It's like watching a deer serenely crossing the meadow when wham it gets hit by a train. So hugs!!!

My vent is that my DH really needs to get a real job! He has been doing the independent contractor thing for nearly a year and it's not good for him. He needs an office and other people and other people to manage. I'm not appreciating getting managed at home!!

And now my dilemma. I'm on 12 dpo and usually have a 12 day lp. I want to wait to test until I'm late, especially since I have zero symptoms right now. However we are going to my brothers house Thursday night for the weekend. Do I take a test with me? Or take it Thursday night before it leave? WWGPD? Chances are I'll get af tomorrow and this will all be moot!

[callmehales]

those AF hormones are NO. JOKE. especially when you're TTC.

you're totally allowed to be happy for them, and sad for you at the same time.

[konapoppy]

Hugs jodippls. I also ugly cried for a long time last night (have a very recent loss and my mom accidentally forwarded an email where she called me fat). I took a long hot shower and some Advil pm. Hope today is better for you.

[kellikans]

Hugs jodippls and konapoppy

[konapoppy]

Aug 5, 2015 13:25:03 GMT -5 jodippls said:

Aug 5, 2015 13:12:49 GMT -5 konapoppy said:

Hugs jodippls. I also ugly cried for a long time last night (have a very recent loss and my mom accidentally forwarded an email where she called me fat). I took a long hot shower and some Advil pm. Hope today is better for you.

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I'm feeling a little better today. How about you?

Yep, I am a little feeling better too. Still really mad, but not nearly as many tears. Hang in there.

[callmehales]

Aug 5, 2015 13:12:49 GMT -5 konapoppy said:

Hugs jodippls. I also ugly cried for a long time last night (have a very recent loss and my mom accidentally forwarded an email where she called me fat). I took a long hot shower and some Advil pm. Hope today is better for you.

um, do you need me to punch your mother? cuz i so will.

[konapoppy]

Aug 5, 2015 14:11:43 GMT -5 callmehales said:

Aug 5, 2015 13:12:49 GMT -5 konapoppy said:

Hugs jodippls. I also ugly cried for a long time last night (have a very recent loss and my mom accidentally forwarded an email where she called me fat). I took a long hot shower and some Advil pm. Hope today is better for you.

um, do you need me to punch your mother? cuz i so will.

Thanks My sister was more than willing to do the deed. I still have to figure out how to proceed with my mom in a non-violent way. Ugh.

[Deleted]

Hugs jodippls and konapoppy.

Bfn at 12 dpo so I'm expecting AF tomorrow. I'm in Niagara Falls right now with my H on a short vacation and I have a feeling I will be miserable with cramps tomorrow.

i ugly cried yesterday watching a video about breastfeeding awareness.

[HoneySpider]

I'm not in a good place today, just really emotional about a number of things. I'm ready for today to be over.

[grover]

Hugs ladies.

I spent today receiving phone calls, fb messages, emails and voicemails from my mother, who is currently planning baby sister's baby shower for November and is alternating asking me for advice, and then shooting down my advice. So I stopped answering the phone and responding to her messages and then I get sent a text asking why am I not responding. I'm sure I'll hear it all night tonight over dinner, since mom is currently living at my house. :-\


Middle sister and I just decided we're skipping family Thanksgiving this year and either doing Chinese or pizza this year at my house. Between family wedding end of October where baby sister will flaunt her belly/complain about being unable to drink, her shower early November, Thanksgiving and Christmas, followed by baby birth in January....it's all too much. Through in my IF and I just can't handle it. Why God didn't want me to have a baby in the last 28 or so cycles I have no fucking clue. If I could just be pregnant NOW I might be able to handle all this shit.

[brewco]

Sorry for everyone struggling today!

I put my vent in the state of the ute thread, so I'll skip re-posting it here.

Random: H and I are camping this weekend with my sisters family & my mom. I am really looking forward to it even though we're going less than an hour for home.

TTC related- H is normally pretty quiet about our troubles with TTC. We talk when we need to, but it's not something we bring up often. Last night he said some really nice things and was incredibly supportive regarding my upcoming surgery. It made me feel really good on a day where I really needed it.

[thom]

Hugs ladies.

((HoneySpider))

grover - that's a lot to deal with. I think that's a fine choice about Thanksgiving. Wishing you as much peace as possible right now.

[oneslybookworm]

Aug 5, 2015 14:11:43 GMT -5 callmehales said:

Aug 5, 2015 13:12:49 GMT -5 konapoppy said:

Hugs jodippls. I also ugly cried for a long time last night (have a very recent loss and my mom accidentally forwarded an email where she called me fat). I took a long hot shower and some Advil pm. Hope today is better for you.

um, do you need me to punch your mother? cuz i so will.

This.

[oneslybookworm]

So many hugs to you ladies!!!

I rescheduled a lunch with my friend who just gave birth. I get she's excited and wanting to show off her daughter, but she knows all about our TTTC and I just can't deal with it right now. I'm hoping in a few weeks I'll be in a better place and we can do dinner...but right now it's just not happening. I sort of wish she hadn't even asked to meet...but that's selfish of me.

[grace]

I decided my temps aren't very accurate. If I take it more than once in succession, I get a different reading every time. I guess I'll still do it but take it with a grain of salt. Instead I'm relying on OPKs. And the pain- I have some painful ovulation sometimes.

[callmehales]

Aug 6, 2015 10:02:42 GMT -5 grace said:

I decided my temps aren't very accurate. If I take it more than once in succession, I get a different reading every time. I guess I'll still do it but take it with a grain of salt. Instead I'm relying on OPKs. And the pain- I have some painful ovulation sometimes.

as long as you know OPKs won't actually tell you if you're ovulating.

and yeah, temps fluctuate, just take it when you first wake up, before you start moving around.

[grace]

Aug 6, 2015 10:11:32 GMT -5 callmehales said:

Aug 6, 2015 10:02:42 GMT -5 grace said:

I decided my temps aren't very accurate. If I take it more than once in succession, I get a different reading every time. I guess I'll still do it but take it with a grain of salt. Instead I'm relying on OPKs. And the pain- I have some painful ovulation sometimes.

as long as you know OPKs won't actually tell you if you're ovulating.

and yeah, temps fluctuate, just take it when you first wake up, before you start moving around.

I guess I've been using a combo of everything. I've been tracking temp long enough to know when I generally ovulate in my cycle.

[Mushe]

WTF konapoppy! Oh hell no. I think we have the same mother, btw.

Hugs, HoneySpider. Good thoughts coming your way.

My stupid natural cycle is ending - spotting and cramping and CD1 is either tonight or tomorrow. ONWARD AND UPWARD. I got a coveted Saturday u/s appointment, so I'll be able to cycle without missing work, or at least not for this appointment.

[grace]

Random: the universe is telling me not to test so early. My control line didn't show up. I'll give up and wait like I'm supposed to.

[starryfish]

I hate not knowing when I will get PG! I am such a planner...I NEED to know!!! Plus I like planning travel far in advance, and I can't do that right now....bc who knows where I will be in a year....have a newborn, be 6 months PG, moving on to adoption, etc

[grace]

Aug 16, 2015 10:06:23 GMT -5 jodippls said:

Aug 16, 2015 8:46:42 GMT -5 grace said:

Random: the universe is telling me not to test so early. My control line didn't show up. I'll give up and wait like I'm supposed to.

I had a whole pack do that once. So annoying! (And good luck!!!)

Thanks! I tried another just to see and no control. Ordered a new pack.