I think H was testing the water tonight

[sawyerthedestroyer]

On the second kid thing.

He's been, I thought, firmly one and done pretty much since DS (who will be five in November) was born.

I've been on the fence about it, mostly leaning toward one and done because he was and I was fine with that.

We've been talking about him getting a vasectomy off and on for a few months. Tonight DS is playing in the backyard and H comments on how it's kind sad he doesn't have anyone to play with and some other things I dont exactly remember so I asked him if he was trying to see what kind of reaction I would have to having another kid. He said "I don't know, I guess maybe." Then he changes the subject and goes to watch a movie with DS in the other room.

So I'm here squirming because I don't know what to think right now. Is he just having second thoughts because he's scared of a vasectomy or is he legitimately thinking about another kid? I know I need to continue this conversation with him, but I also needed to brain dump.

Did anyone go from thinking they were one and done to having a second or more children? Want to share your experiences?

[cabbagecabbage]

No but I'm that similar squirmy place sometimes. DD is 3. We talk about foster adoption seriously and I feel ready to start but he isn't and we said kindergarten age, so two more years. I'm about 90% sure the factory is closed but I get pangs. DD is so beautiful and sweet and it is so hard but she's worth it. Another one probably would be too I'm not aching for a baby like I was with DD but I still think about it. My H feels like we're done with bio kids and that's that.

[pistolshrimp]

I thought this thread was going to be about anal, not sure why I opened it.

[lindyanne]

DH had a vasectomy when DS was young. We were both very much one and done. DH said a few months ago he wonders what two would have been like and if he had it to do over again he might think about it. Our neighbors have a girl who is named what our daughter would have been named so I always wonder. We have talked about adoption at some point too. I think I would have been in the looney bin if we had a second though because they would have been pretty close together and DS was climbing on everything (like up on the kitchen counters via our couch) and I'm happy now that he's independent and I love having the flexibility to do whatever we want and do some things he wants just for fun.

Funny anecdote - my neighbors had a baby two summers ago...a month after their youngest son graduated high school. Nope nope nope