I am on day 3 of my trip to Disneyland and I am already exhausted. It is just two parks, 4 adults and 1 kid and we stop everyday for an afternoon nap.
How do people visit DisneyWorld with multiple kids and take trips for 5+ days? It would probably be the death of me. I walk everywhere at home but I guess I am not walking 8 + miles a day.
Will you be there tomorrow? We're flying into So Cal tonight and going tomorrow. Still haven't decided if we should try to do both parks - probably not.
Sorry I am in the Paris one. You can come here if you want
And matildasun, I sound obsessed here but I fear that in real life I don't put my money where my mouth is. I'm in denial. When my H says she is chubby, I say no way. He doesn't say it to her.
I don't want to sound unsympathetic, because my daughter is also a good eater at the top of the percentiles for height and about 75-80% for weight. I have great concerns about helping her develop good habits. I come from an entire family of disordered eaters. No one in my family enjoys food except for me. I was given a hard time for needing to eat three meals and snacks, especially once I was a young adult. I have my own issues with food to overcome. I am terrified about my passing this on to my kids. They are both good eaters, who are less picky than I am about vegetables. I try not to make food an issue.
Post by scribellesam on Sept 3, 2015 9:30:45 GMT -5
Our Canadian neighbor brought us maple coffee as a thank you gift last month for a favor we did for her when she was visiting family. We started drinking it today when we ran out of regular coffee. Wow, it is maple-y! And that's with only 1/3 maple coffee and 2/3 regular. Interested to see what it tastes like at full strength tomorrow.
I was thinking about you last week. DD2 had her 4 yo well visit. She weighs 52#, off the charts for a 4 yo. She's in the 97th %il for height, so tall too, but her BMI is too high (according to pedi...I'm not sure what BMI for a 4 yo really gives you). She just eats a ton. Like your DD, mostly decent, some bad, a lot good. She just likes to eat. She gets a decent amount of activity in too. Pedi wants us to focus on limiting overall intake and letting her help us choose and prep the food so that's she's even more interested in veggies. She's a meat-atarian for sure. Put anything meat in front of her and she's asking for seconds and thirds. We are also supposed to work on limiting her milk intake a bit (all skim, but again, she drinks a lot of milk). Overall, the pedi isn't worried, but does want us to work on developing healthy habits now. I'm trying to get her to go "running" with me every now and again, as well as we're trying to do more bike riding too.
Hang in there. Focus on healthy relationships with food. DH told DD2 once she couldn't have more of something because her tummy was too big. I lost my mind on him (later). He had no idea why that was such a bad thing to say. Well, he does now!!
Thanks for weighing in. I look at all the other kids and they are so small. Picky eater? I wish. Lol. No seriously I don't want it to be my fault that she has issues later - it's hard to make changes later. Plus kids are mean. And matildasun, I sound obsessed here but I fear that in real life I don't put my money where my mouth is. I'm in denial. When my H says she is chubby, I say no way. He doesn't say it to her.
As a former " fat kid" and now " fat adult" ( although I had some slim years there in my 20s) I wish my Mom had done a few things different.
1) Focus on health and not on weight loss. She was always on a diet, my dad was always on a diet, there was always a discussion of food in my house. It was not helpful and has seriously changed me and my relationship to food. I wish we had talked more about trying healthy choices, and made more fun out of food and eating and less stress about who was on what diet.
2) Exercise. Again it was like a punishment. My mom was a helicopter parent and I wasn't allowed to go outside the yard, or ride bikes down the hill or walk places with my friends. Limited opportunities for natural exercise. I wish we had had FAMILY opportunities to exercise together that felt good and not like punishment ( like making me walk the track with her after school because I was fat)
3) Body Shame. It's like my Mom's middle name. She is obsessed with the fact that you should feel bad about yourself if you don't look a certain way. It's really sad. I spent HOURS in dressing rooms with her as she pointed out her flaws. She tried to dress me in " flattering" tents that hid me from the time I was like 8. I have large breasts and as soon as I started to develop the message was that I was " bad" or " too developed" I felt AWFUL about myself from an early age.
Despite all of this she let me BINGE out of control. Feeling fat made me sad, that made me eat, that made me fatter. It was a cycle. She bought all manners of candy and baked ALL.THE.TIME and juice and PIZZA FRIDAY. HUGE dinners every Sunday. Pasta 3 times a week. Out to eat every Saturday night. Cinnamon rolls for breakfast before church on Sunday and then cookies after church at coffee hour. She never denied me ANYTHING and encouraged me to eat as much as I could. I have a memory of being in the 6th grade and watching the girl in the American Flag bikini on MTVs Spring Break in my bedroom eating a Costco sized bag of M&Ms from a large crystal top hat ( LOL that we had a crystal top hat??)
