I'm so sorry, that sounds so heartbreaking for your family . Is this a temporary guardianship arrangement? It's possible that for a long-term placement, your parents will be able to get custody because they are relatives. I don't know how it works, but this just sounds so unfair.
nope! blood doesn't mean a god damn thing. the only way my parents are going to see her is if my sister agrees to it. Given the fact that my parents kicked sis out I highly doubt that is going to happen. The only way that mom and dad can fight the agreement is if sister dies. And that is a possibility at this point. I'm not doing good about this.
I told mum that we should both look in to going to a support group.
Post by estrellita on Sept 3, 2015 20:48:05 GMT -5
I'm sorry That poor girl. I couldn't imagine having my mom do all that. I agree that something seems totally off about this. But I guess as a babysitter she could claim to be a good caretaker but does this babysitter want to be this girl's mother? Even temporarily? Because that's what she is if she has custody.. I wonder if she realizes this because raising a child is definitely not the same as babysitting!
Omg, I am so so sorry Anya I know you know this, but maybe it will soften the blow to remind yourself she isn't in a good mental place. She can't make wise decisions when she herself isnin such a bad place.
I so wish this had happened differently though. Your poor niece being pulled around like this. Life can be just heartbreaking.
I'm so sorry anyastroud. Is there any chance that your parents can look into becoming foster parents, and then maybe take your sister/the babysitter to court to get your niece?
I honestly don't know what can be done other then the above. Is this babysitter a drug addict too? How did your sister meet her?
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult this must be. Your parents should definitely meet with a lawyer to see if they have any options at all. Your sister clearly isn't in the right capacity to be making legal decisions about her daughter.
I would also like to add that baby sitter is super crazy-cakes. She and her husband are unable to have children and have been in my niece's life for a while. I went to her 2nd birthday party over at babysitters house. they had a water slide a bouncy house a cotton candy maker popcorn popper and a bunch of other ridiculous things for a 2 year old. I walked in like WOW is all this just for D. I had never met baby-sitter before this. and she replied "Of course it is who the fuck are you?"
Wait hold the phone bitch who the fuck an I? I'm her fucking aunt you know Jessie's sister. (idea) "oh my bad I guess you do look a bit like jess." DUH! fucking idiot.
Second example of her crazy showing was last Christmas when Said baby-sitter had a huge problem and tantrum because sis wanted to have her littler girl with her for Christmas eve and Christmas day. Baby sitter was pissed off at sis for not letting her have the baby for the holiday.
Like WTF times a million. It's not your kid, and she is going to spend the holiday with her actual family not yours.
My heart is breaking for my parents the only way they are going to see her is if sis agrees to it. I don't think she will because my parents kicked her out. The ONLY way around that is if my sister is dead. It is my belief that sis is doing this all out of spite because my parents are fed up and can't take it any more and kicked her out.
So basically Sister is no longer a parent has 0 responsibilities and is free and clear to get high or party or whatever, when ever she wants.
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult this must be. Your parents should definitely meet with a lawyer to see if they have any options at all. Your sister clearly isn't in the right capacity to be making legal decisions about her daughter.
See and I don't even know how it happened because I agree with you. One tiny glance at her past would show any one that she is incapable of making good choices.
Get your parents to talk to a third-party custody attorney. As grandparents, they should be able to fight for at least visitation.
Talk to them about being foster licensed so there is more of a leg to stand on with the "but we're also licensed foster parents." They don't have to take in kids; they can be licensed specifically for your niece.
As foster licensed grandparents, with CPS involved, hopefully your sister's rights will be terminated and your parents will be able to step in at that time. Relative caregivers in my state have priority over non-relative caregivers, licensed or not.
Unfortunately, as your sister still has parental rights, she does have the right to decide that her child goes to a foster family rather than relatives. My daughter chose that her children go to XH and as long as he was willing to take them she had a say in placement. When he couldn't take them, she was given a choice between me or a foster family; if she chose the foster route over me they would have gone to foster placement. Once her rights were terminated, that was when we would have been able to step in as relative caregivers and potential adoptive placement. Relatives over non-relatives and once the parent's rights are terminated, they have no choice in the placement or custody arrangements.