Have you stolen someone's thunder?

[Deleted]

Aug 22, 2012 11:38:48 GMT -5 shortstax said:

My mother is a big thunder-stealer. So much, that I wait to tell her I was pregnant with my 1st until 17 weeks soley because a family member was getting married at 16wks, and I didn't want my mom to try and upstage the wedding with news of her first grandchild.

She was then disappointed that she couldn't do a big "reveal" at the wedding reception. NO JOKE.

Haha! This for me too! I totally forgot. After the wedding incident, we didn't tell my mom I was pg until after my uncle's wedding so she wouldn't steal their thunder w/ news of her first grandchild. She was pissed but I was like "uh, you suck at secrets and would have just told everyone not to tell me you told them. Suck it up, you did this to yourself".

[cjeanette]

I had a co-worker who got engaged before me but had her wedding after mine. She told other co-workers that she felt my wedding stole the attention from hers at the office and that I got better gifts at my work shower.

She threw my work shower.

[dr.girlfriend]

I don't consider it thunder-stealing, but my sister got engaged a year after I did but married a scant two months after me. I can understand her not waiting until the next year, though, we were both older. For our less-immediate family, though, I can imagine it was like, "These guys again?!?"

[chickadee77]

My SIL is a constant aw - living near her, she would drum up some drama every time my dh and I had a life event. It was legit, but also direct results of her actions. Too much to go into here. Sigh.

My brother got married on my birthday, and in what was probably supposed to be a nice gesture, made the announcement that there would be no bouquet toss, and would I please come to the head table since it's my b-day and accept the bouquet because I'm the next one to get married, anyhow? To which I thought, "huh?" since I wasn't even in a serious relationship, and other ladies had already been lining up for what they thought was supposed to be the bouquet toss (in which I didn't plan to participate). Awkward.

There was other family drama, too, but I did my best to keep it away from the wedding... Stemming from my mom dying and her sisters wanting to claim possessions after the wedding that were neither theirs nor given to them (like photomalbums of us as kids and my mom's wedding dress).

[electricmayhem]

DH's younger sister told me that his older sister was livid that we got engaged 2 months after she did, because we stole her thunder.

She's that way about everything though.

[jewel]

I don't think so, but my former friend may disagree....

I got engaged while my best friend was engaged. It was about 4 months before her wedding and I was her maid of honor. When I told her that my boyfriend proposed, she said that she hoped I didn't stop helping with her wedding in order to concentrate on planning my own. Thanks.

[RitzyHeifer]

One of my cousins and I got engaged within a few months (well, actually like 5 or 6 months) of each other. Originally H & I were planning a May wedding and when she got engaged she wanted her wedding that same May - she had a big public fit about me taking her wedding date.

H & I had already decided but not told any one we were moving ours back a few months to a fall wedding, after the big fit we really kept mum until invitations went out. She & her fiance had a courthouse wedding right before ours and announced they were married at our reception (then had pretty princess day in May).

Meh, whatever.

[RitzyHeifer]

Another one I though of - not me personally, someone I know - getting married. Bride's sister's H decides he wants to divorce but it's right as wedding is approaching and he is also in wedding party. He decides to not say anything until after the wedding in an attempt to not steal thunder/spoil anything and leaves sister a few months after the wedding.

Bride & groom flip their shit and have him photoshopped out of all the wedding photos, etc. and go on a tear about how he ruined their "newlywed year" with his antics. I was like, well, he tried --- ?

[takeonyou]

Oh wait, I kinda did thunder steal, but not intentionally.

My cousin's wedding was on Independence Day, I got engaged on Memorial Day. She knew and was excited, but I made it point not to tell our large extended family. At her wedding one of my aunts noticed the ring and went crazy making sure everyone knew. I had a small ring of women around me for about 15 minutes. I felt bad but she didn't care or seem to notice. Plus she loved helping with my wedding.

But she got me back anyway, lol. When I got pg with my first kiddo, I told only her the day I found out. She called 3 weeks later and told me she was too. Our kids are only 5 weeks apart. I loved being pregnant at the same time as her though. She is one of my best friends.

