Sticker chart for bedtime/staying in bed

[simpsongal]

would this work for a 5 year old? see my OP - my friend is really struggling with her daughter that all of a sudden will not go to bed

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Sept 1, 2015 12:14:00 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

would this work for a 5 year old? see my OP - my friend is really struggling with her daughter that all of a sudden will not go to bed

It might.

I'd also consider just ignoring the 5 year old. I tell my DS "I'm done now. I have things to do to get ready tomorrow. Go to sleep when you're tired."

And I walk away. And I ignore him.

But we've also rewarded a night without waking us up with a piece of candy in the morning. And it helped a lot. 

[Saudade]

Sept 1, 2015 12:21:45 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:14:00 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

would this work for a 5 year old? see my OP - my friend is really struggling with her daughter that all of a sudden will not go to bed

It might.

I'd also consider just ignoring the 5 year old. I tell my DS "I'm done now. I have things to do to get ready tomorrow. Go to sleep when you're tired."

And I walk away. And I ignore him.

But we've also rewarded a night without waking us up with a piece of candy in the morning. And it helped a lot. 

Does it work? Do you just let him play, etc? 

DS1 is taking naps a daycare and then not going to bed at home until super late. It's very frustrating because he isn't getting enough sleep and is a demon in the morning. It's becoming an annoying, frustrating, and emotionally-charged bedtime.

[simpsongal]

Sept 1, 2015 12:21:45 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:14:00 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

would this work for a 5 year old? see my OP - my friend is really struggling with her daughter that all of a sudden will not go to bed

It might.

I'd also consider just ignoring the 5 year old. I tell my DS "I'm done now. I have things to do to get ready tomorrow. Go to sleep when you're tired."

And I walk away. And I ignore him.

But we've also rewarded a night without waking us up with a piece of candy in the morning. And it helped a lot. 

Yeah, the ignoring doesn't work. Neither does a sticker chart She just follows her around the house. Maybe it's a phase? She's so done.

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Sept 1, 2015 12:24:23 GMT -5 Saudade said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:21:45 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

It might.

I'd also consider just ignoring the 5 year old. I tell my DS "I'm done now. I have things to do to get ready tomorrow. Go to sleep when you're tired."

And I walk away. And I ignore him.

But we've also rewarded a night without waking us up with a piece of candy in the morning. And it helped a lot. 

Does it work? Do you just let him play, etc? 

DS1 is taking naps a daycare and then not going to bed at home until super late. It's very frustrating because he isn't getting enough sleep and is a demon in the morning. It's becoming an annoying, frustrating, and emotionally-charged bedtime.

Yes, he will typically play in his bedroom for a few minutes, and then climb into some bed (often ours) and go to sleep.

I'm very much a "do not engage!!!" parent when it comes to conflict, though. He knows I'm serious, and I will march him back to his room with another round of "Nope, I'm done now." And he cries, and then usually goes to sleep. I think I read this sort of over-Pinteresty article when I was trying to try something new. amomwithalessonplan.com/mommy-fun-fact-15-a-better-bedtime/ 

[jinkies]

Sept 1, 2015 12:24:23 GMT -5 Saudade said:

We have this same issue, and have had it for a while. DD will be 4 in October. 

We don't let her nap on days she's home, but daycare is required to have a rest time, and she always falls asleep. Bedtime on those days is a nightmare. 

Sticker chart wasn't super effective for us, but I was trying to only give stickers for staying in bed, and then she would just cry because she didn't want to wait till morning for stickers. I think I will try again giving stickers for each part of bedtime routine and see how it goes.  

[justjen]

Sept 1, 2015 12:12:45 GMT -5 @marshmallows said:

I can't remember who gave me the idea, maybe karinothing? But it's awesome. She gets one sticker for brushing her teeth, one for getting into bed on time, one for staying in bed all night, and one for not crying out for one of us at 3 in the morning for no reason. We even made one for vacation and she's done so well with it here. Highly recommended!

Is there a reward? Or is just the sticker the reward? (That might be enough...)

I think we're finally switching L to a toddler bed, because she just climbs out like its NBD all the time now. But I'm still skeered

[dancingirl21]

This is such a stupid question, but how do you "do" a sticker chart? Let them pick the sticker and put it up?

I imagine my DS would just be pissed off if I put the sticker on a piece of paper that he can't then get off to play with.

[lilac05]

We're getting ready to start a sticker chart for my 4.5 year old. Well, actually a Dot Chart, as I'm too lazy to deal with stickers & he's satisfied with a simple dot. It's not just for bedtime, but for behavior in general (including bedtime). His reward is getting to play with "Little Legos." He's excited about getting to earn something he really wants to do. I'm optimistic.

