WHY DO PEOPLE ACT LIKE KINDERGARTEN IS A DEATH SENTENCE? Omg I can't take the whinging anymore! Yes, they're growing up and I totally get some sentimentality and I might even choke up in two weeks when Lu has her first day....but why are people unable to cope with this???
Because it's the end of something. And there are so few things in life that are truly permanent, but this is one of them. Especially if you SAH, the period of your life where your kid is around all day is now over, whether you like it or not.
I was thinking about this in some other context but I've forgotten what. Either pets dying, relatives dying, having your first kid, or graduating school for good. Some way your life has been arranged for a looooooong time just ... isn't.
At the risk of starting mommy wars, I am curious if it's worse for SAH parents? Whereas for working parents it's just, okay, how do we sort out aftercare, here's a new set of forms, etc. NOT SAYING THERE ARE ZERO SAD WORKING PARENTS OR ZERO SAHPS THAT DON'T NEED A BOX of KLEENEX.
Because it's the end of something. And there are so few things in life that are truly permanent, but this is one of them. Especially if you SAH, the period of your life where your kid is around all day is now over, whether you like it or not.
I was thinking about this in some other context but I've forgotten what. Either pets dying, relatives dying, having your first kid, or graduating school for good. Some way your life has been arranged for a looooooong time just ... isn't.
At the risk of starting mommy wars, I am curious if it's worse for SAH parents? Whereas for working parents it's just, okay, how do we sort out aftercare, here's a new set of forms, etc. NOT SAYING THERE ARE ZERO SAD WORKING PARENTS OR ZERO SAHPS THAT DON'T NEED A BOX of KLEENEX.
:zips up flame suit:
Yeah, I get it more for SAH parents if they haven't sent their kid to preschool I guess? I'm not saying I don't understand it being bitter sweet, but the internet is aflutter with moms (sorry niq--most seem to be moms! lol) losing their collective shit over this transition. Your kid still comes home at the end of the day, right? I haven't missed something and it turns out kindergarten is actually a boarding school situation?
I just do not see this at all in the same light of pets or relatives dying. IT'S KINDERGARTEN! This should be a happy thing!
I think it's a mental emotional thing to do with the idea of your kid going to 'real' school. Even if they've gone to preschool for a few hours a day it's PREschool and you are still likely calling the play date shots now all of the sudden your baby is spending all day at school working and learning and having this entire life away from you making their own friends and it's not just a few hours so you can mop the house in peace or got get groceries without dragging the kid(s) along anymore.
WHY DO PEOPLE ACT LIKE KINDERGARTEN IS A DEATH SENTENCE? Omg I can't take the whinging anymore! Yes, they're growing up and I totally get some sentimentality and I might even choke up in two weeks when Lu has her first day....but why are people unable to cope with this???
For me I do not think it is sad. I just get so excited and so proud of this little dude I made. It is emotional lol. Or will be I imagine
I think it's a mental emotional thing to do with the idea of your kid going to 'real' school. Even if they've gone to preschool for a few hours a day it's PREschool and you are still likely calling the play date shots now all of the sudden your baby is spending all day at school working and learning and having this entire life away from you making their own friends and it's not just a few hours so you can mop the house in peace or got get groceries without dragging the kid(s) along anymore.
I guess I already feel like Lu has her own independent life, friends, etc? Like, she's the one who decides who she wants to invite over, etc. This may be a working vs. SAH thing.
Probably For the last almost 5 yrs it's been her and me with her going to preschool for a few hours at most a day. This week she started a full day full week pre-k program and it's odd. For the first time since she was born she is away from me more waking hours then she is with me. It's an adjustment from our old routine, no more scheduling things around her nap or rest time no more dragging her with me on errands no more eating lunch on her schedule, and so on. she is making friends that I don't really know for the first time, prior to this it was mainly kids from playgroup (my mom friends kids) or church nursery where I know the parents well or Preschool where it was 10 kids and since it was part time got to know the SAHP at pick up/drop off. It's just a definite change, it's a good thing but it's definitely a she's not a baby anymore moment. I imagine if she had been in daycare full time it wouldn't feel as big/odd.