If you've been in psychoanalysis

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not your modern CBT but straight up Freud on the couch style, please answer these questions:

1. How long were you and your analyst together?

2. Describe your relationship.

3. How did it end (if it did)?

I think I'm on the verge of a rupture right now with my therapist of three years and I want to quit but I also know that these kind of feelings should theoretically mean I'm close to some sort of revealing life discovery, right?

Or is he just a shitty therapist that should go stuff himself?  :-#

[pugz]

nevermind, I guess spenjamins isn't around anymore, tried to page her. Maybe she got a new name

[VillainV]

I haven't been in psychoanalysis, but I've studied it a little bit. I have had counseling for a few different issues (relationship/family counseling, grief counseling), and I quit the grief counseling because my counselor just wasn't right for me. If you're feeling "stuck" with your current therapist, then I see nothing wrong with trying to find someone new. You're not the same person as you were three years ago, so the therapist that was right for you then may not be right for you anymore. Doesn't necessarily mean he's shitty....though he might be.

Just out of curiosity, have you thought to bring this up in therapy? How your therapist reacts might help you decide what to do. "Hey, I'm on the verge of rupture. I'm thinking of finding a different therapist and I want to talk about it."

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Aug 5, 2015 21:37:35 GMT -5 VillainV said:

Just out of curiosity, have you thought to bring this up in therapy? How your therapist reacts might help you decide what to do. "Hey, I'm on the verge of rupture. I'm thinking of finding a different therapist and I want to talk about it."

Well every six months or so we just clash about something stupid and I get ridiculously mad at him and then we work through it. It's hard to explain because it's so meta. I am committed to the process on the one hand but on the other I just can't fucken stand him right now.  Does that make sense?

[pugz]

can I ask what the main focus of the therapy has been? Your anxiety issues or family of origin issues? Have you tried other types of therapy before? There are so many varieties out there I would consider trying a different style to see if you make more progress that way. I have always been uneasy about the psychoanalysis method of basically seeing the therapist regularly with no end goal/date in mind. But having not done it myself I can't weigh in on it personally.

Are meds alone enough to keep things controlled? Would journaling your thoughts/feelings/worries be an exercise that could be helpful if you need to let out all the things you'd normally tell the therapist?

[VillainV]

Aug 5, 2015 21:43:01 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Aug 5, 2015 21:37:35 GMT -5 VillainV said:

Just out of curiosity, have you thought to bring this up in therapy? How your therapist reacts might help you decide what to do. "Hey, I'm on the verge of rupture. I'm thinking of finding a different therapist and I want to talk about it."

Well every six months or so we just clash about something stupid and I get ridiculously mad at him and then we work through it. It's hard to explain because it's so meta. I am committed to the process on the one hand but on the other I just can't fucken stand him right now.  Does that make sense?

Yep, makes perfect sense.  I get that finding someone new might be kinda scary, but maybe it would be worth it to see if you can find someone that you don't clash with and get ridiculously mad at?  I guess it depends on if you're actually mad at HIM or mad at the process?   I would seriously not be able to open up to someone if I couldn't stand being with them.   

I'm sorry you're going through this.... 

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Aug 5, 2015 21:45:19 GMT -5 pugz said:

can I ask what the main focus of the therapy has been? Your anxiety issues or family of origin issues? Have you tried other types of therapy before? There are so many varieties out there I would consider trying a different style to see if you make more progress that way. I have always been uneasy about the psychoanalysis method of basically seeing the therapist regularly with no end goal/date in mind. But having not done it myself I can't weigh in on it personally.

Are meds alone enough to keep things controlled? Would journaling your thoughts/feelings/worries be an exercise that could be helpful if you need to let out all the things you'd normally tell the therapist?

I've seen six therapists throughout the years.  A couple were CBT, one was med management plus some random therapy thrown in, one was EMDR/trauma.  I stumbled into analysis three years ago and it's the first time I ever felt engaged in therapy. But I also feel like I have a boyfriend who I can't actually call out on shit.

To answer the question, no.  Journaling wouldn't help.  We've been separated before because of vacation etc and towards the ten day mark I start spiraling.

[pugz]

has this type of therapy given you more coping skills for dealing with your struggles? If so I would probably continue on, if not I would start looking for a new approach.