You all made me paranoid, being nice or MLM message?

[gerberdaisy]

I posted a pic of DD on fb today for her first birthday.  A girl I was friends with in college, but lost touch with sent me a message pretty soon after.  I thought she was just being nice, but now after posts here I'm wondering if she wants me to join her BB team? 

Extra info: I have a few pounds to lose and we haven't talked in about 8 years.

SO, I ask you MMM, nice or BB?

Message:
"Congratulations on getting married! You looked beautiful, and I love that you had a short dress on!  and Happy birthday to your daughter.  The birthday picture is so precious! How are you!?

[Deleted]

I think she wants to sell you stuff.

But I'd reply and report back with when the pitch comes, and what it is for.

[patbutcher]

sell you stuff for sure. I would respond back though now just in case.

[kershnic]

I mean, I think it's possible to be both. Like, not all MLM people are psycho and lie to their former friends and acquaintances to try to convince them to buy things. But I do suspect that a significant part of why she reached out now is that she wants to sell to you. She may also want to reconnect and feel that your picture is precious.

[redpenmama]

If she is a MLMer, I would be very suspicious. Doesn't mean you can't reply, just be prepared to either ignore her sales pitch or say no.

[amaranth]

I'd be suspicious but not blow her off because of that assumption. I've had some college friends look me up and they do sell stuff, but haven't pitched to me once. She could be for real. Worst case scenario you lost two minutes being nice now and block her later.

[anna7602]

I would take my chances and write back. I'm not really bothered by the MLM pitches except for when the person is blatantly ignoring someone's challenging life circumstances (like Brie posted the other day). The reality is that a lot of people are looking to lose weight or get in shape or have better skin, so if someone trying to sell me anti-aging products or special shakes or a work-out regimen wants to pitch me, I don't take it as a personal affront that I look older than I am or am out of shape or need to learn how to "eat clean." I figure they're writing the same thing to everyone in their network.

[gerberdaisy]

She's a BBer, but not overly so. About a year ago it was tons of posts all the time about it, but I just looked and most recent was a #shakeology on 8/15 and lots of regular posts since then, so maybe 1-2/month.

I responded, but I'm guessing its a sales pitch.

I hate second guessing all this stuff!

[jeaniebueller]

I don't know! I would respond back but not hold my breath.

[Muddled]

Why do BB people prey on new moms? Assholes.

[Ashley&Scott]

Well she could be laying the groundwork for a sales pitch. Or it could be completely innocent, I'm not a MLMer but occasionally I will comment on a photo posted by an old classmate.

[gerberdaisy]

Sept 3, 2015 12:54:01 GMT -5 Ashley&Scott said:

Well she could be laying the groundwork for a sales pitch. Or it could be completely innocent, I'm not a MLMer but occasionally I will comment on a photo posted by an old classmate.

If it was a comment I wouldn't think twice about it, but she sent a message.  I'm 95% sure its a sales pitch, just laughed to myself that I wouldn't have thought this way if it wasn't for this board!

[Ashley&Scott]

Sept 3, 2015 12:56:45 GMT -5 gerberdaisy said:

Sept 3, 2015 12:54:01 GMT -5 Ashley&Scott said:

Well she could be laying the groundwork for a sales pitch. Or it could be completely innocent, I'm not a MLMer but occasionally I will comment on a photo posted by an old classmate.

If it was a comment I wouldn't think twice about it, but she sent a message.  I'm 95% sure its a sales pitch, just laughed to myself that I wouldn't have thought this way if it wasn't for this board!

I missed that it was a private message. In that case I agree it's most likely sales pitch groundwork

[Velar Fricative]

Definitely a sales pitch. Look at all those exclamation points.

[mpc]

So was your wedding fairly recent? Or is that your profile picture? That part seemed a little off to me, like she went scrolling through your photos to find something to talk about. unless of course you've posted a wedding pic recently then you can ignore me.

[gerberdaisy]

Sept 3, 2015 13:13:37 GMT -5 mpc said:

So was your wedding fairly recent? Or is that your profile picture? That part seemed a little off to me, like she went scrolling through your photos to find something to talk about. unless of course you've posted a wedding pic recently then you can ignore me.

Yup, got married at the end of July and its my profile pic, so that part isn't off.

[Deleted]

The worst MLM tactic I've personally experienced was someone who was like "oh our friend T said you would probably like to host a party". And I was like "WTF, T?!" My friend made no such suggestion. The MLMer totally made that up.

It is pretty shitty when you have to be suspicious of anyone going out of their way to be friendly.

[aspentosh]

It could go either way. I hope it's not her trying to sell something

[thebreakfastclub]

Sept 3, 2015 13:08:58 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Sept 3, 2015 12:42:11 GMT -5 @this said:

How's the rest of her FB? Is it all shakes and live action working out videos and stuff? Does she have a lot of fitness hashtags? #mompreneur? #girlboss? #naptimehustler?

Have you really seen these exact hashtags?

#girlboss and #bossbabe are constant from someone selling R&F on H's FB.  

[sjh722]

Sept 3, 2015 13:37:45 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Maybe you should get ahead of the game here.

When you respond, you try to sell HER something.

I'm so glad you reconnected! I have been meaning to tell you all about my beach body/herbalife/conversion to the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints!

She'll never message you again!

[lg28]

Sept 3, 2015 13:37:45 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Maybe you should get ahead of the game here.

When you respond, you try to sell HER something.

Omg this is seriously the best idea ever.

[Deleted]

I'm just here eating Cheetos while everyone is talking about BB and shakeology.

#workfromhomecheetohustler

[cheeseandcrackers]

i've noticed as soon as i became a mom these people just started targeting me.. ridiculous.

[estrellita]

I do have to say someone I'm not super good friends with randomly messaged me about our trip right after she started posting about this stuff and I was bracing myself for the sales pitch, but it never came. So there's a small chance it's not a sales pitch!

At least you'd have to give her credit for trying instead of just throwing it right in the first message that person has ever sent you...

[fryjack2]

Sept 3, 2015 12:53:50 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Why do BB people prey on new moms? Assholes.

Right?!

When the twins were about 10 months old,I got a random FB message from a BBer who I hadn't spoken to in 10 years. And even back then we were friendly, but not friends. She was trying to get me to join and talked about how hard it was to get into shape and she could help me.

I ignored her because well, MLM and I was training for a marathon so I already knew how hard it was. I didn't need her "help."

[origami]

The MLM sellers I have on my feed are pretty blunt in their PM. "Hi origami, I have an amazing opportunity for you..." Blah blah blah.

[Ashley&Scott]

Sept 3, 2015 13:37:45 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Maybe you should get ahead of the game here.

When you respond, you try to sell HER something.

Years ago when telemarketers would call my grandparents house my grandpa would answer, play along for a bit then try to sell them one of his horses. He got the biggest kick out of it because the people weren't allowed to hang up so he would go on & on about how awesome his horse was. Lol.

[jewel]

Sept 3, 2015 13:37:45 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Maybe you should get ahead of the game here.

When you respond, you try to sell HER something.

PLEASE DO THIS! Oh my gosh, you seriously have to do this, and report back.

"Things are GREAT! Married life is awesome. The kid is getting bigger, and so much fun! But, the best part is that I've been #blessed with the most amazing opportunity to help other moms just like me. You know, it's funny that you reached out, because I actually think that you'd be the perfect addition to my #dreamteam. "

[skib]

Sept 3, 2015 22:13:43 GMT -5 swizz said:

I think I might try to make #naptimehustler happen.

Because it's like, I'm a mom! ...but I'm also badass.

/dead