In my room. There was a nursery but I was anxious about us being away from her. H did take her out of the room for like 2 hours and just pushed her around the floor in her crib thing so I could sleep. He told me he was leaving for 10 minutes. 2 hours later he sheepishly came back and said she was hungry!
I'm floored at the # of responses where the hospital doesn't have a nursery. Is this a new thing?
Yes, part of the "baby-friendly" initiative. My hospital tried it a couple years ago and the patients and nurses hated it (the transition wasn't planned very well). But the patients did not like being told that there was no nursery.
A was in the NICU. After I was discharged they gave me a bed in Peds, so I could be close to her to nurse. It was very nice of them, but they didn't feed me and the security guard yelled at me every time I went to the cafeteria.
M was in my room, and honestly I wouldn't have wanted him away from me.
We did both. On the tour we were told babies stayed in the parents' rooms, but in reality, the nurses volunteered to take him so we could get some sleep. He was so alert and noisy at night. He kept making these adorable sounds, but neither of us could sleep at all. I think they took him for three hours each night.
Both. I was totally fine with him being in the nursery and one night he was still in my room around 3 or 4 am, and I remember thinking where the F are the nurses to wheel him over to the nursery?!? Mama needs some sleep!!!
Ugh, I am still bitter about this. I was up for almost 30 hours straight and he would not sleep I the bassinet. Apparently they would rather I doze off while holding him than take him to the nursery. Next time I will know better and will throw a fit if they won't take him.
A was in the NICU. J was in our room, and the nursery the last night. We were there 4 nights and we tried to send him the 3rd but we found out you had to reserve a spot early.
My experiences with my oldest and youngest were very different. With Austin, I had a 24 hour labor, and 2.5 hours of pushing. I also had the baby blues with him, so I sent him to the nursery for 4 hours our last night there for my sanity. I was trying to breastfeed, and it was going horribly. I didn't know what to do with a baby etc.
With Wyatt, I had an easier labor (12 hours, 16 minutes of pushing). I also was going into that first night having had a good night's sleep the night before. They offered to take him to the nursery a couple of times, but I felt euphoric with him, so I was all about keeping him in the room. It helped that he slept a lot those days in the hospital, and I didn't attempt to breastfeed with him.
I firmly believe that "baby friendly" can be un-friendly for mom's. The nursery should be an option. It really helped me to get those four hours with my first.
DD1 was in the NICU for 4 nights and then on the 5th night we all slept in the NICU transition room.
DD2&3 were both in the nursery for all nights. I had a spinal headache and could barely tolerate sitting to pump and my doctor said to try and sleep, and I was exhausted and happily accepted the help!
Post by scribellesam on Aug 7, 2015 9:14:14 GMT -5
No well baby nursery at my hospital either, so they stayed with me. I get so anxious in the hospital, I think I would have wanted them with me either way.
Combo - I was there 4 nights. They took him for a 3 hour stretch the first and last night. I don't think I slept with or without him.
The first night they took DS, I told DH they could bring back any random baby boy and I probably wouldn't be able to tell. He just looked like generic baby to me at that point.
My room. There isn't a nursery at the hospital. We were there two nights because of the time of day he was born. They did keep him a few hours after his circumcision, so we were able to sleep a little then.
There is no nursery at the hospital where I was. At one point, they took him to be bathed at like 2 or 3 am and I said that was great because I could catch some sleep. They kept him a bit longer than usual but made a point of mentioning it, lol. But it was fine, I was only there a night with him. When I was there with DD a year prior they had a nursery but didn't want the babies in there, preferred they were with mom.
My room. There isn't a nursery at the hospital. We were there two nights because of the time of day he was born. They did keep him a few hours after his circumcision, so we were able to sleep a little then.
The only time I slept was when they took him for his circumcision!
No well baby nursery. It's also a stretch to say that he SLEPT in my room. He stayed in my room, though, yes.
The first night they took him and I didn't really want them to and I stayed up waiting for them to bring him back. DUMB.
The second night they never offered to take him and I thought I was going to DIE. He wouldn't sleep unless I held him and I was so tired that I was convinced i would drop him right out of our bed. It was terrible.
I'm floored at the # of responses where the hospital doesn't have a nursery. Is this a new thing?
Yes, part of the "baby-friendly" initiative. My hospital tried it a couple years ago and the patients and nurses hated it (the transition wasn't planned very well). But the patients did not like being told that there was no nursery.
My SIL worked and delivered at the same hospital. She went on the tour of the delivery wing with my brother. They were shown the nursery. A month and a half later while they were wheeling her back for a C she was informed they'd recently gotten rid of the nursery, to which she asked it was too late to be taken to another hospital. Given that this was the building she worked in and she was also a patient they clearly advertised this decision not at all.
DH and I were both crying the night we were in the hospital with DD, she wouldn't stop crying and we didn't know what to do. The nurses seemed so put out that we asked for help. Fuckers.
In a plastic house followed by a plastic bucket in the Intermediate Nursery where we waited for her to gain enough weight to come home.
I never got a hospital tour and I actually have no idea if my hospital has a well baby nursery. I was on the antepartum floor when I came to the hospital and was so sure I was going home. Instead I was told to I had to give birth so I stayed on the antepartum after the c-section so I never saw the other moms either.
For DS we did a combo, they would often take him around 11 and bring him back around 4 or 5 (nurse change) and that was perfect. I got a few solid hours and really helped me.
Msniq's room, but I think they took him to the nursery the second night for a few hours. The hospital is "baby-friendly" but realistic
This was mine too. They really encouraged parents to keep babies in room as much as possible, but when nighttime hit and I asked if they could take AJ to the nursery until his next feeding so I could try to sleep they did so without hesitation. I really hope the same is true if/when I have my next kid.