Please weigh in

[bab]

Is this normal, obnoxious? What are your thoughts. It is from my local "moms" group on FB

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[thinkofthesoldiers]

Obnoxious. I don't ask for the playdate because I don't like othr people's kids.

[knx9211]

Maybe her kids are terrible.


Just kidding.

[rosiebear]

Well, her delivery isn't the greatest. I would have guessed that no one likes her kids, except that she said that people send their kids over to her house when she invites them.

I get why she doesn't always want to host, but maybe she could have brought it up with the parents when they drop their kids off instead of putting it out there like that.

[gummybear]

I have social anxiety about planning play dates. Like, I have flashbacks to childhood, my heart races, I get sweaty. What if they say no? What if they don't like my kid? What if they don't answer? Or respond? Do they hate me?

But if someone calls us




I DO try to reciprocate. Summer is hard bc most of the playdates are to come over and swim and we have no pool. 

But I am very anxious to make the first contact

[gummybear]

Oh and we are talking neighborhood kids we just have an understanding, shall we say? We all rotate kids and they just roam from house to house and if it gets to be too much we just all feel free to kick them out. We don't do "playdates" here. It's very free-range.

[calle28]

Aug 31, 2015 16:22:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Not obnoxious to think but obnoxious to post.

Basically this. I would vent to my non-mom group friends about this. Now she's making it awkward. What kind of response does she expect?

[pagas]

That's a strange thing to post, but I often feel that way.

[bab]

I'm sorry but her "two week test" has me LOLing

[bab]

One of the responses..."there house."

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[Kristinmo]

The number of basic grammar mistakes in those posts (and from most of my FB friends - particularly my in-laws) makes me want to cry.

[miso]

She's lucky to have friends at all.

Be grateful, lady.

[miso]

I rarely host adults or children, but I really don't like it.

I like hosting at a restaurant, though. Then I'm not worried about my own belongings.

Our friends invited us over yesterday, but then they were like, "Our place is too hot," so they came over to our place.

It was fine, but it's not my favorite.

I have great respect for good hosts.

[adhdfashion]

It sucks to always be the host. But I wouldn't post that to FB.

[RoxMonster]

Not a mom, but, yes, I would probably get annoyed to always be the host for my adult friends if no one else ever offered but jumped at the chance to be at my house. Just because it's a lot of work to host. I have to, like, deep clean my house and stuff.

But I would never ever post that on social media. I'd just complain to H. Or on here lol.

[miso]

Did you all have playdates when you were children?

I never once went on a playdate.

I only played at school.

Is that not enough? Was I deprived?

What is up with playdates anyway?

[cville]

Aug 31, 2015 17:31:09 GMT -5 miso said:

Did you all have playdates when you were children?

I never once went on a playdate.

I only played at school.

Is that not enough? Was I deprived?

What is up with playdates anyway?

We used to "call for" the other kids on the street and play outside. Sometimes there would be official lunch plans or whatever, but rarely. Usually we roamed the backyards (townhouses, so the parents just had to take turns looking out their windows to check on us).

[bugandbibs]

I get this.

I do not like to host. I much prefer going to other people's house. I solve this problem by asking people out. Let's go to (fill in the blank).

[lovelyshoes]

We never had scheduled play dates growing up. I know that we were lucky to just play outside at the playground and our parents didn't have to worry. I get real anxiety about scheduling play dates and I don't like going either. Let's meet on neutral ground and let the kids play!

[themoneytree]

Aug 31, 2015 17:31:09 GMT -5 miso said:

Did you all have playdates when you were children?

I never once went on a playdate.

I only played at school.

Is that not enough? Was I deprived?

What is up with playdates anyway?

I was constantly with friends either at their houses or at mine. But I was an only child so maybe that contributed?

We just had friends over for a pool play date this afternoon. I plan on making more effort with play dates given that kiddo is also an only child. I guess we host most often, but our friends are pretty good at reciprocating so that definitely helps.

We normally do a whip around at the end of a play date and have the kids help clear up. That makes it tolerable!

[brickhouse]

Aug 31, 2015 16:12:41 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

As the parent who routinely hosts every little boy in our neighborhood on weekday evenings, I feel her.

Sometimes you just want to yell, GO TO SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE.

This was me a lllllll summer.  There were two moms that would text me 3-4 times a week to ask if their son could come over and play.  Finally I said if XXXXX can come play over there today, I wouldn't mind hosting on Thursday at 2pm.  It got a lot better, but they still would try to pawn their kid off on me constantly.  I would have 5+ boys at my house and it was insane.  

[wannabe]

Aug 31, 2015 17:31:09 GMT -5 miso said:

Did you all have playdates when you were children?

I never once went on a playdate.

I only played at school.

Is that not enough? Was I deprived?

What is up with playdates anyway?

I didn't either. I think I had someone over once and that was to work on a school project.

[miso]

Aug 31, 2015 18:11:03 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Aug 31, 2015 17:31:09 GMT -5 miso said:

Did you all have playdates when you were children?

I never once went on a playdate.

I only played at school.

Is that not enough? Was I deprived?

What is up with playdates anyway?

I didn't either. I think I had someone over once and that was to work on a school project.

I definitely did this!  Mikey Gonzalez and Anna Vasquez came over.  Once.  LOL.

[bab]

Aug 31, 2015 17:28:44 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Nobody is requiring her to host. And people may have good reasons that they don't want to have people over. I'll set up a play date at a park or something, but I won't invite people to my house.

Besides, I kind of despise play dates, so I'm fine if somebody stops inviting us because we don't reciprocate.

This is exactly where I am.  

[Eagles]

Aug 31, 2015 17:33:05 GMT -5 cville said:

Aug 31, 2015 17:31:09 GMT -5 miso said:

Did you all have playdates when you were children?

I never once went on a playdate.

I only played at school.

Is that not enough? Was I deprived?

What is up with playdates anyway?

We used to "call for" the other kids on the street and play outside. Sometimes there would be official lunch plans or whatever, but rarely. Usually we roamed the backyards (townhouses, so the parents just had to take turns looking out their windows to check on us).

I grew up in a very similar neighborhood and we would just "knock for" each other. There was a wide alley with two sets of houses backing up to it so we just played/biked/jumped rope/whatever out there.

[readyin07]

Aug 31, 2015 17:38:42 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

I get this.

I do not like to host. I much prefer going to other people's house. I solve this problem by asking people out. Let's go to (fill in the blank).

This is totally me. The kids are better on neutral territory but I am finding that as they get older they want to go to each other's houses. I am worried the kids will be bored and miserable and hate my son be he doesn't have cooler toys or Karen's. Because you know I am totally reasonable lol