[Mrs.Syntax]

I erred on the side of caution - I got pg, and right around the 9 week mark I hosted a friend's baby shower at our house. I was planning on not telling anyone until later, but I got big so fast that I was obviously showing by that time. I ended up telling my friends either the day before, or the morning of the shower (before it started) so that there wouldn't have to be a big announcement during the party. The guest of honor proceeded to announce it to all the other guests (the ones I didn't know well) as they walked in the door, so I'm guessing she wouldn't have minded the news coming out during the shower, so whatever.

[lemondrop]

Aug 22, 2012 12:19:01 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Aug 22, 2012 10:30:37 GMT -5 takeonyou said:

I saw a proposal at a wedding. It was all okay-ed by the bride and groom though.

They worked it into the garter and bouquet throw. The ring was tied to her garter so when he put it on his gf's leg, he was already on his knee and had the ring. The DJ played their song and the guy asked her. As soon as she said yes, the lights on the floor changed to "Congrats to Jill and Johnny on their engagement!" It was cute!

That sounds super thunder stealing-ish to me. And I'm not normally sensitive to those things.

Yeah, I will always wonder if the B&G really approved. My BFF's sister got engaged at her gift opening the morning after the wedding. Her sisters BF asked if it was OK. BFF didn't like it at all, but she didn't have the guts to say so. She was really upset that some of her thunder was stolen.

[Deleted]

Sort of, but with permission. My DH was pretty old fashioned and wanted to ask my mom and dad (divorced, different states, don't like each other) in-person for permission to propose before asking me. The only time this was conveniently happening was at my brother's wedding. He cleared it with my brother, and did it the morning after the actual wedding (in the hotel room because I botched the plans); we then went to the morning-after breakfast to announce it to everyone.

My mother is the biggest thunder-stealer possible (including drama at my brother's wedding), which is why we no longer speak and I'm perfectly fine she lives 14hrs away and has never met my son. I deliberately try to not take after her in this aspect.

[jennistarr1]

My friends and I used to tease each other like "you're not drinking, you must be pregnant"...so one girl wasn't drinking, I sipped her drink and told everyone "she's pregnant, she's drinking sprite". Turns out, I was right, and they were furious. I am given sincere apologies and tried to explain that I was just teasing her as girls in our group so often do with each other (like if someone is DD, not feeling well, or when I was on an antibiotic for 4 months)...but to this day noone trusts me (coincidentally, I was with my grandmother the next day in a sonogram clinic and this couple comes in. I tried to avoid seeing them and when the saw me, I talked about everything I could to avoid the "oh, you're getting a sonogram moment". I never told anyone I saw them there, not even my husband. I don't get credit for that)

[takeonyou]

Aug 22, 2012 12:50:59 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

My friends and I used to tease each other like "you're not drinking, you must be pregnant"...so one girl wasn't drinking, I sipped her drink and told everyone "she's pregnant, she's drinking sprite". Turns out, I was right, and they were furious. I am given sincere apologies and tried to explain that I was just teasing her as girls in our group so often do with each other (like if someone is DD, not feeling well, or when I was on an antibiotic for 4 months)...but to this day noone trusts me (coincidentally, I was with my grandmother the next day in a sonogram clinic and this couple comes in. I tried to avoid seeing them and when the saw me, I talked about everything I could to avoid the "oh, you're getting a sonogram moment". I never told anyone I saw them there, not even my husband. I don't get credit for that)

Your friend doesn't trust you because a joke turned put to be true? What a maniac.

[explorer2001]

Meh. I haven't had much thunder in my life, or I've just gotten used to it being stolen, so just don't put that much stock into this stuff. There's such a long list, but the latest was going to visit family across the country to see my grandpa in the nursing home, etc. I had missed a big family party the month before due to a final, my brother made the party. The weekend before I flew out he called and told my aunt that he was staying the same weekend I was and bringing a girl he just started dating. Yeah that's my brother. I make a special cross country trip, he shows up in the middle if it, and only says maybe 10 words to me the whole time. He said he really wanted to see me. My cousins actually commented that he should have known better. Sigh, that's the way my family rolls.

