I don't like vegetables. I remember a post about this on CE&P and people were appalled that there are people in this world who hate them
I hate them. There is not one veggie I like. I'll eat a salad and sometimes munch on raw veggies if at a party but I normally do not eat them cooked.
I do make them for my kids to eat and I will eat them in front of them to set an example but I never ever choose to eat them.
FI HATES fruits and veggies for the most part. He will eat a banana or apple on occasion (read maybe 5 times a year). He will eat carrots, green beans cooked by me or my mom, and broccoli covered in cheese.
LHC your point re: over v under is actually a very good one. I always felt they were overprescribed but also generally didn't have an opinion about if that was bad or not. You summed it up well!!!!
I try my hardest to have the laundry done, house cleaned, dinner made, but doing this with kids around really is like brushing your teeth while eating oreos (source: I forget). FWIW, I have a 3 year old and an almost 1 year old. It is NOT easy. It is rewarding, but not easy. This thread is making me sad. Being a SAHM is a very looked down upon job and this isn't helping. It's like when women say that giving birth is easy. Ha!
I don't think it's "easy". Parenting isn't easy. Being an adult isn't easy.
But it can be easier to have 7 days in which to accomplish these things, vs. the 2 that people who also have to be in an office 5 days have, KWIM?
Quite frankly, the things that you do every day are the things that I take vacation days to do. That's my time off - to enjoy my family. Not that there isn't work involved, but it's different work than is required by being in an office all day.
That said, being at home is a hell of a lot more physically exhausting than sitting at a desk!
I just became a SAHM a few months ago, so I have done both - SAHM and full-time working mom. I also was a WAHM with one baby home with me and the other in daycare. They all have their positives and negatives. When I worked, laundry, dinner, etc was split between my H and me. Now that I am home, all of those responsibilities fall on me. I am not faulting my H, as he does do his fair share around (yard work, car maintenance, etc). I am just saying that most SAHM I know do ALL of the housework, while most of my working friends share the housework with their spouses.
My pitbull is by far the calmest, most laid back dog I have ever owned. Breed discrimination is total BS.
100% agree
I hate breed discrimination, too. But I don't blame people for being scared of my dog. There is so little good information spread about pit bulls that I can see why people are so afraid of them. They shoudn't be, but we can thank the motherfucking media for that.
And Jaylea has a good point about the balance of time for WOH and SAH parents. Really, it's just different types of stress and balancing. I only judge when people feel compelled one way or the other outside of their own finances or happiness (ie, they feel they HAVE to SAH b/c of culture, etc). Do your own thing, be happy!
I hate breed discrimination, too. But I don't blame people for being scared of my dog. There is so little good information spread about pit bulls that I can see why people are so afraid of them. They shoudn't be, but we can thank the motherfucking media for that.
This is exactly why our 2nd dog, and every dog that we have from here on out will be either a pitbull or another dog that is often discriminated against. I feel like it's really important to give these dogs a good home, and train them really well, so that when people meet them, they will have a personal experience with that breed of dog that leaves a lasting GOOD impression, not just the crap that the media spews out to everyone about how all these dogs are born killers.
I am little afraid of them. Sometimes a lot, when I note some unsocialized ones.
They used to be nanny dogs. In-breeding for the purpose of breeding vicious fighting dogs really hurt the breed. If people own them, they need to get them into obedience training. I've read and heard from folks that really love them that they can be great. I had a pit/Rhodesian Ridgeback mix for a while (foster) and she had aggressive tendencies, but a precious side, too. She's had extensive obedience training and is now an agility dog. People that haven't needed obedience training, sorry to offend you. I haven't dealt with all of the pit bulls, just observed/read/know folks who have had issues or have had dogs. I think it's great that they are mellow for you, that is ideal.
And I disagree: I've seen this reaction with poopy DH's in general--not just the cheaty ones.
I know I'm the last one that most of you want to hear this from...
But a lot of times it's after example after example after example of why the H is "poopy". The guy doesn't forget to hold the door for her and people like me are "DUMP HIM NOW!". It usually comes after solid proof that the "poopy" moments are a symptom of a much larger problem.
I hate breed discrimination, too. But I don't blame people for being scared of my dog. There is so little good information spread about pit bulls that I can see why people are so afraid of them. They shoudn't be, but we can thank the motherfucking media for that.
H & I had a pit/boxer mix for 5 years. He was the sweetest, most gentle, and hands down the best dog we ever had. Around 5 years he starting acting aggressive in weird incidents - we took him to multiple vets to see if medically there was an issue, and to a animal behaviorist. His aggression only increased, so we ended up rehoming him to a farm on in West Texas that specializes in pet pits whose personality has changed. We get updates on him all the time, and can visit him whenever we want.
I love him, idk what turned him that made his behavior so unpredictable. I hate the idea of rehoming an animal and I think it's lazy and selfish. This experience always makes me second guess the pit attack reportings bc I wonder if they were like my sweet pup.
