I took my newborn baby to a baby shower. According to the bump, this is a big no-no. According to my friend whose shower it was, she was elated I could make it.
I know someone that announced her pregnancy to her entire family the same time that her mom got engaged. I think this was intentional bc she originally said she was telling only parents and siblings- she was only 4 weeks along.
Then she announced her pregnancy to everyone right before her mom's wedding.
Not sure if all of it was intentional but everyone def. thought she was trying to steal her mom's thunder.
Do you have your posters confused? I thought it was AmeliaPond who did this...got married within weeks of her SILs due date (she popped out the baby 3 days later)
I was wondering this too? It seems that her due date was set before your wedding date...I agree with bnchanums, I think I'd be really ticked too.
We are planning to start TTC a couple months before BIL's wedding next summer. It has actually occurred to me that this is a potential thunder-stealing situation.
nope, but I'm sure my dad's FI will feel that way.
they got engaged like five years ago with the plan to immediately get married. for various reasons (he's broke, she's unstable, etc.) it has not happened yet. when her daughter got engaged and married during this time frame, Dad's FI pouted and said how it was she who should be getting married. when I moved in with SO, she pouted and said she should be the one living in downtown Chicago. everyone just gets everything she deserves!
I honestly wouldn't be surprised if SO and I got married before them, and I don't want to seriously think about a wedding until I'm done with grad school and am gainfully employed.
Post by jennipea382 on Aug 22, 2012 18:19:39 GMT -5
FI and I got engaged 2 days before our friends' wedding. It definitely wasn't on purpose (he doesn't think ahead very often..). B&G were totally cool with the congrats we got at their wedding. I definitely didn't try to steal any thunder and they didn't see it that way, but some people may have seen it that way. Oh well!
Yeah, I will always wonder if the B&G really approved. My BFF's sister got engaged at her gift opening the morning after the wedding. Her sisters BF asked if it was OK. BFF didn't like it at all, but she didn't have the guts to say so. She was really upset that some of her thunder was stolen.
Was her thunder really stolen though? Her wedding was over. I personally don't get most of these stories.
It was still her wedding weekend. If BFF had done that to her sister, sister would have pitched a fit. Also, BFF has always played third fiddle to her sisters, so having a weekend of her own was important.
Post by GailGoldie on Aug 22, 2012 18:28:31 GMT -5
not on purpose... but i always felt kind of bad to take some thunder away from a friend at church who announced she was pg... and soon after we announced we were pg with twins. kind of a one-upper... obviously not something done on purpose, but i felt like we got more attention from people about our pregnancy/babies b/c they are twins.
Yes, I did. We were all at a coworker's baby shower, and someone asked why I wasn't drinking a Coke (my usual), so I told them I was pregnant with the twins. So that was pretty much all anyone talked about. I did try to steer the conversation towards the guest of honor, though. (and she was very gracious, she talked about it as much as anyone. It was also not her first child, maybe that had something to do with it.)
There was a thunder stealing clusterfuck the year of my wedding.
Cousin got engaged around Thanksgiving. Set a date for Labor Day weekend 2 years later (2010).
I got engaged January 2009. Knew my cousin's wedding was the following September and wanted a late summer/fall wedding because I wanted it outdoors and the weather in spring/summer is unpredictable at best in the midwest. Found a venue with an open date for Labor day weekend 2009, a full year before my cousin's wedding.
Right after I put down my deposit for the venue, cousin announces they moved their wedding up a year and it is the night before mine. In another state.
She accused me of stealing her special weekend (Labor Day), I accused her of scheduling her wedding the day before mine (because she did....). She was getting married at her in-laws' house so it wasn't like they had a venue issue and HAD TO have it that day.
In the end she moved her wedding up a week, so it wasn't AS inconvenient as it would have been if it was the day before and our families were able to attend both weddings. I didn't go to hers and she didn't go to mine, though.
I didn't care about my "thunder" being stolen as much as I cared that that was a dick move on her part and she accepted no responsibility for it and tried to make me sound like the jerk for stealing her date (nevermind it was a different year). It was really selfish of her to think it was ok for our grandparents and mutual family to have to either choose between us or attend 2 weddings in 1 weekend!
Close college friend got engaged in August 2011. She and FI visited in November 2011. She asked me to be a bridesmaid in heir October 2012 wedding. I said I'd love to, but we were TTC sometime after Christmas; would she mind if I were KU'd? She was fine with it. Fast forward, and I'm due 5 weeks after the wedding. I'm still planning on being in the wedding, bought tickets to fly to Colorado for the wedding, made hotel recommendations and everything.
