Hey, missusbee!

[copzgirl1171]

I just wanted to offer my support kiddo.

Copzson was a total jerkface for the first THREE years of his life. We were trapped with him, no one would take him because he squalled like a banshee for those three years.

Note the time difference between copzson and babycopz

Anyway, it does pass and getting out of the house will help so much.

Hang in there *hugs*

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Hey! You are so nice. Thank you. He actually isn't terrible, we have had a string of great days and I think his personality and temperament are going to be generally good. Its just the growth spurts are terrible because we have such a bad history with feeding, and that all comes up again.

I'll be really happy when I can get to a better place with feeding him. Whenever that is.

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Lest I be perceived as just talking trash about him...I really do adore him. See? He has all the cutes.

[pinkeggs]

DD2 was so awful, DH has put my uterus on permanent lockdown. She finally slept 3 hours at a time when she was 10 months old.

Now she is the funniest 2 year old ever. We decided to keep her I don't think you're trashing him, but it's important to vent when you need to and not worry about judgment. We can adore our babies and still want to [insert something that doesn't sound too awful because everything I think of does lol] them.

Hang in there

[teflep]

You all know my history with just having lt at all and I HATED the newborn stage until about 6/8 months. He didn't even cry much, but his sleeping was atrocious at night and we were zombies. It was rough and made us unsure of the whole thing for a few fleeting moments. But, now? He is so awesome! It gets better for sure.

[copzgirl1171]

He is flipping adorable, I want to squeeze him!!!

Hell, there are days I still want to strangle my kids and they are off the tit and wipe their own butts....some things never change

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I think if I could let go of my guilt and disappointment over breastfeeding, I'd be all set. :-(

Thanks, all. Well timed encouragement for sure.

[teflep]

Aug 21, 2012 11:32:49 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

I think if I could let go of my guilt and disappointment over breastfeeding, I'd be all set.

Thanks, all. Well timed encouragement for sure.

Couldn't breast feed....lt is still amazing and smart and awesome

[copzgirl1171]

As long as he isn't eating at the Golden Corrals chocolate wonderfalls, my guess is he will thrive

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Look, BFing is great in so many ways, but it's also a drag much of the time. Yes, no bottles to wash, but you are, in essence, tethered to baby, especially before solids. Right now, we're in limbo about whether or not I'll be able to keep up with LilShirley's intake when I go back to work next week, and while I don't want to do formula, I'm sad to say that I'm not sure I'm at a place where I'm willing to bust my ass making pumping that much work. I should have spent the summer building up my freezer stash, but oh well.

My point is, guilt is normal, and if at any point BFing becomes unworkable, you can always change it. Mr. Andy will be fine.

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We're already limping along. I've been pumping all summer just to get my supply up, and even then we supplement with formula at night. We don't have any surplus ready for when I go back to work in a couple of weeks. His latch is still iffy at least a couple of times a day, so its painful still, and I would say half the time that I nurse him, he isn't satisfied and wants more (which makes me feel like shit). He is gaining weight, and maybe once every few days we have a nursing session that I enjoy and feel the warm and fuzzies, but mostly I hate it.

The guilt is only part of it, though, yknow? Mostly I'm so disappointed that it turned out this way. I really wanted to love it. I wanted to have that bond with my son. I keep waiting for it to be wonderful (if not for the nutrition, then only for the emotional attachment) but at 6 weeks, I'm starting to wonder...

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Also, shirley, I love the quote in your sig. That part of the movie is so funny. "But you old, and she's pregnant"

[copzgirl1171]

Kitten, there is ton to feel guilt over. IMHO feeding a child isn't one of them. *hugs*

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Aug 21, 2012 12:13:52 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

We're already limping along. I've been pumping all summer just to get my supply up, and even then we supplement with formula at night. We don't have any surplus ready for when I go back to work in a couple of weeks. His latch is still iffy at least a couple of times a day, so its painful still, and I would say half the time that I nurse him, he isn't satisfied and wants more (which makes me feel like shit). He is gaining weight, and maybe once every few days we have a nursing session that I enjoy and feel the warm and fuzzies, but mostly I hate it.

