Plan B (not the morning after pill!)

[doriswe]

Just curious if others are finding themselves being the "plan b" for dudes online. There have been a handful of guys who I've been communicating with (and usually having good conversation with) who fall off the face of the earth and then suddenly resurface in a few weeks or months and want to pick right back up where we left off.

Thoughts? Feelings? Reactions?

[bullygirl979]

I think for me it would depend on how long it was and what the "excuse" was...

I know this is really generic, lol.

[doriswe]

What if there is no excuse...no explanation at all?

This has happened a few times and none of them offer any explanation.

[bullygirl979]

So ask for an explanation lol.

[doriswe]

Maybe I should....but maybe I don't care because they really weren't contenders anyway?!? Go check your email for proof!!

[starburst604]

For me, if we hadn't met yet and I thought we actually could be a match, I was usually amenable to picking up where we left off and seeing what happens. When someone hasn't met you in person yet they can't possibly know how fabulous you really are.

But if I had a date with someone and they pulled the "oh I'm seeing someone and wanted to see how it goes with them" after, then wanted to go out again when it didn't work out, that was always a no for me. I don't like feeling like a second choice in that regard.

[heavenly]

I assume online dating would have more "competition" due to the nature of having more access to more dating prospects at one time. I would also think that if you are interested in someone online, you would have to move faster or make your intention loud and clear compared to IRL. I think this why I am hesitant to use online dating because I don't want to move too fast and force anything since I have my son to think about.