[dochas]

I had a friend who got engaged after graduating college and they set a date and booked things right away. Her older sister was not married but had been living with her boyfriend for years and years and they had 2 or 3 children together. They got engaged and set the date for 1 month before the sister's date and booked the same church, hall and band.

[catsarecute]

Hmmm. My husband proposed to me 3 months after his brother proposed to his girlfriend. I wonder if they thought we stole their thunder.

That was almost 6 years ago and they still aren't married so probably not.

[vanillacourage]

DH's sister got engaged and then we got engaged 3 weeks later. We got married 5 months after that (in May), they got married in November.

It wasn't intentional and we weren't willing to either a.) wait however long to get engaged or b.) wait however long to get married (my lease was up on my apartment and we had already bought a house together and I wanted us to be married before I moved in). The two couples' timelines just squashed right into each other.

[bunch]

Proptart, out of curiosity, did you know your sils due date when you set your wedding date? I think I really would be ticked on that one if there isn't a lot more to the story.

Most of the rest of these, including engagements at weddings, wouldn't phase me.

[Deleted]

My good friend (let's call her Al) has another good friend (we'll call her D for douchebag) that I've tried to like, but I just can't because she's the biggest attention whore I know. I was the MOH at Al's wedding and D was a BM.

Al doesn't really have any family so the whole bridal party went to help her find a wedding dress. D invited her own mom and proceeded to spend the whole time picking out bridesmaid dresses and demanding that everyone direct their attention to her. Every time Al would try something on and come out to show everyone, D would be putting a dress on and scurrying out to show everyone. We kept telling her we didn't like the BM dresses she was picking and that we would all do it later, and her mom would get all huffy and tell us that D has great fashion sense and we should choose whatever she picks.

It was bizarre, but Al is kind of spineless and D pulled this stuff through the whole wedding planning. At the bridal shower D made a grand entrance into the room halfway through the party, where she proceeded to make her way around the room and tell them that she is Al's best friend and would have totally been chosen as MOH, but she couldn't fit MOH duties in her schedule. This shit carried on all the way through the b-party and wedding.

At the wedding I gave a speech as MOH, and she took the microphone and did an unplanned speech to reiterate her point that she and Al are "best, best, I mean BEST friends."

Al told me afterwards that she tried to take over their photo shoot too, insisting that the photographer take all kinds of pictures of Al and D together.

ETA: I don't guess a lot of this is too thunder-stealy, probably more AWish that anything. Al felt like it was thunder stealing though.

[fbf2006]

Aug 22, 2012 12:46:24 GMT -5 lemondrop said:

Aug 22, 2012 12:19:01 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

That sounds super thunder stealing-ish to me. And I'm not normally sensitive to those things.

Yeah, I will always wonder if the B&G really approved. My BFF's sister got engaged at her gift opening the morning after the wedding. Her sisters BF asked if it was OK. BFF didn't like it at all, but she didn't have the guts to say so. She was really upset that some of her thunder was stolen.

Was her thunder really stolen though? Her wedding was over. I personally don't get most of these stories.

[orangello]

Jesus. What I've learned from this thread - people can be incredibly huge douchebags (I'm not referring to anyone who's posted here...at least, yet :-) )

[ondaflipside]

Aug 22, 2012 13:12:48 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

My good friend (let's call her Al) has another good friend (we'll call her D for douchebag) that I've tried to like, but I just can't because she's the biggest attention whore I know. I was the MOH at Al's wedding and D was a BM.

Al doesn't really have any family so the whole bridal party went to help her find a wedding dress. D invited her own mom and proceeded to spend the whole time picking out bridesmaid dresses and demanding that everyone direct their attention to her. Every time Al would try something on and come out to show everyone, D would be putting a dress on and scurrying out to show everyone. We kept telling her we didn't like the BM dresses she was picking and that we would all do it later, and her mom would get all huffy and tell us that D has great fashion sense and we should choose whatever she picks.

It was bizarre, but Al is kind of spineless and D pulled this stuff through the whole wedding planning. At the bridal shower D made a grand entrance into the room halfway through the party, where she proceeded to make her way around the room and tell them that she is Al's best friend and would have totally been chosen as MOH, but she couldn't fit MOH duties in her schedule. This shit carried on all the way through the b-party and wedding.

