I'm about to throw in the towel. (FSIL related)

[picksthemusic]

FSIL is becoming a major pain in my ass. She's caused some problems for me at work (long story, but she made a HUGE deal out of something where I was just doing my freaking job - and it just irked me SO bad because she could have jeopardized my job), and now that I sent out the invite for her bach party, she wants me to change what we're doing.

The original plan was to go bowling at Lucky Strike, and then go to dinner at Earl's and then back to her place for cake/presents/watch Magic Mike/dirty bach party games/etc. She loves to bowl (has her own ball), so I thought (and my cohort/other MOH thought so too) it'd be great for her. Well, she had a ganglion cyst removed from her right wrist a couple months ago, and *should* be healed. Well, I sent out the invite, and she doesn't say anything for several days. Then yesterday, I get a text from her requesting we change it from bowling to something else, because her wrist still gets sore and she wants to focus on having fun, not being in pain. Now, the bach party is two months away. TWO months. She should be fine - she should be going to PT and stuff, but she might not be. So now I have to think of something TOTALLY different to do. Most of the guests are going to be deaf (there'll be 3 of us that aren't - 8 are), and FSIL isn't the most outgoing/dancey/clubby person ever. I was thinking a burlesque show, but there aren't any in Bellevue (I'd rather keep it there, but we may have to change the location to downtown Seattle or the Market or something. And it's not like the other MOH is that much help. I've been doing all the planning/research/calling.

I'm just getting really frustrated and now I feel like I was trigger happy with the invite, but I wanted the stuff we were doing to be a surprise, and I just didn't think her surgery would be an issue at that point.

/vent

[madDawg228]

That is really frustrating. Does Lucky Strikes have any pool tables that you could reserve instead? That might be a better option if FSIL is having issues with her wrist.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry, Picks. If she doesn't want to bowl and seems a little hard to please, did she give you any alternate suggestions?

[InBetweenDays]

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Did she give any ideas as to what she'd like to do instead of bowling? Or does she just want you to keep coming up with ideas (and the likely find fault with them)? What about a comedy club? I know most will provide an interpreter for anyone who is hearing impaired.

[picksthemusic]

Aug 20, 2012 12:12:54 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

That is really frustrating. Does Lucky Strikes have any pool tables that you could reserve instead? That might be a better option if FSIL is having issues with her wrist.

That's a really good idea! But I'm not sure it'll work with 11 people... or how entertaining playing pool for two hours would be for deaf people. I thought bowling would be more "inclusive", and cheaper than going to a show or something.

I also thought about a comedy club, but not sure if The Parlor has an ASL interpreter there all the time or not. If they do, that'd be great, but if not... I don't know. And they might not get all the references anyway.

Ugh, it's just so annoying.

[amandasw]

I know it would be moving the whole thing to Seattle, but if you do it at a place like the Garage, you can plan on bowling and then play pool as a backup plan - it would be easy enough to plan for both.

sorry this is such a pain!

[amandasw]

Aug 20, 2012 12:21:16 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

I also thought about a comedy club, but not sure if The Parlor has an ASL interpreter there all the time or not. If they do, that'd be great, but if not... I don't know. And they might not get all the references anyway.

Ugh, it's just so annoying.

also, I wonder if there is a way to find a student who would do the interpretation for free. I had a friend who did ASL and she had to volunteer a bunch I think. Might be worth looking into if you need to change everything entirely?

[hallows]

I'm sorry! That would frustrate me to no end. Has she given any ideas for what she might want to do?

[jennlin]

lucky strike only has 2 pool tables i think...the parlor also has plenty of pool tables, so you can do that..but like pp said, pool tables doesn't sound bachlorett-y enough.

good luck, i hope you find something! but don't forget-----you asked for this

[sarack]

she is lucky that you're planning it. i'm sorry.

[amandasw]

Aug 20, 2012 16:03:07 GMT -5 jennlin said:

good luck, i hope you find something! but don't forget-----you asked for this

LOL awesome

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Aug 20, 2012 16:03:07 GMT -5 jennlin said:

lucky strike only has 2 pool tables i think...the parlor also has plenty of pool tables, so you can do that..but like pp said, pool tables doesn't sound bachlorett-y enough.

good luck, i hope you find something! but don't forget-----you asked for this

Unless you can get some guy drunk and convince him to hop up on the pool table and remove his clothing. That makes it bachelorette party-ish.

[picksthemusic]

Aug 20, 2012 16:03:07 GMT -5 jennlin said:

lucky strike only has 2 pool tables i think...the parlor also has plenty of pool tables, so you can do that..but like pp said, pool tables doesn't sound bachlorett-y enough.

good luck, i hope you find something! but don't forget-----you asked for this

You know I love you, but I was NOT looking for devil's advocate.

[picksthemusic]

So I proposed to the other MOH that either we move it to the comedy club, or just go to Earl's and leave it at that, and then go back to their place for the cake/presents/movie/games. Either that, or we move the whole thing to Seattle and go to a burlesque show somewhere downtown (Noc-Noc or CanCan) and then go grab dinner somewhere and scratch the move/games part and have her open presents and have penis cake at the restaurant.