I am so over about half of my husband's family. You guys have heard only a tiny fraction of the stories because I don't want too much info floating around on here.
Anyway, at what point is okay to stop caring about them at all and not make any further effort to engage or be their friend? I've tried to be the bigger person but I have a low tolerance for nonsense and idle gossip, and that's all they care about...and being dumb.
Can I stop inviting them over, stop texting, and stop working to be their friend now? It's been almost a year of living here and I gave it my best shot. I'll be nice at family events, but that's all I can stomach any more. Some of them are so awful. Racist, gossipy, drunks (which I don't care about except they drive drunk and set a bad example), backstabbing types...
Mostly this is a brain dump. Has anyone just stopped working on family relationships? What was the outcome?
Yup. They've just got moved to what I call "acquaintance-family." You will see them at family events and be polite.....and respond when they reach out. Otherwise, I see no problems in keeping people at arms length.
(As a side note: ((hugs)). I know it's hard...and you don't want to do this. Sometimes, it's just better for YOUR little family.)
Post by wanderingenough on Aug 17, 2015 14:45:27 GMT -5
Sorry you are dealing with that! We have some in H's family that we have completely removed contact with (e.g half-siblings/their spouses). We don't live in the same town, so it's probably easier--but they were surprisingly easy to phase out!
Yup. They've just got moved to what I call "acquaintance-family." You will see them at family events and be polite.....and respond when they reach out. Otherwise, I see no problems in keeping people at arms length.
(As a side note: ((hugs)). I know it's hard...and you don't want to do this. Sometimes, it's just better for YOUR little family.)
I agree with @mrsmb. This is exactly how I handle my sister.