I am far more annoying to him than vice versa. In fact, his annoyance at me is perhaps his most annoying quality. Like Sally I have that leaving glasses around thing like in Signs. But that's just the tip of a very annoying iceberg.
A recent argument we got into involved me taking DS all morning because DH said was stressed that he needed to work and get other things done. Instead of working, he cleaned up around the house. I was annoyed with him because I made the effort to solo parent all morning so he could get a break and then he went and did stuff that was not relaxing or working. You all would hate living with me I'm sure.
If you ever need the "male" perspective just ask - I'm full of it.
I chew loudly (?) and I half ass cleaning. This is true, I'm very much a good enough for govt vacuumer.
I also leave cabinets open, and leave piles of receipts and papers around to go through later, but he didn't mention those. Maybe he just ignores those now.
During our last argument it came out that he feels like I'm only satisfied when he's working on projects that I prioritize. Um, yeah? Lol. Sorry buddy, that's probably not going to change.
My speech patterns drive him crazy. I often stop mid-sentence to carefully choose my words, and he takes that as an invitation to interrupt. Then I get pissed. I have tried to close the gap, but my brain just doesn't work that way.
I line up the empty toilet paper rolls along the bathroom counter (above the tp holder) Only in the master bathroom that no guests would use. I throw them out every few weeks or so when the counter runs out of room. I don't know why. DH always asks "why are there so many empty rolls standing in a row?".
Taking out the trash. In fairness, he likes to empty the trash every time it's half full, so I don't think it's a fair argument. Though if it were full, I'd still probably wait for him to do it.
Post by cincodemayo on Sept 23, 2015 9:16:18 GMT -5
Too many things.
I don't put my shoes away. I get out 3 million dishes to make a meal and don't clean them up until after we've eaten. I leave stuff in my car. I keep any and all gift bags or boxes we get in the mail for future gifts, but then forget about it and go buy more anyways.
Last week he told me that I hang our bathroom hand towels the wrong direction. Of all the random shit for him to care about...
HAHAHA
Our first fight was about me hanging his shirts up the wrong way. I don't even know how it is possible that I married such a type A person. He got a taste of what it's like after DS was born and I became type A about everything baby. It was...enlightening.
I'm very annoying, I'm not sure how he puts up with me.
-I leave half drunk diet coke cans all over.
-loose my keys, phone, sunglasses, wallet non-stop
-I overflow the trash can all the time
-I leave hair bands all over
-I leave folded laundry in the basket for days in our room
-I bite my nails
-I put on a tv show & then proceed to play on my phone the entire time it's on -I fall asleep watching YouTube cooking videos every night & I don't cook
I misplace everything all the time--my keys, my phone, various other things I need. I don't for the life of me understand how some people are always able to find their keys. My H, OTOH, never loses anything and always knows where everything is.
Last week he told me that I hang our bathroom hand towels the wrong direction. Of all the random shit for him to care about...
HAHAHA
Our first fight was about me hanging his shirts up the wrong way. I don't even know how it is possible that I married such a type A person. He got a taste of what it's like after DS was born and I became type A about everything baby. It was...enlightening.
The ridiculous part is that he's not type A at all! I TOTALLY am and this is absolutely something that I would get on his case about, so I totally didn't expect it from him! But he also has specific ways that he likes his pants folded ("cheek to cheek") and his shirts hang the opposite direction of mine. I guess I should have assumed this carried over into all hanging things.
Post by jeaniebueller on Sept 23, 2015 9:40:54 GMT -5
I squeeze the tooth paste tube from the middle instead of pushing it up from the bottom. I also rarely put the cap back on the toothpaste I mumble and he can't understand what I am saying (yeah, its me mumbling, not his hearing....riiiight) My hair always clogs up the drains
Post by bluelikejazz on Sept 23, 2015 9:42:15 GMT -5
I refuse to deal with bugs - I make DH get all the bugs/moths/spiders/whatever out of the house. I just stare at them and point until DH kills or shoos them out.
Also, I won't use the plunger when the toilet clogs. I just wait 30 minutes and re-flush. Works like 95% of the time. When it doesn't, I wait another 30 min. DH usually gives ups and plunges for me.