At the wedding I gave a speech as MOH, and she took the microphone and did an unplanned speech to reiterate her point that she and Al are "best, best, I mean BEST friends."

Al told me afterwards that she tried to take over their photo shoot too, insisting that the photographer take all kinds of pictures of Al and D together.

ETA: I don't guess a lot of this is too thunder-stealy, probably more AWish that anything. Al felt like it was thunder stealing though.

Most of these other posts are meh to me. But this takes the cake. What a d-ho-bag.

[Kore]

I think being the youngest child has made me immune to thunder stealing. Everybody in my family got married/had major life events before me, so none of that phases me. Some of these stories are nuts. Why are people such cunts?

[glitzy07]

I can't think of anything in my own life, but I know that one of my best friends was slightly miffed when her best friend got engaged within 4 days of her.

She got married 4 months later and announced just before my friend's wedding that she was pregnant. She skipped one bridal shower and showed up for another and talked only about her pregnancy and how wonderful her wedding was. That bugged my friend more than anything.

[jennistarr1]

When my sister was getting married, she invited 2 aunts to go with her to the bridal salon 2 choose between 2 dresses. Cousin invites herself along (not the daughter of either of the aunts). She disappears with one of the aunts and sure enough, comes out modeling bridal gowns. My mom, other aunt, and I do our best to try and keep the focus on my sister, who was having a really tough time deciding. My sister didn't appear upset at all but as it kept going on dress after dress, I lost my shit (and feel like losing it now as I type). I did take the camera and take a TON of pictures of cousin's backfat and looking at them makes me feel better.

[Deleted]

Well my bro & sis announced their pregnancy (the day after the positive hpt!) at a party my Mom threw for my family (for her friends to meet my girls) this summer. I didn't really care though. Now I am worried SIL will think we are trying because I finally am pregnant with #4 & due 2 mo after her. I don't plan on telling any of my family (except my little Sis) until after 20wks--I'm tempted to wait until 7mo (after SIL has hers) so I'm not stealing any thunder. I won't see them so it's not hard to hide. My other BIL is getting married in 2 mo so hoping to hide until after that too--which will be trickier since I swear my stomach is already bigger & I see that side of the family much more frequently.

[cherry1111]

I didn't really consider this thunder stealing, but apparently my BIL thought it should be and was proud of it. My husband and I were engaged May '06 and the date was set for the end of May '07. BIL and SIL announce their pregnancy in October '06, due date at the beginning of July. In the same breath as "Hey, we're having a baby in the beginning of July." was the phrase, "Guess we just trumped your wedding." WTF? Because a wedding and a baby over a month apart from each other can't be two separate happy events?

[OscarQ]

I guess I have. I got engaged the morning of a friend's baby shower. I kept it quiet at the shower until the end and then told her. She seemed thrilled and announced it to the folks who were left.

A couple weeks ago I went to my cousin's baby shower and my aunt outed me as pregnant. It wasn't a secret but I certainly didn't want it to be a topic of conversation. My cousin is the most laid back person in the world so I'm sure she gave two shits.

Years ago there was a girl in my circle who was a total nut. I hated her. She nagged her boyfriend to get engaged and he finally proposed on the eve of another friend's wedding. He actually told my H he proposed because he didn't want to go through attending another wedding with her nagging him to get engaged. She shoved her ring in the B&G's face as they left the church and then proceeded to plan her wedding while at their reception. I was so glad when they moved to the middle of nowhere and disappeared from that social circle.

[starryfish]

Aug 22, 2012 13:47:22 GMT -5 @coffeecream said:

Aug 22, 2012 13:10:38 GMT -5 bunch said:

Proptart, out of curiosity, did you know your sils due date when you set your wedding date? I think I really would be ticked on that one if there isn't a lot more to the story.

Most of the rest of these, including engagements at weddings, wouldn't phase me.

Do you have your posters confused? I thought it was AmeliaPond who did this...got married within weeks of her SILs due date (she popped out the baby 3 days later)

I was wondering this too? It seems that her due date was set before your wedding date...I agree with bnchanums, I think I'd be really ticked too.