I really didn't think we'd get pregnant the 1st month trying. Now I hope I don't distract attention from the wedding, not that the bride will care. She's super chill.
Will I be a thunder-stealing whale in a bridesmaid dress?
Close college friend got engaged in August 2011. She and FI visited in November 2011. She asked me to be a bridesmaid in heir October 2012 wedding. I said I'd love to, but we were TTC sometime after Christmas; would she mind if I were KU'd? She was fine with it. Fast forward, and I'm due 5 weeks after the wedding. I'm still planning on being in the wedding, bought tickets to fly to Colorado for the wedding, made hotel recommendations and everything.
I really didn't think we'd get pregnant the 1st month trying. Now I hope I don't distract attention from the wedding, not that the bride will care. She's super chill.
Will I be a thunder-stealing whale in a bridesmaid dress?
You're cool. You can't plan your pregnancy around someone else's wedding.
No, so long as your water doesn't break during the ceremony.
Bwahahahahaha, yes, at that point I will own bein a thunder-stealer. And stealing all the tablecloths to protect the rental car while we race back down to Denver.
Close college friend got engaged in August 2011. She and FI visited in November 2011. She asked me to be a bridesmaid in heir October 2012 wedding. I said I'd love to, but we were TTC sometime after Christmas; would she mind if I were KU'd? She was fine with it. Fast forward, and I'm due 5 weeks after the wedding. I'm still planning on being in the wedding, bought tickets to fly to Colorado for the wedding, made hotel recommendations and everything.
I really didn't think we'd get pregnant the 1st month trying. Now I hope I don't distract attention from the wedding, not that the bride will care. She's super chill.
Will I be a thunder-stealing whale in a bridesmaid dress?
Are you ok to fly at 35 weeks pregnant?
Time will tell. My dr and I talk about It at every appointment. As long as my blood pressure stays okay, she's fine with it an will even give me a letter for the airlines. We bought trip insurance in case something comes up.
The options were a direct 1 hour flight or a 12 hour drive. No way I'm driving (or running the risk of delivering this baby in Metetse, Wyoming). So hopefully I can make it. The bride has more bridesmaids than groomsmen, so if I don't make it things balance out. If I do, wonderful!
Time will tell. My dr and I talk about It at every appointment. As long as my blood pressure stays okay, she's fine with it an will even give me a letter for the airlines. We bought trip insurance in case something comes up.
The options were a direct 1 hour flight or a 12 hour drive. No way I'm driving (or running the risk of delivering this baby in Metetse, Wyoming). So hopefully I can make it. The bride has more bridesmaids than groomsmen, so if I don't make it things balance out. If I do, wonderful!
Awesome! That's good planning to talk to your doctor about it now.
My brother just got married in June, and my sister was about 37ish weeks pregnant, so she couldn't come (she lives in SF and we're in Ontario). She ended up giving birth about 10 days later! (Not a thunder-stealing episode - my brother picked a date before she was ready to tell people about the baby, due to some earlier losses.)
Aw that's hard. DH is supposed to be his brother's best man in Seattle on October 21. I'm due November 4, and obviously won't be going. H has my permission, though everyone knows we're playing it by ear. They sat the wedding date the weekend we actualy got pregnant, so there was no avoiding things. No hard feelings. I'm bummed to miss it though; it's going to be a swanky Four Seasons affair!
Post by nonsenseabound on Aug 22, 2012 21:30:41 GMT -5
We had our wedding date the same day as SIL's due date. But We had been planning a wedding for 2.5 years (long engagement due to being in college). She got pg during the time and after we had set our wedding day. Made me lol when she told me her due date, but it took them a year to get pg, so I was happy for them. On the upside, she had the baby 9 days before the wedding. Healthy baby girl.
I intentionally tried to avoid stealing thunder once, my friend from law school was coming in for a visit after she got engaged. I was 12 weeks along and hadn't told my law school friends yet. My friend accidentally outed me when I wasn't drinking and I kinda stammered. She was okay with it since she outed me!
Post by fussybreeches on Aug 22, 2012 22:32:21 GMT -5
My best friend was proposed to at my bachelorette party. Another friend knew it was coming and kept saying she was sorry and tried to stop him from doing it then. I really didn't care, thought it was funny bc it put my friend on the stop and she really didn't want to marry him. I got some great pics of the look of horror from my friend as the whole thing went down.