It took me until I had a kid to realize I am more than my body. I am a human. My worth is not tied to my pants size or the number on the scale. It's okay to eat healthy and indulge from time to time. It's okay to try to lose weight or exercise for YOU and noone else. It's okay to like yourself at a size 16 and at a size 6.
I'm sure you won't do these things to your daughter. Despite it all my Mom was a great Mom. She was TRYING so hard to do better for me than her Mom did for her. She just didn't know how/ was scared. I know your little girl will grow up loved and know to love herself and that is the most important thing. If she weighs 300 lbs or 100lbs that she is loved and loves herself. It's so hard. I am sometimes really glad I have a boy.
And matildasun, I sound obsessed here but I fear that in real life I don't put my money where my mouth is. I'm in denial. When my H says she is chubby, I say no way. He doesn't say it to her.
I don't want to sound unsympathetic, because my daughter is also a good eater at the top of the percentiles for height and about 75-80 for weight. I have great concerns about helping her develop good habits. I come from an entire family of disordered eaters. No one in my family enjoys food except for me. I was given a hard time for needing to eat three meals and snacks, especially once I was a young adult. I have my own issues with food to overcome. I am terrified about my passing this on to my kids. They are both good eaters, who are less picky than I am about vegetables. I try not to make food an issue.
Personally I have no food hang ups. I can basically eat whatever I want and stay the same size (within 5-10lbs). Thanks ulcerative colitis. I think it's starting to catch up to me now as my colitis is in remission and I am almost 40. But since it's so strange to me to watch what I eat, and for my parents - I find it a new universe to charter to watch what she eats without projecting. I also think my nanny isn't concerned and therefore gives her all the food. I think school will help in that respect. Right now she has cereal and oatmeal for breakfast when the nanny has her. Why both? Maybe I will start boiling eggs on the weekend for her breakfasts. I kind of wish the doctor would have said some thing but she didn't.
DD has only been drinking 10 oz of breastmilk at daycare, so yesterday I decided I could drop down to pumping twice a day. Then yesterday she drank 16 oz! Little punk. Guess I'd better go back to pumping 3 times a day. Boo.
I'm in a fight with Comcast. They switched billing systems and dropped an awesome promo I had on my account (that took forever to negotiate). This is the 3rd phone call with them and I hate them so very much. I'm tempted to pay my bill with my CC and dispute the extra $70 as I have more faith in my CC dispute process than with Comcast. I can't decide if this is ethical, though.
I'm also secretly hoping a tiny bit that they try to charge us an early termination fee when we move. Just so we can go out in a final blaze of glory together.
@savestheday thanks for sharing. I do think she is adorable just the way she is. I just worry. Not about her health, because she is just a little chubby (right now) I worry about friends and bullies. And being picked last in gym class. When I see other older chubby kids with friends, I feel so happy. But all the kids I see are so skinny. Not just average. They are skinny.
Post by scribellesam on Sept 3, 2015 9:39:12 GMT -5
Since we're discussing kid food issues, DH and I finally admitted to each other how terrible we've allowed DS1's eating habits to get and came up with a plan to address it. From now on, we eat meals at the table, not in front of the TV, and we eat what we are served.
I'm still going to serve mostly things he will eat for a bit while we transition, but the list of food he eats has been progressively shrinking over the past year and we cater to him way too much for as old as he is.
Post by catsarecute on Sept 3, 2015 9:49:45 GMT -5
*I'm almost done with these annoying job updates!*
I made the top 4 candidates for the position so I will have one more interview with the department director and program coordinator (both my current bosses, by the way) on Friday!!!!!!!!
Post by leonard131 on Sept 3, 2015 10:01:38 GMT -5
chickens987 that is a huge panel. wow. GOOD LUCK. 5 minutes from home-what would you do with all the extra time :-)
So I am 95% sure I am going to pull the trigger and accept the new job I was offered. It seems to be a great company and is executive level which has been my ultimate career goal but 5% of me is scared as I LOVE my job, company and team now. I wish someone could teleport me 6 months in the future so I can see if I made the right decision by taking it.
I was worried about DS1's transition back to school since his teacher and ECE both left for another one, and his BFF wouldn't be in the same class as him anymore. But, I just learned who is teacher will be, and she's fantastic, and 2 of the girls from his after school care will also be in his class. I'm so relieved!
chickens987 that is a huge panel. wow. GOOD LUCK. 5 minutes from home-what would you do with all the extra time :-)
So I am 95% sure I am going to pull the trigger and accept the new job I was offered. It seems to be a great company and is executive level which has been my ultimate career goal but 5% of me is scared as I LOVE my job, company and team now. I wish someone could teleport me 6 months in the future so I can see if I made the right decision by taking it.
Ahhh! I was wondering about you. Here's my advice - I had been looking halfheartedly for a while, but I never would have left on my own. So much of that was fear of the unknown. But job searching has been fulfilling in a way my job hadn't been for a while; I've had to push myself out of my comfort zone, and really look at what would make me happy. I wish I had found a job years ago that pushed me like this.
