the number i want? no. the number we would have? yes.
i'm being reminded how much i hate being pregnant lol, but i would love to adopt at least 2 more, if not up to 4 more. 5-6 total sounds fantastic.
This. We plan on 3 biological and then possibly fostering, maybe adopt once the first three are slightly older. I would have a herd of kids if I could. There is an awesome program here for fostering newborns for the 6ish weeks or so before they are adopted. I 100% plan on doing that, plus maybe older kids too.
I would be much more likely to have more kids if I had that kind of money. As it stands now, we could afford to have 3 or 4 kids, but not necessarily have enough help to stay sane. If we had buckets of money, then I'd probably quit my job and hire regular help, which would make pregnancy and handling the lack of sleep associated with infancy much easier to handle.
I am surprised by the number of people who would have 4+ kids! I MIGHT have 3, but I don't think I would. I think I'd stick with two so we'd be a very portable family. It's more about the craziness of schedules for me, though. Juggling five sets of sports games and birthday parties sounds daunting.
I'm on the fence between 1 and 2, mainly because of finances. So, yes, almost any significant amount of money would push me over the edge. I have to desire to have more than two though, regardless of finances.
Maybe? Age is a factor more than anything else right now. But money makes a difference, too. We're feeling like more than two kids would really limit our ability to live life like we want to - four plane tickets is expensive. Six plane tickets is prohibitively expensive. I want to be able to provide music lessons and a car and help with college, and that gets harder and harder with more kids.
I think with that kind of cash, I could try for a third. If I had that kind of cash and were 10 years younger, we'd probably be the Von Trapps.
Post by fortnightlily on Aug 27, 2015 15:33:56 GMT -5
I have one. I don't really want another, but DH does. Enough money to hire out housecleaning and not have to scale back our lifestyle to afford a second daycare payment might be enough to convince me.
Nope. Maybe, if I'd had $20 million when I was 30 years old, and had married someone who was my age (DH is 13 years older), then perhaps I'd have had one more. But, probably not.
We've always said we want 2 or 3. We won't decide on #3 for a few more years. With that kind of money, I'd say #3 would be an easy yes and I could possibly be convinced for a 4th.
If I didn't have to work, and could hire out a housekeeper/cook, part time nanny, easily afford a larger house & bigger cars, not worry about daycare/schooling costs, then it sounds good to me!
No. My youngest is 9 and I'm very glad to be done with the pregnancy/infant/toddler stages. All it would change is the amount of travel we'd be able to do.
Yea, I might have another one. Money is 50% of the reason we're stopping at one. The other 50 is that parenting is fucking hard. As DS gets older, the more I seem to forget that I really didn't like the first year. But abundant resources would probably change that a lot.
I am surprised by the number of people who would have 4+ kids! I MIGHT have 3, but I don't think I would. I think I'd stick with two so we'd be a very portable family. It's more about the craziness of schedules for me, though. Juggling five sets of sports games and birthday parties sounds daunting.
haha, this is why I would need 20 million dollars! Just kidding. I actually think we could do it on the kind of money we have now. We have three and, while the juggling sometimes feels hectic, it's not really that bad. It's just that my husband doesn't really want to go through the baby stage again BUT if we suddenly had $20M I would feel free to hire a baby nurse
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Aug 27, 2015 15:57:29 GMT -5
Yes, absolutely. One of the main reasons I'm hesitant to have a third is that I want to make sure we can still easily afford activities for the kids and vacations -- as well as paying for college.
If I won $20 million, we would definitely have a third, and I'd do everything in my power to convince DH to have 4 or 5 :-)
No. I would just do lots more with my current kids and fully fund a lot of activities for other family members like grad school for my nieces and nephews, travel for them, etc.
Possibly. We have two and I would be open to one or maybe even two more if we had that kind of money. Not sure that DH would be open to that - he'll be 45 this year. Whenever people ask if we are having another one, I always say "No - kids are expensive!"
Post by wanderlustmom on Aug 27, 2015 18:23:41 GMT -5
No. I would have loved a third, regardless of money, but within a few years of our youngest. Kids are now eight and ten and I have no desire to raise another child. DH always wanted two, money wasn't a factor. He didn't want to spread his time and emotions to more than two kids.