I frequently tell people I feel like I have a spring attached to my ass for the number of times I am up and down during a meal. So frustrating.
So I usually end up eating after they finish, at least for breakfast and lunch. But then the fuckers want to come ask for a bite of what I'm eating. NO! You ate your food. Leave me in piece for three minutes to scarf down my own waffle.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Aug 7, 2015 17:07:59 GMT -5
Yes, it's so annoying.
The getting-up-to-get-crap-for-them gets better as they get older. But it gets replaced by more whining. DD1 (who is SIX) had a full on tantrum the other night because she was toooooo tired to refill her own water bottle and demanded we do it for her.
Post by barefootcontessa on Aug 7, 2015 17:44:05 GMT -5
With the cutting, etc. we have to do by the time we actually start to eat the kids are asking for their second helping. Older ones have learned to accept they have to wait but the three year old almost always starts screaming and crying. Ah family meal time.
Post by rootbeerfloat on Aug 7, 2015 17:56:58 GMT -5
These days my kids are never hungry at dinner time, so we end up eating first... and scowling at them when they do want to eat their dinners at 7pm when my kitchen could be clean and their asses could be in the shower!
I feed the kids by myself every weeknight. It usually happens that as soon as I sit down to eat someone needs more of something, spilled something, etc. It's chaos pretty much every meal time. I just expect this is how it will be until the kids are older.
I sit with them at 5 when they eat but it is more like me standing...I can't really sit bc when I do all hell breaks loose.
Sometimes I just drink wine while I'm standing there staring at the clock wondering when it will be bedtime...all while hearing " but I doooont waaaant thiiiis"
Post by badtzmaru22 on Aug 7, 2015 18:03:02 GMT -5
I make the kids sit at our peninsula counter, and DH sits on the end. I stand in the corner part and eat standing every night because that's preferable to me instead of hiking over from the table a million times.
Post by whitemerlot on Aug 7, 2015 18:04:53 GMT -5
Meal time sucks. It's so much work to prepare and clean up the food, and I never get to enjoy eating it. I eat between getting things for the kids and suffer through their complaining.
My DD is 4.5 and I still feel like DH or I are up every other second for *something*. More water. More of something. Then 9 times out of 10 it's "but I don't like this meal mommy". OMG we so look forward to our date nights now.
We're hit or miss as to whether we're all eating together. Sometimes I'll sit at the table with C while he eats, even if I'm not eating anything yet. Lately we've been throwing together something for him to eat and fending for ourselves after he goes to bed.
I find this irritating as well. Like dh gets his plate and sits down as soon as I announce supper is ready. Then I spend 5 minutes getting plates and drinks for myself and the boys. By the time I've finally sat down for good (because I always end up jumping up a couple times to grab something I forgot) dh is done and leaves the table to start dishes. I mean, I appreciate that he's cleaning, but I'd like to have dinner as a family. Also it's annoying having to police ds1 while helping ds2 and also trying to eat my meal.
Post by SallySparrow on Aug 7, 2015 18:36:16 GMT -5
It's similar here. It reminds me of that quote from a Christmas Story. "Mom hadn't had a hot meal to herself in 15 years", or something like that.
Sometimes I pretend to eat so we have dinner "as a family" and then I actually eat after she goes to bed. She's still young enough that she doesn't catch on. lol
I think this is probably a young kid thing. I don't remember my mom getting up constantly during dinners as a kid. (Though she likely did and I just was oblivious).
Anyway, we almost never eat dinner together regardless. TBH, I still haven't figured out how to make dinner and deal with DS at the same time and DH is not home for dinner time to help. So "dinner time" on weeknights is me throwing toddler dinner together and talking to DS while he eats. Occasionally I'll eat something that doesn't require preparation like hummus and veggies but usually I wait till DH is home to make grownup dinner.
Remember guys my daughter goes to bed between 9:30-10. I can't eat that late!
so does one of mine. But she goes into her room at eight and has to stay in there. She pops out a bunch of times and our meals are usually interrupted, but it is still better than trying to have a family meal.
She is a couple of years older and is way better at entertaining herself, though. It was harder 2-3 years ago for sure.
We rarely eat as a family. We manage most weekend breakfasts and then the odd times we're at restaurants for lunch.
M - F, we're home for neither breakfast nor lunch, and my H isn't home until our daughter is in (or about to be in) bed. Frankly, I do well to feed her anything other than pouches at dinnertime, because it's such a rush to feed her, bathe her, and get her into bed before she's a complete wreck.
What's really embarrassing is, I still don't really cook for DH and me, even after E is in bed. I pretty much haven't cooked since my first trimester. Ha! And I wasn't exactly making gourmet meals back then. I'm perfectly happy to eat a salad or weird snacky stuff all the time, and my H isn't but is content with doing his own very simple stuff. Not something I advertise to everyone I know IRL, but it works for us.
I have big dreams of getting back to making laughably simple meals. Meanwhile, I'm really glad my daughter's a toddler with low expectations and my husband is very easy-going.
@starry what time does she wake Up? Dd goes to bed late too and drives me crazy. I at least to have her in bed and 9 and then she sings, plays, whatever for a While. I think kindergarden is going to kick her ass and thay will have to change.
I find this irritating as well. Like dh gets his plate and sits down as soon as I announce supper is ready. Then I spend 5 minutes getting plates and drinks for myself and the boys. By the time I've finally sat down for good (because I always end up jumping up a couple times to grab something I forgot) dh is done and leaves the table to start dishes. I mean, I appreciate that he's cleaning, but I'd like to have dinner as a family. Also it's annoying having to police ds1 while helping ds2 and also trying to eat my meal.
DS eats all his meals alone (well with one of us watching) in his learning tower. For some reason he really loves eating standing up (not whining or throwing food nearly as much) and I just don't have it in me to argue.