What stupidly irritating thing would your DH say YOU do?
DH would say that I leave the little stickers from fruit on the edge of the sink instead of throwing them out. I don't want to touch the dirty trash can to throw out a tiny sticker. Drives DH nuts.
I got in the habit of putting the bathroom trash cans on top of the toilet to keep out of reach of wandering toddlers and he hates it. He wants them on the floor (which I admit is more normal) but it's easier for me to put stuff in them (like hair out of my hair brush) if they up high and it's easier to clean the floors with them out of the way. Fwiw, we don't put anything "dirty" in them.
Nag lol. He says I nag and I say I gently remind him to do things if they aren't getting done. I'm working on it.
The other night DH literally said, "Please don't worry about the dishes. I'll do them. Go relax."
Next morning - sink full of dishes.
DH was sleeping and I caressed his forehead then leaned over and whispered, "This. This is why I nag. This is why I'll nag forever." Then I kissed his cheek... softly and threateningly.
Oh man. My H would do this. Or he would pile them in the sink, splash some water over them and genuinely think that counted as "doing" them. It's also why I nag and don't feel bad about it at all 90% of the time.
When I shower my hair falls out and I stick it to the shower wall so that it won't go down the drain and clog it. Maybe once a week I forget to wipe it off after the shower so then DH is faced with a giant hairball the next morning.
He gets really annoyed that I don't respond to most of his texts. I usually read them right when I get them. if I'm driving or running around I don't stop to respond and then I forget he texted. In my defense he just texts random anecdotes throughout the day. Not important things.
I'm sure I have lots of them. I'm pretty picky about the house being clean or at least picked up, but I will leave shit ALL OVER my car, and my H gets all eyerolly and calls me a hypocrite (true) when he goes to sit in the passenger seat and it's covered in crap.
I hate dealing with bugs in the house. Sometimes I trap them under a cup or something and just leave it for H to kill/remove.
I take the tags off new clothes pretty much immediately after getting them in the house. DH is a returner (I would say "over-returner") so I know this really bugs him.
I know he would say (and actually has said) that I am on a strict shower schedule in the evening. I will admit that this is sort of true - I start sneaking looks at the clock around 7:00.
I'm horrible about cleaning my hair off the bathroom floor regularly. It falls out everywhere and I really do try and do a sweep, but not enough for him.
Post by SallySparrow on Sept 23, 2015 7:43:04 GMT -5
I leave half full water glasses around. I'm basically the girl from Signs. Except I just forget that I already have a glass of water and get a new one.
DH believes that eating should be silent, so if I make any noise at all, I can feel him get irritated. I get the "aren't you finished eating that yet?!" from time to time. Whatever, I savor my food!
During our last argument it came out that he feels like I'm only satisfied when he's working on projects that I prioritize. Um, yeah? Lol. Sorry buddy, that's probably not going to change.
He gets really annoyed that I don't respond to most of his texts. I usually read them right when I get them. if I'm driving or running around I don't stop to respond and then I forget he texted. In my defense he just texts random anecdotes throughout the day. Not important things.
LOL this is me. I'll text him and get pissed when he doesn't respond immediately. Probably because he's, you know, WORKING. But my one-sided texts usually read like this:
8:06 - Me: Hey, did you take out anything for dinner? 8:07 - Me: Take out ground beef if you're still home. 8:10 - Me: Ugh, I hate low carb. 8:17 - Me: OMG did you see this picture of a seal riding on a whale's back?!?? 8:43 - Me: DH? 9:18 - Me: STOP IGNORING ME!!!!!
You are my people! Except H and I work for the same company, different campuses. We have interoffice instant messenger. I know when he gets to work and when he's away from his desk. (Creepier than it sounds, I don't stalk him during the day) Our Lync messages look like that.
I'm super nosy about everything - especially in the neighborhood. So when I don't know what's going on, I can speculate about things for approximately forever. Drives him batty.
Along the same lines - I overthink things, and can just talk and talk about an issue/a plan/etc.
I'm definitely the easier one to live with tidy-ness wise, so I think I'm more of analytical annoy-er.
I leave glasses all over the house. Or half empty cans of Coke. Sometimes with gum on the rim because I couldn't be bothered to find a trash can. I'm embarrassed OK? I'm getting better...
J/K. LOL for days. I'm a 'piler'. Pile of papers aside the computer. Pile of clothes on a chair in our bedroom. Pile of books in every room. I'm also guilty of leaving dishes aside of the sink instead of putting them in the dishwasher. And leaving hair in the sink (but, we have a double sink in our master, so it's really just 'my' sink)
I have a coffee cup in my hand pretty everywhere I go all morning. H is like why....just why.....
Our leather couch is often sticky from the kids and I forget to wipe it. Drives him insane. But sometimes I leave it for spite...I mean...he can do it too.
He doesn't understand why when I amazon stuff it comes in like 4 different packages on 2 different days. Or pretty much why any online shopping does this. He gets annoyed there's the UPS man then the Fedex guy and maybe something in the mail too all on the same day. Not my fault dude! I don't even internet shop to the extreme. It was probably toilet paper in one box, dishsoap in another and a book for the kids in the 3rd. Real exciting.
I am absolutely the weak link of our relationship. Just off the top of my head I know my pile of clothes on top of my jewelry box, putting empty Amazon boxes on top of the trash can, and unwillingness to do the dishes 4 seconds after dinner is over all drive him crazy.
DH believes that eating should be silent, so if I make any noise at all, I can feel him get irritated. I get the "aren't you finished eating that yet?!" from time to time. Whatever, I savor my food!
During our last argument it came out that he feels like I'm only satisfied when he's working on projects that I prioritize. Um, yeah? Lol. Sorry buddy, that's probably not going to change.
H said to me not long ago "You get annoyed when I work too much for hours or help someone else out and it takes too long, but I could do things for you all day long and be just as busy and you're fine."
I'm super nosy about everything - especially in the neighborhood. So when I don't know what's going on, I can speculate about things for approximately forever. Drives him batty.
Along the same lines - I overthink things, and can just talk and talk about an issue/a plan/etc.
I'm definitely the easier one to live with tidy-ness wise, so I think I'm more of analytical annoy-er.
This is me too. H is more quiet by nature. He only wants to discuss if there's something to discuss. He's not much of a conversationalist. I love to talk about everything all the time. I may not even care that much but I want to talk about it. I also love to plan for the plan and the backup plan just for something to discuss.
This thread is starting to be hard on my self-esteem...lol.
Post by Willis Jackson on Sept 23, 2015 8:35:31 GMT -5
I asked him last night when he was half asleep. He said I put the whisk in the silverware basket of the dishwasher but it's too tall and runs into the top rack.
Probably everything right now. The biggest one is my consistent inability to judge how much can get done (or not) in a set amount of time. Granted, the kids throw a huge wrench in tackling the to-do list, but he maintains that my to-do lists are always too ambitious. Nonetheless, many of my "to do" items are things like doing my own work, cooking, and getting in some socializing (both for us and for the kids) so it's not like I'm proposing some really-out-there "make our own Shaker-inspired furniture" project!
I'm the more annoying one in the relationship, I'm sure of it.
100% this. DH is a saint. The rest of you all would hate living with me. Lucky for me, he's super laid back.
So many stories, so little time ;-)
But seriously, I'm definitely the annoying one. I think I'm like the man in our relationship sometimes because he's the one who knows where everything is (Seabands for nausea? Yup, DH knows. Passport for DMV license renewal? Yeah, DH knows again!) and I'm like the clueless husband y'all complain about!