Andrew, our DS2's name was our compromise name. I wanted Benjamin, DH wanted Peter. We both weren't opposed to Andrew (although DH calls him almost exclusively Andy, I call him both) so that's what we went with. No regrets.
We went round and round for a potential girl name when we were team green with our second (and it was a boy, so wasted fighting lol) so I just didn't have much fight in me left for the third. And we also weren't team green the third time, I needed to minimize the discussion .
We went with something I suggested that wasn't at the very top of my faves but H liked and used his favorite as a middle with the agreement that boy #2 would have my absolute favorite name.
ETA: I don't necessarily like M's middle name. But if I hadn't suggested using it as a middle and taking it out of the naming pool we would be having a battle royale at the moment with H wanting to use it for baby boy 2's first name.
Not really your situation, but we compromised in the sense that DS2's name was the only one we didn't have any negatives for. He had issues with my top name, I had issues with his.
And not that you asked my opinion on the following things, but every Theodore I know goes by Teddy. I swear @vicmo and I are the only ones on here that prefer the Theo nn, lol. Also, H's friend has a friend with a son named Harvey. At first I was like, "ehhh" but it has totally grown on me and I think it's a great name. I've never been crazy about Frederick in part because I really dislike Fred.
We don't know of any Theodore/Teddy/Theo kids IRL so DH doesn't get my popularity concern. I'm sure there are a few in the area. One distant FB friend has a Theo.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Aug 8, 2015 17:23:36 GMT -5
I love Frederick! So I think you should choose the compromise choice :-)
With DD1, DH refused to discuss it until we knew the sex. On the day we found out the sex, he sent me an email later that day that said, "Okay, I know you've been thinking about names. What are your top girl names?" I replied with a list of about 6 names. He basically picked Abigail out of that list, and that was the end of it. Abigail wasn't my top pick by any means. But once he saw that suggestion on my list, it became his first choice. My top pick was Elizabeth, which he refused to use because he thought it sounded like an old lady (WTF, dude), so since I couldn't have my #1, I was happy with Abigail.
I got Elizabeth as DD1's middle name, though. That was a decision that took us FOREVER to make. Basically, I kept shooting down all of the other suggestions, then finally a couple days before she was born, I said something to DH about how we really had to pick a middle name, and he was like, "but I thought we were using Elizabeth?" So I guess my constant repetition of the name wore him down!
With DD2, we had SUCH a hard time finding a name. At one point we went through a huge baby name book and picked out some choices. The criteria were LITERALLY that neither one of us said, "I hate it." Not even that one of us actually liked it. And we had maybe 10 names on that list. None of which were Anna. Then DH went to lunch with his parents one day and talked about genealogy, and he found out that there was an Anna Katherine (Our last name) in his family tree. He came home and suggested that, and I loved it. So that was it.