My good friend (let's call her Al) has another good friend (we'll call her D for douchebag) that I've tried to like, but I just can't because she's the biggest attention whore I know. I was the MOH at Al's wedding and D was a BM.
Al doesn't really have any family so the whole bridal party went to help her find a wedding dress. D invited her own mom and proceeded to spend the whole time picking out bridesmaid dresses and demanding that everyone direct their attention to her. Every time Al would try something on and come out to show everyone, D would be putting a dress on and scurrying out to show everyone. We kept telling her we didn't like the BM dresses she was picking and that we would all do it later, and her mom would get all huffy and tell us that D has great fashion sense and we should choose whatever she picks.
It was bizarre, but Al is kind of spineless and D pulled this stuff through the whole wedding planning. At the bridal shower D made a grand entrance into the room halfway through the party, where she proceeded to make her way around the room and tell them that she is Al's best friend and would have totally been chosen as MOH, but she couldn't fit MOH duties in her schedule. This shit carried on all the way through the b-party and wedding.
At the wedding I gave a speech as MOH, and she took the microphone and did an unplanned speech to reiterate her point that she and Al are "best, best, I mean BEST friends."
Al told me afterwards that she tried to take over their photo shoot too, insisting that the photographer take all kinds of pictures of Al and D together.
ETA: I don't guess a lot of this is too thunder-stealy, probably more AWish that anything. Al felt like it was thunder stealing though.
This chick sounds like the woman in the movie Bridesmaids. What a weirdo!
My now H and I attended a play to see a family friend who was the main character. On our way out of the auditorium said family friend announced we'd just gotten engaged the week before. So instead of people congratulating the actors/actresses, every one congratulated us.
Also our wedding day was the day after my cousin's 5th year anniversary and the day before my BFF's brother's 1st year anniversary. None of the parties involved cared, they were just happy for us.
My DH proposed the day of his best friend's engagement dinner (didn't want a shower so MIL had a small dinner for them to celebrate) I was not consulted on the timing or I would have postponed it. I was actually shocked by his proposal because while I knew it was coming I assumed it wouldn't be that weekend because of the dinner. DH asked if the friend if it was ok but still... The worst part was I was going to keep it quiet but one of DH's other friends was in on it and his girlfriend knew and brought it up.
After their wedding the friend and his now wife stopped hanging out with all of us. I assume over the thunder stealing and to this day feel bad about it.
Close college friend got engaged in August 2011. She and FI visited in November 2011. She asked me to be a bridesmaid in heir October 2012 wedding. I said I'd love to, but we were TTC sometime after Christmas; would she mind if I were KU'd? She was fine with it. Fast forward, and I'm due 5 weeks after the wedding. I'm still planning on being in the wedding, bought tickets to fly to Colorado for the wedding, made hotel recommendations and everything.
I really didn't think we'd get pregnant the 1st month trying. Now I hope I don't distract attention from the wedding, not that the bride will care. She's super chill.
Will I be a thunder-stealing whale in a bridesmaid dress?
I got married on my cousin's 11th wedding anniversary. We also didn't know til after we had made all of the plans. I went to their wedding but of course it was many years before. They didn't care at all. In fact, it was an excuse for a weekend trip to wine country without their kids!
Awesome! That's good planning to talk to your doctor about it now.
My brother just got married in June, and my sister was about 37ish weeks pregnant, so she couldn't come (she lives in SF and we're in Ontario). She ended up giving birth about 10 days later! (Not a thunder-stealing episode - my brother picked a date before she was ready to tell people about the baby, due to some earlier losses.)
Aw that's hard. DH is supposed to be his brother's best man in Seattle on October 21. I'm due November 4, and obviously won't be going. H has my permission, though everyone knows we're playing it by ear. They sat the wedding date the weekend we actualy got pregnant, so there was no avoiding things. No hard feelings. I'm bummed to miss it though; it's going to be a swanky Four Seasons affair!
I once waited on a woman who was still bitching 4 years later about how her H left town 2 weeks before her due date and he missed the kid's birth. I wouldn't risk it - but of course, my DH skipped his gmas funeral since I was 34 weeks pg and I was 2 weeks LATE with DS. You never know.
When a co-worker took it upon herself to announce my pregnancy to some of my clients. These are women I would have liked to share my news with myself, when I was ready to do it.
If you have read any of my recent posts, you know what a sensitive issue this is for me right now. I totally did an ugly pregnant cry in my office after co-worker came bouncing in announcing "so and so are so excited for you!"