Potty Training Regression

[redheadk]

DD has been having a ton of pee accidents for the past few weeks. It is absolutely infuriating. She knows what do do, she's just too lazy to do it, does not want to go when it's suggested, etc. I've tried reminders, bribes, having her help clean it up (she enjoys this), etc. 

Any other ideas? A mom at gym suggested making her throw away her Dora panties if she pees on them. I'm tempted to try it though it seems wasteful and kind of mean but, fuck, I'm DONE with this.

[chickens987]

Sticker chart? Go a certain number of days without an accident and she gets a special treat?

[Deleted]

J went through this. He was pt at 26 mos but around 34 mos or so he just wouldn't go. And he would have a half pee or full pee accident multiple times a day. We found that going back to crazy over the top praise for going when he needed to and keeping his underwear dry was the most effective way to get him to go. It stopped after a couple of weeks.

I have never punished for accidents and we never used candy since we did the 3 day method. So I'm not sure if that would have been effective or not. But the over the top crazy praise about dry underwear worked. He responds well to positive reinforcement in general though.

[pugz]

right there with you

[Deleted]

OK I have no experience but what if you made her throw them away in a "special trashcan" that had nothing else in it and then just washed them like normal after she went to bed. lol

[redheadk]

Thanks for the commiseration and ideas!

I printed off a sticker chart (easier than making one, thank you pinterest and wifi enabled printer). She hasn't gone yet but seems somewhat excited about the idea. My niece is here now and dd doesn't typically have accidents when other kids are around. Weird, right?

[aspentosh]

Oh geez, been there. Sorry

We did a sticker chart and that helped. When I asked on here people said not to punish (I assume trashing undies is punishment?) but I really think it depends on the kid.

[drloretta]

I don't think it's being lazy, it's very normal. DD did it last summer. We hit the sticker chart hard and rode it out. It took a few months and she was back on track. It seems like it lasts forever, but she'll come around.

[Alyssa]

I'm locked in a power struggle with my son. He is almost 3.5 years old and refuses to even sit on the toilet. He doesn't care about treats or bribes. We bought him some underwear with his favorite characters...he doesn't want to wear them. I don't get it.

He was going great about 6 months ago, sitting on the toilet and peeing and then it all came to a screeching halt for some reason. His 5 year old sister even tries to encourage him by her peeing in his little potty chair. He seems sort of interested in watching her but when it comes to being his turn up to bat....nothing.  We tried having him run around with no diaper on and he pitched a huge fit to the point of crying himself into exhaustion and passing out on his bedroom floor.  He even tries to put a diaper back on himself but fails miserably and freaks the fuck out.  That went on for 3 days in a row.  It's pure hell. 

My daughter was the opposite, she got tired of wearing dirty diapers and we got her on the toilet with barely any problems.

My son's preschool wants him out of diapers ASAP because he's moving up to the 3-4 year old room where's no changing table.  They will walk him over to the other class to get a diaper change but they really want him potty trained soon.  They have agreed to help out on their end but I feel like a failure when I keep sending him to school in diapers.

[drloretta]

Aug 6, 2015 11:46:01 GMT -5 Alyssa said:

They have agreed to help out on their end but I feel like a failure when I keep sending him to school in diapers.

You're NOT a failure. It sounds like he decided he isn't ready. My friends had twins--one PT'd at 2.5. The other fought a pitched battle until one day she said, "Mommy, I'll do it when I'm 4." On her 4th birthday she put on underwear and never looked back.

The 2 best pieces of advice I got were "in reality this phase doesn't last that long" and "your child will be potty trained by college"

[barefootcontessa]

Honestly, I do not think punitive measures work when it comes to PT. This is one of the few areas children can control and it can easily turn into a power struggle. This is no fun for anyone. I am also not sure she is being lazy. It is normal for a child to not stop what she is doing as soon as she feels the urge. I think the positive encoragement suggestions are the way to go.

[redheadk]

Update: we started the chart last night. So far we have been accident free! It's only one day but going this long without cleaning up pee has been great. She really likes earning "silly faces" on the chart.