I think leaving a place you love must be hard, but you know what you want to be, and if this job helps with that goal, it won't be the wrong choice.
I HATE MY TODDLER SOMETIMES. She is driving me insane. Feed me she begs, then throws everything I offer her on the ground and eventually hits me in the face. It took everything in me to not 'tap' her hand for that. I just held it firmly and said no. Omg. How many more years of this shit???
I'm really irritated with our daycare right now. Daycare for us is a luxury since we don't work the same days. But it's really good for the kids and my mental health. So I've been toying with the idea of pulling the kids from daycare because I'm so irritated. However. There are no other options for daycare in this stupid town
I HATE MY TODDLER SOMETIMES. She is driving me insane. Feed me she begs, then throws everything I offer her on the ground and eventually hits me in the face. It took everything in me to not 'tap' her hand for that. I just held it firmly and said no. Omg. How many more years of this shit???
18 months marked the turning point with my son. More words, could get on and off the couch reliably, stuff like that.
I really didn't care for 12-18 months, but after 2, things really did improve. DS still cries over stupid stuff, but he can at least talk about what his problem is. I don't have a lot of patience with toddlers though, so it was hard for me. I yell sometimes.
Post by gibbinator on Sept 3, 2015 10:38:13 GMT -5
I can't play police mom anymore. I feel like every 10 seconds the kids are together I'm telling ds1 to stop hitting, smacking, bonking, pushing, squishing, throwing things at or otherwise harassing his brother. Ugh. He needs to go back to daycare and get some structure back in his life. He's basically a wild animals right now.
Post by countthestars on Sept 3, 2015 11:00:12 GMT -5
My coworker and I are on a conference call with a client and he is breathing really heavily into the phone. We all wear headsets and I have never met him in person - do I say something? This isn't a one off - he is always breathing into his headset super loudly. Awkward.
My H left for 10 days and his car keys (either set) are nowhere to be found.
Combined with the fact that he couldn't find his debit card (for at least a week) and I found it within 2 minutes of looking on a shelf by the door where he usually keeps his keys/phone/cards, I have no idea how he functions as an adult.
I'm so sleepy that I'm actually trying to figure out if there's somewhere I can hide out and take a quick nap. Took an extra diclectin this morning so I'm less nauseous but dang girl, I can't keep my eyes open.
It is too hot here today for car sleeping, but the pump room is free for the next 2 hours... I'm seriously considering using it. The chair isn't very comfortable, though.
I'm going to attempt caffeine first. I stopped drinking caffeine completely during my first two pregnancies. Poor third child already getting shafted.
I HATE MY TODDLER SOMETIMES. She is driving me insane. Feed me she begs, then throws everything I offer her on the ground and eventually hits me in the face. It took everything in me to not 'tap' her hand for that. I just held it firmly and said no. Omg. How many more years of this shit???
TWINS. For 10 minutes this morning, my kid screamed and reached for her plate and when I put it on her tray, she tried to pick it up and toss it on the ground. When I would wrestle it out of her death grip (why are kids so strong?), she would scream and reach for it again. REPEAT THAT 15 times. OMG. I was seriously about to just give up and not feed her. And then finally, she just accepted it and happily ate.
We had Ds' first gymnastics class today and he loved it. He was not so great at waiting and ran around like a crazy kid but at least he got energy out.!
I feel miserable even though things really are pretty good. All the sucky stuff is temporary & not for that much longer but it feels like it will be forever. Ugh!
Maybe DS and I will go out to lunch AGAIN and see if that cheers me up some.
chickens987 that is a huge panel. wow. GOOD LUCK. 5 minutes from home-what would you do with all the extra time :-)
So I am 95% sure I am going to pull the trigger and accept the new job I was offered. It seems to be a great company and is executive level which has been my ultimate career goal but 5% of me is scared as I LOVE my job, company and team now. I wish someone could teleport me 6 months in the future so I can see if I made the right decision by taking it.
Ahhh! I was wondering about you. Here's my advice - I had been looking halfheartedly for a while, but I never would have left on my own. So much of that was fear of the unknown. But job searching has been fulfilling in a way my job hadn't been for a while; I've had to push myself out of my comfort zone, and really look at what would make me happy. I wish I had found a job years ago that pushed me like this.
I think leaving a place you love must be hard, but you know what you want to be, and if this job helps with that goal, it won't be the wrong choice.
You are so right and helps to hear. I am so fortunate that my job now makes me very happy but I know ultimately I want to make the jump and while other opportunities have presented themselves this one is the first one I have considered. Part of me is wondering if maybe I just wait another year or two and see what is out there but then I worry I will get the point that I am 100% ready but there isn't any opportunity and I lose the love for my job.
Keeping my fingers crossed that everything goes well for you today.