I miss him, but I was becoming uncomfortable with him in our home and around others. It haunts me if I did the right thing.
Word. I was about to say that people like sailor gray are the ones who give SAHMs a whiny rap, but then I realized that she would likely be like that no matter what her circumstances. Eye roll.
I am not sure why you think I am whiny. I love what I do and wouldn't trade it for the world. I never complain about what I do. I think it's funny when moms try to get it all done b/c it is impossible to be perfect. I am very thankful to be in a position where I get to take my boys to the zoo, park, farm, etc.
I guess my personality isn't coming across on here. I am no way being a mommy martyr. I thank my H constantly for supporting my decision to become a SAHM.
I know I'm the last one that most of you want to hear this from...
But a lot of times it's after example after example after example of why the H is "poopy". The guy doesn't forget to hold the door for her and people like me are "DUMP HIM NOW!". It usually comes after solid proof that the "poopy" moments are a symptom of a much larger problem.
Do you feel like you are actually helping people?
No... I've finally realized that it's not worth my breath to say it or your (universal you) time to hear it.
Post by pittsmcgee on Aug 21, 2012 13:57:17 GMT -5
I think that's awesome, sakelp. It is all about their owners/homes I just hate how we get the side eye from people when we try to take him for walks. Or that we can't take him camping, etc. It's so much harder to have a breed that isn't "allowed" anywhere. It always makes me laugh when you think about how people are so scared of him, but he is by far the most affectionate and cuddly dog i've had in my life.
I can't say that my dog would never bite anyone, I think that if he were really scared, or hurt, or someone was hurting me, that he would probably bite someone. But unprovoked unreasonable biting that stems from nowhere? I really don't see either of my dogs doing that. We have made sure to socialize them since they were puppies around all kinds of people, different ages, people with canes, walkers, umbrellas, etc. So not a lot startles them, and they are both easy going. I agree that the assumption that your dog would NEVER bite anyone, is probably the cause for a lot of dog bites.
I hate breed discrimination, too. But I don't blame people for being scared of my dog. There is so little good information spread about pit bulls that I can see why people are so afraid of them. They shoudn't be, but we can thank the motherfucking media for that.
I don't blame people for being afraid, but I get upset when people want to ban them. The blame is 100% on media and bad owners.
eta - if you start banning breeds, the bad owners will just pick a new breed to give a bad name to.
And, no offense to Bab, but not just hard for people w kids w special needs. Our boys are only 4.5 months and it's HARD WORK to take them out sometimes. I can only IMAGINE how it'll be when they're mobile and more human being-like.
Don't take them out EVER? Yeah, reevaluate hiding your children. But I don't blame Jake one iota for not taking them to the park, etc., daily, and being hesitant to even run errands alone with them.
JFC
My twins are almost 2 and I was home with them all summer. We averaged one-two trips out of the house a week. It was all I could do. It is seriously difficult to leave with two toddlers who are teething, on opposite nap schedules and insanely mobile. Somedays it is next to impossible to take them out alone. I dont blame anyone for not taking their kids out everyday.
I should note that our pit mix was a rescue, so I don't know what his life was like before us, but he was adopted at 4 weeks and was intelligence and fantastic. They've still never found anything wrong with him.
Post by sawyerthedestroyer on Aug 21, 2012 14:00:16 GMT -5
I don't really give a fuck if any of you look down on me for being a SAHM. I do what works for my family and you can do what works for your family. This mommy wars/SAHM Vs. Working Moms nonsense is lame.
I've had a "very well trained, wouldn't hurt a fly, so lovey" pit snap at my face before, when I was just sitting on the floor at someone's house. The dog was laying next to me, looking for attention, and a minute later he snapped at me.
I also am unamused by the people who bring their dogs to very crowded places and let their young children hold them - especially when it's a strong/big dog. Just seems to be common sense to me that you don't allow a child to handle a dog they can't control. In my area, these dogs are always pits. Doesn't help their reputation much.
ETA: While I wouldn't own a pit, I also wouldn't own a small dog. Preferences and all.
And, no offense to Bab, but not just hard for people w kids w special needs. Our boys are only 4.5 months and it's HARD WORK to take them out sometimes. I can only IMAGINE how it'll be when they're mobile and more human being-like.
Don't take them out EVER? Yeah, reevaluate hiding your children. But I don't blame Jake one iota for not taking them to the park, etc., daily, and being hesitant to even run errands alone with them.
JFC
My twins are almost 2 and I was home with them all summer. We averaged one-two trips out of the house a week. It was all I could do. It is seriously difficult to leave with two toddlers who are teething, on opposite nap schedules and insanely mobile. Somedays it is next to impossible to take them out alone. I dont blame anyone for not taking their kids out everyday.
Well, and you can also do super fun, educational stuff at home too. Of course you don't want to never leave the house... but I could see not leaving the house on the weekdays for a few weeks without it negatively impacting the children. There are so many activities that you can do in the comfort of your home.