Post by bullygirl979 on Aug 12, 2015 8:34:41 GMT -5
There is some drama going on with my hot mess sister. To make a long story short, she decides she wants to move so she ups and leaves for NYC. Leaving her 18 year old son (who hasn't had a lot of parenting and oversight over the years) in his own apartment. He doesn't have his license but will be taking his road test next week. She left him her POS car which is now having problems. I'm so pissed at her for being so G.D selfish.
Anyway, I talked with P last night and I think I may buy a new car and sell him mine super cheap.
bullygirl979 that is kind of you to look out for your nephew.
Someone has to. He breaks my damn heart. He works part time for a local drug store. He told me the other day "you know, it's awesome I work at XYZ drug store because I can buy almost anything I need there. Food. Toilet paper. Drinks." I wanted to say "no, it isn't awesome because your fucking mother should be here ensuring that you HAVE food, drinks, supplies." I've been taking him out practicing driving and accidentlyonpurpose I always stop at the grocery store because I "forgot" something and oh, while we are here why don't you grab what you need?
My random today: I have been summoned to jury duty...except I have been summoned to a county I haven't lived in for more than five years (the summons went to my parents' house). Fortunately my mom forwarded the notice to me, so now I just have to figure out how to prove I no longer live in that county.
The form says I can provide something like a utility bill to prove my current address. Problem is, my name isn't on any of the utility bills. Any chance I can just use a copy of my drivers license?
Post by bullygirl979 on Aug 12, 2015 8:53:49 GMT -5
Oh, and did I mention that he will be 19 next month? And that he has a 16 year old GF who also doesn't have a stable home life? So, yeah.....REALLY SMART to get him his own G.D. apartment where he has ZERO PARENTING AND OVERSIGHT.
omg that poor kid. how can he pay rent on a part time job?
My sister is paying his rent (which also includes his utilities). But, he has to pay for: gas, groceries, supplies, and stuff for college as he is starting next month.
I have no idea how he is going to pay for everything working 15-20 hours a week.
Oh, and did I mention that he will be 19 next month? And that he has a 16 year old GF who also doesn't have a stable home life? So, yeah.....REALLY SMART to get him his own G.D. apartment where he has ZERO PARENTING AND OVERSIGHT.
ARGH!
Is she paying his rent, or is he supposed to figure it out? Poor guy. Even a completely responsible and self-sufficient 18 yr old would have trouble in this kind of situation.
She is paying his rent, which also includes utilities. But he has to pay for everything else. Working 15-20 hours a week.
Oh, and did I mention that he will be 19 next month? And that he has a 16 year old GF who also doesn't have a stable home life? So, yeah.....REALLY SMART to get him his own G.D. apartment where he has ZERO PARENTING AND OVERSIGHT.
ARGH!
Well, he is an adult. Parental oversight seems like a bit much. He's not a kid anymore.
I think it's nice you're helping him out, buying groceries, etc. I'd be sure to add a birth control talk in there somewhere. Make sure they're being smart.
Oh, and did I mention that he will be 19 next month? And that he has a 16 year old GF who also doesn't have a stable home life? So, yeah.....REALLY SMART to get him his own G.D. apartment where he has ZERO PARENTING AND OVERSIGHT.
ARGH!
Well, he is an adult. Parental oversight seems like a bit much. He's not a kid anymore.
I think it's nice you're helping him out, buying groceries, etc. I'd be sure to add a birth control talk in there somewhere. Make sure they're being smart.
I get that legally he is an adult but he isn't an adult. Maybe some 18 year olds are responsible and smart enough to be 100% on their own, but he isn't. He's gotten in trouble at school for drugs, etc. He needs a responsible adult there to teach and guide him.
I understand that teenagers will still find a way to do what they want, but to be like "he is 18. He can take care of himself. See ya, bitches!" seems irresponsible to me. He could make some REALLY poor choices that will affect him for the rest of his life.
Well, he is an adult. Parental oversight seems like a bit much. He's not a kid anymore.
I think it's nice you're helping him out, buying groceries, etc. I'd be sure to add a birth control talk in there somewhere. Make sure they're being smart.
I get that legally he is an adult but he isn't an adult. Maybe some 18 year olds are responsible and smart enough to be 100% on their own, but he isn't. He's gotten in trouble at school for drugs, etc. He needs a responsible adult there to teach and guide him.
I understand that teenagers will still find a way to do what they want, but to be like "he is 18. He can take care of himself. See ya, bitches!" seems irresponsible to me. He could make some REALLY poor choices that will affect him for the rest of his life.
If his mother is paying his rent and utilities, how is it much different then him going away for college and living off campus? My own 18/19 year old cousin is living with his girlfriend off campus with a part time job and making his own stupid mistakes.
Maybe this is my own absentee parents talking, idk.
I get that legally he is an adult but he isn't an adult. Maybe some 18 year olds are responsible and smart enough to be 100% on their own, but he isn't. He's gotten in trouble at school for drugs, etc. He needs a responsible adult there to teach and guide him.
I understand that teenagers will still find a way to do what they want, but to be like "he is 18. He can take care of himself. See ya, bitches!" seems irresponsible to me. He could make some REALLY poor choices that will affect him for the rest of his life.
If his mother is paying his rent and utilities, how is it much different then him going away for college and living off campus? My own 18/19 year old cousin is living with his girlfriend off campus with a part time job and making his own stupid mistakes.
Maybe this is my own absentee parents talking, idk.
Lol. And maybe this is my strict parents talking. My parents would NEVER let me live on my own that young. Yes, I went away to college, but I had to live in the dorms the first 3 years where there were rules, oversight, etc.
And, I also think I was more mature then as he is now. I was terrified of screwing up and of my parents. So, all in all, I was a really good kid. I feel like I really was taught right from wrong from a really young age. My nephew has no father and a half of a mother. I'm terrified that without a good adult presence, he will make some really bad choices. Plus, I just feel sorry for him. I can't imagine feeling like my father never wanted me and the second I graduated from high school, my mother being all "peace out!"