As far as bedtime, we've hit a backslide here, too. All I really care is that he's quiet, calm, and in his room. I can't make him sleep. If he's up reading until 10PM, I don't stress much. I had a hard time falling asleep as a kid, too, so I try to keep that in mind. Lately, he's been coming into our room several times a night. I'm lucky that he just wants a hug and goes back to his room by himself (running!), but I know that means he's not sleeping well. Last night, I found him asleep in my bed when I went to bed, and he was on the floor in the hallway when I woke up this morning.

[lilac05]

Sept 1, 2015 12:36:51 GMT -5 dancingirl21 said:

This is such a stupid question, but how do you "do" a sticker chart? Let them pick the sticker and put it up?

I imagine my DS would just be pissed off if I put the sticker on a piece of paper that he can't then get off to play with.

I make a big grid.  I put stars on some spots randomly on the page.  Those squares mean a reward (sometimes he can choose, sometimes I choose for him.  Options are things like baking with mom, extra time with Play Doh, new science experiment, fun snack, trip to the park, etc).  When the whole grid is filled, he gets something "bigger"...a toy from Dollar Tree (or maybe nicer, depending on how big the chart was & how hard he had to work), a trip to the Children's Museum or indoor climbing playground, etc.  I use the same sheet of stickers every time, and he knows they're not for playing.  It hasn't been an issue for us.

[Saudade]

Sept 1, 2015 12:30:33 GMT -5 jinkies said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:24:23 GMT -5 Saudade said:

We have this same issue, and have had it for a while. DD will be 4 in October. 

We don't let her nap on days she's home, but daycare is required to have a rest time, and she always falls asleep. Bedtime on those days is a nightmare. 

Sticker chart wasn't super effective for us, but I was trying to only give stickers for staying in bed, and then she would just cry because she didn't want to wait till morning for stickers. I think I will try again giving stickers for each part of bedtime routine and see how it goes.  

This is the same here. I told daycare to not let him sleep but they got pissy with me. They said he just "falls asleep" but whatever. I'm over the fighting. 

I told him one night not to come back out and then he woke in the middle of the night in full hysterics because he thought he could never come to my room. 

[Saudade]

Sept 1, 2015 12:30:41 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:24:23 GMT -5 Saudade said:

Does it work? Do you just let him play, etc? 

DS1 is taking naps a daycare and then not going to bed at home until super late. It's very frustrating because he isn't getting enough sleep and is a demon in the morning. It's becoming an annoying, frustrating, and emotionally-charged bedtime.

Yes, he will typically play in his bedroom for a few minutes, and then climb into some bed (often ours) and go to sleep.

I'm very much a "do not engage!!!" parent when it comes to conflict, though. He knows I'm serious, and I will march him back to his room with another round of "Nope, I'm done now." And he cries, and then usually goes to sleep. I think I read this sort of over-Pinteresty article when I was trying to try something new. amomwithalessonplan.com/mommy-fun-fact-15-a-better-bedtime/ 

I really don't care what he does, as long as he isn't bothering me because I have online chats for school multiple times a week. So I don't tend to engage, just let him know that he can play but he can't interrupt my meetings. It hasn't been working. 

Thank you for the link. I'll have to look over it and hope it helps!

[monsterz]

Sept 1, 2015 12:14:00 GMT -5 simpsongal said:

would this work for a 5 year old? see my OP - my friend is really struggling with her daughter that all of a sudden will not go to bed

We do something similar with our 6 year old and it works great.  He earns for various treats like soda, video game time, TV time, family outings, legos, etc.   

[jessnpaul]

Sept 1, 2015 12:32:53 GMT -5 justjen said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:12:45 GMT -5 @marshmallows said:

I can't remember who gave me the idea, maybe karinothing? But it's awesome. She gets one sticker for brushing her teeth, one for getting into bed on time, one for staying in bed all night, and one for not crying out for one of us at 3 in the morning for no reason. We even made one for vacation and she's done so well with it here. Highly recommended!

Is there a reward? Or is just the sticker the reward? (That might be enough...)

I think we're finally switching L to a toddler bed, because she just climbs out like its NBD all the time now. But I'm still skeered

Nooooo! Are you abandoning Team Crib 4 Lyfe?!?!

[justjen]

Sept 1, 2015 13:21:27 GMT -5 jessnpaul said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:32:53 GMT -5 justjen said:

Is there a reward? Or is just the sticker the reward? (That might be enough...)

I think we're finally switching L to a toddler bed, because she just climbs out like its NBD all the time now. But I'm still skeered

Nooooo! Are you abandoning Team Crib 4 Lyfe?!?!

RELUCTANTLY. She finally realized she can just swing a leg over and be free in about 3 seconds flat. 

[karinothing]

Glad to see it worked

[jessnpaul]

Sept 1, 2015 13:37:05 GMT -5 justjen said:

Sept 1, 2015 13:21:27 GMT -5 jessnpaul said:

Nooooo! Are you abandoning Team Crib 4 Lyfe?!?!

RELUCTANTLY. She finally realized she can just swing a leg over and be free in about 3 seconds flat. 

I need to keep Ben away from her. She can teach him bad things ;-)