The guilt is only part of it, though, yknow? Mostly I'm so disappointed that it turned out this way. I really wanted to love it. I wanted to have that bond with my son. I keep waiting for it to be wonderful (if not for the nutrition, then only for the emotional attachment) but at 6 weeks, I'm starting to wonder...

Big hugs. I understand the disappointment but like copz said, you're feeding your son. Don't feel guilty. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to make this work and it IS working - he is eating and gaining weight. Just keep taking it one day at a time.

And seriously, I dont like blaming hormones for everything, but it wasnt until 8 or 10 weeks that I started to feel like myself again - I was just so emotional up until that point, that everything felt like a BIGFUCKINGDEAL even when it wasn't (like, he wouldn't nap one day and i'd freak out that he would be kicked out of daycare for not sleeping.) Then my head kind of cleared.

[mabillon]

I thought I'd post more when on maternity leave but never actually had my hands free. Now I'm back at work and too busy!

BUT - I stumbled across this and wanted to share something that the LC who runs my support group said that has really stuck with me. You don't have to exclusively breastfeed to be a breastfeeding mother. Number one rule is feeding the baby.

So if you're doing it, even not exclusively, you're still doing it! It doesn't need to be an all or nothing proposition, even when you go back to work.

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Aug 21, 2012 14:23:25 GMT -5 mabillon said:

I thought I'd post more when on maternity leave but never actually had my hands free. Now I'm back at work and too busy!

BUT - I stumbled across this and wanted to share something that the LC who runs my support group said that has really stuck with me. You don't have to exclusively breastfeed to be a breastfeeding mother. Number one rule is feeding the baby.

So if you're doing it, even not exclusively, you're still doing it! It doesn't need to be an all or nothing proposition, even when you go back to work.

thank you! this does make me feel better. I tell myself that as long as I can still give him 50%, even if its pumped (which I don't mind), its still worth doing until I reach my goal.

Of course, Dr Sears calls any mom who pumps while working a "part time breastfeeder". Douche.

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Aug 21, 2012 12:15:30 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Also, shirley, I love the quote in your sig. That part of the movie is so funny. "But you old, and she's pregnant"

Ha, right! "I can't let a buncha old, pregnant bitches in here. It's crazy."

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Aug 21, 2012 17:34:18 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Aug 21, 2012 14:23:25 GMT -5 mabillon said:

I thought I'd post more when on maternity leave but never actually had my hands free. Now I'm back at work and too busy!

BUT - I stumbled across this and wanted to share something that the LC who runs my support group said that has really stuck with me. You don't have to exclusively breastfeed to be a breastfeeding mother. Number one rule is feeding the baby.

So if you're doing it, even not exclusively, you're still doing it! It doesn't need to be an all or nothing proposition, even when you go back to work.

thank you! this does make me feel better. I tell myself that as long as I can still give him 50%, even if its pumped (which I don't mind), its still worth doing until I reach my goal.

Of course, Dr Sears calls any mom who pumps while working a "part time breastfeeder". Douche.

Eeew, he does not. Ugh. That's some bullshit. Pumping is way too much goddam work to be relegated to part time status.

[stephiehun]

Aug 21, 2012 11:27:33 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

^^^^i agree with this. if this board, which is consisted of a good chunk of mothers cannot acknowledge the stress raising a new baby is and would judge you, well then, every single one of them can fuck right off.

none of us love our kids 100%, 100% of the time.

Just coming in to agree and commiserate. DD is amazing and wonderful and adorable and all sorts of superlatives. However, since we went on vacation last week, it has taken almost an hour each night to get her to bed. We've tried letting her cry, but she stands up in the crib and screams and throws her pacifier. She's sound asleep until we stand up from the glider to put her in the crib.

Then, she wakes up in the morning dancing and I forget all about it.

I gave up BF after 4 weeks of nearly no supply and terrible pumping. I still feel twinges of guilt (especially when DH does the bills and tells me how much we've spent on formula). I still hate thinking about it, but it wasn't working and I wasn't in an emotional place where I could work at it any harder.

DD is happy and healthy and delightful (except at bedtime). Feed that sweet little monster however you need to.

[ringstrue]

Re: returning to work, you can do it so that you just send him with formula to daycare and then still nurse when you are home with him. If I could have pulled that off supply-wise I would have. Best of both worlds!