BEC friend and a tale of tomato bisque

[hopecounts]

Oh no so not cool.
That completely sucks.

[fluffernutter]

i would have ordered a personal pizza as my "appetizer."

[mcsangel2]

And how did A and C feel about this? Because fuck that. I'd probably not ever invite her again.

And no tomato bisque is as good as good pizza. Pizza always wins.

[lilibet]

This is not a BEC situation. That's straight up shitty behavior.

So basically B conned you all into helping her fill her freezer with her bisque without having to dirty her own kitchen...

eta - B not C, clearly the alphabet and I aren't getting along today

[1confused1]

Oh wow. I would have been pissed.

[sapphireblue]

I would be really annoyed about this. If I were A and it were my house I think I would have put the kibosh on it. Not judging A here but that sucks.

[ECB]

You need to get on the same page w your friends. Next time she pulls this? The rest of you need to BRIGHTLY Say no. 3 against 1 and the hostess doesn't agree to open up her kitchen? What can B do?

[cville]

If I were A, I would've ordered a pizza halfway through the process. Oh, and also punched B in the face.

[isabel]

Dude, no. Why did none of you shut this shit down? That's ridiculous.

[sparkythelawyer]

This is the same friend, isn't it. The one you've complained about before.

[ECB]

Why is B even invited? She's BEC for me and I don't even know her. What does she bring to the table?

[cleo29]

yeah, I know a woman like that. I do think it is a control thing.

[mcsangel2]

Sept 20, 2015 13:21:56 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:20:53 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

This is the same friend, isn't it. The one you've complained about before.

yep. Crazycakes. 

I was sitting here trying to remember if it was you that had the crazy friend. Why are you guys still including her?

[isabel]

Sept 20, 2015 13:21:22 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:19:51 GMT -5 isabel said:

Dude, no. Why did none of you shut this shit down? That's ridiculous.

It was 'done' when I got there (last to arrive). A seemed ok w/it, not my house, so I just went along w/it. We have to have the plan for next time though.  I already texted C this am, and will chat w/A this week. 

Ah, that makes sense. I figured you, of all people, would have shut her down with haste, brightly, of course.

[sparkythelawyer]

Sept 20, 2015 13:21:56 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:20:53 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

This is the same friend, isn't it. The one you've complained about before.

yep. Crazycakes. 

Dude.

You don't have a friend problem.

YOU HAVE A SUESUE PROBLEM.

[sparkythelawyer]

Sept 20, 2015 13:28:24 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:25:59 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Dude.

You don't have a friend problem.

YOU HAVE A SUESUE PROBLEM.

do, though, note that it was not me who invited her and not me who cancelled the pizza; I was not the host. Last time she tried to pull this on me as host, I was able to beat her back, but it took some effort. 

Hold your ground, lady.

[MixedBerryJam]

Having just spent days peeling and gutting tomatoes I would be beyond livid with B. OMG. Who does that? She sounds insufferable, and then some. Does she have at least some redeeming friend qualities? Because she deserves a stern talking to and possibly a shunning. Who makes soup at a pizza party? And if a person is going to make soup, who doesn't do the tomato prep in their own kitchen? Some bitch who knows what a frigging pita it is and what a fucking mess it makes is who. OMG. I hope you're ordering pizza tonight.

[sparkythelawyer]

Sept 20, 2015 13:29:36 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:28:59 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Hold your ground, lady.

I'm hosting the Halloween party this year, and fuck her. 

Fuck her indeed :-)

[ECB]

I change what I said earlier. You don't need to get on the same page about how to handle her. You need to get on the same page about just not inviting her. She sounds like such a pill.

[eb777888]

What an asshole!

[pumpkin]

This is NOT BEC territory, this is straight up rude behavior

[MixedBerryJam]

Sept 20, 2015 13:28:24 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:25:59 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Dude.

You don't have a friend problem.

YOU HAVE A SUESUE PROBLEM.

do, though, note that it was not me who invited her and not me who cancelled the pizza; I was not the host. Last time she tried to pull this on me as host, I was able to beat her back, but it took some effort. 

You need to take the reigns (reins? I can never remember) and model this behavior for your friends when she pulls this shit even if you're not the host. You will be doing your friends and everyone in B's life a huge favor.

[Balki.Bartokomous]

The fact that she'd choose tomato bisque over pizza is enough to make me dislike her, and then the rest? So, so rude. If she is invited next time, I'd opt out and tell everyone else why.

What did A and C think of these shenanigans?

[Balki.Bartokomous]

I just saw that this is the same woman who has been pulling this kind of crap for what, over a year or two now? Why have you all not shunned her yet? Stand firm, my friend. Life is too short to put up with shit like this. YOLO.

[10nille]

I would never refer to that woman as a friend. Poor A she needs a spine unless she loves soup over pizza and in which case I'd rethink our friendship, lol.

Hope you scare the shit out of her at the Halloween party. B is out of control.

[cville]

Sept 20, 2015 13:29:36 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Sept 20, 2015 13:28:59 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Hold your ground, lady.

I'm hosting the Halloween party this year, and fuck her. 

If you lock her in a closet and she screams, it will just be atmospheric!

[dexteroni]

omg. I would have been a raging bitch by the end of that night, both from hunger and annoyance. But IMO this is not a Sue Sue problem, it's an A problem. If you invite a guest who is well established as a crazy control freak, it's your duty as the host to protect the other guests from their behavior as much as possible. To say that A failed to do that is an understatement. I mean, you don't change the menu while the other guests are on their way over. You just don't.

Now, if you don't think A has learned her lesson and will continue to fail to shut B down when the next GTG rolls around, and you still attend, then yes, you will have waived your right to complain. Do still come tell us the tale, though, at least for entertainment value. lol.

ETA: And you *definitely* don't go from "I'm providing the main course" to "you're cooking the main course." The more I think about this, the more annoyed I am with A. And you said A is not happy? A has no grounds to be unhappy with anyone but herself for allowing this to take place in her own home.

[dexteroni]

Sept 20, 2015 13:28:24 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Last time she tried to pull this on me as host, I was able to beat her back, but it took some effort. 

Walk me through what went down that time. BEC: "Let's change the menu." You: "No." Then what happened? Because I can't fathom continuing to pressure a host to change her own menu after she's already said no.

[Deleted]

This woman would have been exiled from the friend circle a long time ago. I am still interested in what possible redeeming characteristics she should have.

[dexteroni]

I wish A had said "You're welcome to make it if you like, but we're still ordering pizza." And then the rest of you enjoyed pizza and each other's company while A cooked. Preferably in another room.