I use two towels for almost all showers. (My hair is wrapped in one for protection on non-washing days.) I always mix them up and put the wet towel on the hook closest to the shower, while I place the dry one of the hook out of reach from the shower. When H showers after me, he grabs for the soggy towel. He continually ask me to please put the dry one next to the shower, but I keep forgetting.
Post by redpenmama on Sept 23, 2015 10:16:44 GMT -5
I'm really bad about bringing things in from my car. I think H pulled like four (empty) travel coffee mugs out over the weekend. My hands are always full with kids and their stuff...that's my excuse, at least.
I don't keep very good track of my credit cards/wallet - like I'm always slipping my Visa into a jeans pocket, and then unable to find it for a few days, or setting my wallet down on the car seat and then not being able to find it in my purse later. H gave me his Target debit card like a week ago, and I'm not really sure where I put it...
I'm terrible about putting away laundry (we both are, but I have more shit) - it will sit in laundry baskets in our bedroom for days or even weeks before it gets done. And laundry is always kind of "my" chore in our family - I don't mind doing the actual laundry, it's the putting away that I hate.
I also don't seal food back up all that well. This drives him crazy, that I'll open a bag of something, take my portion into the living room, and then leave the cracker box or chip bag open on the counter all afternoon. Whatever - it drives me crazy that he takes the whole bag or package to his office, eats from it until there are, like, two chips left, and then puts it back in the pantry so he doesn't feel guilty for "eating it all". I'm not sure which of our offenses is worse here, but I'm leaning toward his
Hmm, where to start... Off the top of my head- 1. I rub my feet together and it drives him crazy especially when I have my feet near his leg and he swears I am rubbing a bald spot in hi leg hair. I'm totally not, he's just sensitive. 2. I leave my phone in the car, leave it on silent, or put it somewhere that I can't hear it and then I won't respond to calls or texts for hours because I don't know about it. I often get, "Why did we even buy you a phone?" Meh. 3. I will often start talking to him or ask him to do something during the last five minutes of a tv show or movie he's watching. I'm rarely paying attention to the tv so I don't realize what point he is in the show so I just talk/ask away. I have started asking how long his show has left, if I remember.
My speech patterns drive him crazy. I often stop mid-sentence to carefully choose my words, and he takes that as an invitation to interrupt. Then I get pissed. I have tried to close the gap, but my brain just doesn't work that way.
This is one of the things my husband and I argue about the most.
He gets really annoyed that I don't respond to most of his texts. I usually read them right when I get them. if I'm driving or running around I don't stop to respond and then I forget he texted. In my defense he just texts random anecdotes throughout the day. Not important things.
LOL this is me. I'll text him and get pissed when he doesn't respond immediately. Probably because he's, you know, WORKING. But my one-sided texts usually read like this:
8:06 - Me: Hey, did you take out anything for dinner? 8:07 - Me: Take out ground beef if you're still home. 8:10 - Me: Ugh, I hate low carb. 8:17 - Me: OMG did you see this picture of a seal riding on a whale's back?!?? 8:43 - Me: DH? 9:18 - Me: STOP IGNORING ME!!!!!
i do this too
you'd think i would have learned by now to just stfu and stop texting but i have a lot of random thoughts to share lol
i am positive he would say this is my annoying trait too.
He would be stupidly irritated by the fact that I care about all of HIS stupidly irritating habits so much.
ETA: I thought of a few:
-Play on my phone while we are watching TV
-Talk VERY LOUDLY to my mom on the phone about everything
-Clean up/organize DD's toys while she is playing. Although I argue that I do it after she is done what that particular item. Like I scramble around going "OMG! I can only find 11/12 of the Squeek Eggs! WTF. And have you seen the LP Goat? He's been missing for days" and he is just like "How do you even know how many eggs there are?? Sit down & watch TV with me"
-Get angry when he leaves the table before others are done (LOL that is probably a backwards way of complaining about him isn't it?)
-Text him repeatedly while also emailing him and then losing my shit when he doesn't respond immediately