Birthday party questions

[teatimefor2]

DS1 is turning three in September. He gets the birthday party concepts and wants a party. Honestly, we've never really thrown him a big party, so he is due.

Our house is not fit to host a party now and we have a parking issue. So that's out.

He starts preschool on Sept 16th, his birthday is the 12th. Would it be odd to hold a party for him in early October and invite his class? No gifts required.... Was thinking of a new indoor gym.

Thoughts? Ugh.... If we could host at our house, it would be easier and cheaper. Also would it be weird to invite the class right after the start of preschool.... He only has three little friends and one isn't local..,,

Any advice? This type of stuff gives me social anxiety.

[spk926]

I think that sounds like a great idea! My birthday is the end of September and when I started kindergarten we had just moved to MN from GA. My mom invited the whole class to my yard for a fun party. An indoor gym is a great idea!

[teatimefor2]

Aug 27, 2015 13:46:50 GMT -5 spk926 said:

I think that sounds like a great idea! My birthday is the end of September and when I started kindergarten we had just moved to MN from GA. My mom invited the whole class to my yard for a fun party. An indoor gym is a great idea!

Thanks! I just worried parents might think it's odd immediately after the start of the school year.

[Deleted]

You could go either way. Doing something with just his two easy-to-attend friends is fine. Inviting preschool is fine, but it will set a precedent - expect invites back.

[ECB]

My advice is to keep it small. We did big parties for DSs 4th and 5th. When we went smaller for his 6th, it was a bit of a struggle, TBH. he was used to have 20 kids! But no, NO!!!! it's too much. And too many damn presents (even if you say no gifts!).

And in all honesty, I hate it when he's invited to a party where he's clearly being invited just because the entire class is being invited. I wish all parents would keep the parties smaller and invite just their kids friends. I realize that sounds a bit "stoogeish" - DS sees everyone as a friend and loves to go to parties. I don't really mind that aspect of it. But then I start to wonder "am I expected to invite "everyone"??". I dont want to (and really, I don't. I don't cave!). but it just adds a level of pressure. And I'm always concerned that DS will, in turn, expect to invite everyone.

Sorry for rambling. I'd just be careful about setting the precedence with your child that his party will be a lot of kids.

[teatimefor2]

Aug 27, 2015 14:21:01 GMT -5 ECB said:

My advice is to keep it small. We did big parties for DSs 4th and 5th. When we went smaller for his 6th, it was a bit of a struggle, TBH. he was used to have 20 kids! But no, NO!!!! it's too much. And too many damn presents (even if you say no gifts!).

And in all honesty, I hate it when he's invited to a party where he's clearly being invited just because the entire class is being invited. I wish all parents would keep the parties smaller and invite just their kids friends. I realize that sounds a bit "stoogeish" - DS sees everyone as a friend and loves to go to parties. I don't really mind that aspect of it. But then I start to wonder "am I expected to invite "everyone"??". I dont want to (and really, I don't. I don't cave!). but it just adds a level of pressure. And I'm always concerned that DS will, in turn, expect to invite everyone.

Sorry for rambling. I'd just be careful about setting the precedence with your child that his party will be a lot of kids.

I will say his class is only going to be nine kids, so its a small class. We are newer to the area so we want to meet other families.

But I understand your point.

[ECB]

Aug 27, 2015 14:25:48 GMT -5 teatimefor2 said:

Aug 27, 2015 14:21:01 GMT -5 ECB said:

My advice is to keep it small. We did big parties for DSs 4th and 5th. When we went smaller for his 6th, it was a bit of a struggle, TBH. he was used to have 20 kids! But no, NO!!!! it's too much. And too many damn presents (even if you say no gifts!).

And in all honesty, I hate it when he's invited to a party where he's clearly being invited just because the entire class is being invited. I wish all parents would keep the parties smaller and invite just their kids friends. I realize that sounds a bit "stoogeish" - DS sees everyone as a friend and loves to go to parties. I don't really mind that aspect of it. But then I start to wonder "am I expected to invite "everyone"??". I dont want to (and really, I don't. I don't cave!). but it just adds a level of pressure. And I'm always concerned that DS will, in turn, expect to invite everyone.

Sorry for rambling. I'd just be careful about setting the precedence with your child that his party will be a lot of kids.

I will say his class is only going to be nine kids, so its a small class. We are newer to the area so we want to meet other families.

But I understand your point.

eh, 9 kids isn't bad.  DSs preschool classes were around 16-18 kids!